First time pregnant & terrified of Labor

rubbyland012 · March 2013

I know being pregnant is a joyous time but when I think about giving birth it terrifies me. It's my first time being pregnant and I can't seem to stop thinking about the fear of child birth. Sometimes I get panic attacks as my tummy gets bigger and wonder how I'm going to get through labor. Is there any way that I can ease my mind and not be too scared where it consumes my thoughts &!energy? It seems like other moms are handling it so well and no so scared of labor but rather looking forward to it. I wish I can be that way. Your feedback will help a lot! Thank You!

mben1119 · March 2013

Just know that your body was made to deliver a baby. Women have been doing it for thousands of years.

mill1020 · March 2013

I was kind of like this with my first. Try your best not to worry, and do your best to have faith that it will all work out okay in the end.

mikaelaandmichael · March 2013

Im also scared of labor in a way, at least right now. My sister said that when it comes down to it, you just want the baby out. You dont care about doctors or nurses seeing your lady parts, you will just do anything at that time to meet your baby.

kpahl · March 2013

mikaelaandmichael:
Im also scared of labor in a way, at least right now. My sister said that when it comes down to it, you jus

plunderb · March 2013

Look, it's probably going to suck. Some people do enjoy labor, but it sounds like you are probably not going to be one of them. But you will survive. Just take a minute to think of all the women you know who have been through it and are fine. I'm sure

Danielle0617 · March 2013

It can be scary but just know that at the end of it all will be the best reward your baby! :

TheyCalledHerKate · March 2013

There are drugs you can use to lessen the pain. Just remind yourself you have pain management options.

cyprissa · March 2013

Women have been giving birth forever...you can do this. Your body was made to do this. You need to work on letting go of the fear. Even if you have zero interest in natural childbirth, I recommend reading Ina May's Guide to Natural Birth. It is full of

JennerP60 · March 2013

I'm a FTM as well. I know labor is going to suck, but it seems the average length will be 12-18 hours. Think back at how quickly the past 18 hours has gone. Our body is going to do what its going to do and all we can do in the meantime is educate ourselve

BlueJewelM · March 2013

Even the FTM who sound like they are 100 percent prepared and excited usually have a little bit of fear of the unknown.

I remember with my first I'd be totally fine and ready for delivery with all the books I read and documentaries I watched

katiebenes · March 2013

I know exactly what you mean. I am prone to panic attacks, and I discussed it with my doctor. He was very caring about it all, reassured me that they assist in many many births and that the body does amazing things. We also discussed me not watching birth

Virgo1986 · March 2013

Ok I am so glad that I'm not alone! I feel the same way and these responses are helpful! Thanks and thanks!

913mom · March 2013

I am a fourth time mom and I will just say get the epidural. Yes, contractions.feel like bad mentrual cramps but you get through it. After the epidural you will not feel much pain and your body will do what it supposed to do.

ekoenig4 · March 2013

It's one day of the worst pain ever, anyone can make it through that. You get the best reward ever when it's over.

JilllyBean · March 2013

cyprissa:
Women have been giving birth forever...you can do this. Your body was made to do this. You need to work on letting g

PrimRoseMama · March 2013

Being scared is normal. Really, I found that when I actually got there it wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. It wasn't pleasant, but I got lucky. All I can say is remember that you get the best prize at the end.

cyprissa · March 2013

Have you actually watched any? The ones that I've seen have been not scary at all. Yes, there's moaning and discomfort but the women don't look to be in extreme pain or out of control. Plus, it's demystifying. If you watch women doing it natural and yo

Wedding on the Beach 2008 · March 2013

You were made to do this! Think about all of the women who go back and do it again....if it was such a terrible thing there would only be only children out there.

countrymommy25 · March 2013

I am due with my 4th child July 1st and I will be bluntly honest and say that I am terrified of labor. lol May sound absurd and silly to some but for me personally knowing what to expect has me more afraid than when I had my first born.. I remember with m

ChestyLaRoo · March 2013

Ugh, I have been insanely terrified of labor since I found out I was pregnant. And since before I ever planned on getting pregnant. Intellectually, I know that everything will be fine, and a million women do this every day, but I can not ma

nowuseeme4407 · March 2013

I was 18 when I had my 1st! I didnt do any research I was dumb! But when it came time for her to come I just let me body take over and I got an epi after I tapped out from the pain after 23 hours of labor!

Honestly any pain I felt or was fe

JilllyBean · March 2013

cyprissa:

Have you actually watched any? The ones that I've seen have been not scary at all. Yes, there's moaning and disco

BelhurstBride · March 2013

mabenner1:
Just know that your body was made to deliver a baby. Women have been doing it for thousands of years.
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Tammyhull82 · March 2013

i remember with my first i was the same way. i was only 20 and no experiance with babies. i was very scared. hmm the best way i cohld discribe it to someone who has not had a baby would be... have you ever had a really bad infected tooth?? as soon as they

karen0477 · March 2013

I remember minutes after my first was born thinking, hmmm I could do that again.....hence being pregnant with #3. I think its great to have a plan, but also an open mind because as we all know, sh*t happens sometimes and we don't have control. Trust

WheeLinTheSky3 · March 2013

Labor was the easiest part of my whole pregnancy. I worried a lot about it but it was so easy for me I was so mad at myself for worrying so much. Every experience is different and Im hoping that mine goes smoothly again this time. If you are really worrie

Tiefling · March 2013

I'm a FTM as well. I find myself feeling a little skeptical about the horrors of childbirth. Ive been through some pretty painful things in my life, physically and otherwise, and when I imagine labor I just don't feel a lot of fear. Sometimes I'll have a

+MrsV+ · March 2013

If Snooki can do it, you can do it

MoofyKitten · March 2013

I'm a FTM as well. When I was younger I was scared of pregnancy because I knew labor was excruciating but now I'm less so. I've had unbearable cramps from age 13 and I had to endure them all through the time I was TTC. I kind of see this period of time as

AnnaRedhead · March 2013

I was nervous too until I hit about 32 weeks...then I started looking forward to labor and having an outside baby and feeling like myself again. The end is tough and by the time labor does roll around you likely won't be as nervous as you are now...you

kcox123 · March 2013

I was pretty freaked w/ my first too. The things that helped me most were 1. Planning to get the epi from the start, 2. Thinking about all the uneducated, weak, messed- up girls/women who have clearly been able to do it and tell the tale, and 3. I went 10

freckledlemonade · March 2013

JilllyBean:
cyprissa:<

rubbyland012 · March 2013

Hi!

You're not alone! Good to know you are afraid too~ So women made feel like a wuss and made me feel like I was not tough enough. What I needed was a little comfort in easing my nerves about labor hang in there and hope you are enjoying you

rubbyland012 · March 2013

LOL! Thanks for the encouragement! I actually saw that episode too. It did help me feel a little better. She is tiny and was able to give birth vaginally. Good for her!

rubbyland012 · March 2013

Hello Anna!

Thank you for the sweet message~

I'm working on trying to ease my nerves by prayer and thinking positive. Your little son is adorable! And you're a beautiful mommy~!

rubbyland012 · March 2013

Thank you for your response and advice! I am definitely going for the epidermal. You are amazing for having three kids and a fourth on the way! Hope your pregnancy is going well. Take care~

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