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Pregnant after 35
Anyone else 35 and scared to death of being pregnant again ?
I am new on here and feel so lost, I found out 3 weeks ago I am pregnant and to our suprise was at 15 weeks 5 days had no symptoms and really had not planned on any more children. I have 2 boys one 7 the other 15yrs. Have been for 2 years going through a bad divorce , i had a miscarriage about 5 years ago but since my husband didnt agree mt doctor would not tie my tubes at that time. I have another appointment this week for a more indepth ultrasound . I am afraid to get happy about being pregnant with all of the risks and i am scared of starting all over. Any advice ?
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Re: Anyone else 35 and scared to death of being pregnant again ?
That's totally normal! Especially if you have prior losses, medical issues, or other concerns (such as your concern about your age). I didn't get excited with either of my last 2 pregnancies due to a previous miscarriage. I didn't even buy a onesie for my daughter until I was over halfway through the pregnancy. So yes, I definitely believe that worries about health issues and pregnancy problems can affect your excitement level. It's different for everyone but I'm guessing that once you see a good ultrasound and other positive test results, your excitement will start to build.
I'm scared senseless. This pregnancy was a very big suprise and it took me a couple of days to even tell my husband. I'm 6wks pregnant and I have a 15 year old daughter (who will be 16 when the baby is born). Talk about starting over and trying to find the excitement as the pregnancy progresses. Don't get me wrong, I believe every baby is a blessing but it's really hard to mentally prepare for an infant when I was trying to mentally prepare for the 'empty nest syndrome'. You'll find the excitement as time goes on and after the shock has worn off.
Right there with you ladies! I have a 14 y.o. (almost 15) DD and a 12 y.o. DS. This pregnancy was a complete surprise (I'll be delivering at 43!) and it took a long time to get excited. I finally allowed my DH and the kids to paint the nursery last weekend. I think when a baby isn't planned, it takes awhile to warm up to the idea. But, now that she's moving non-stop, I find myself talking to her and actually visualizing her as a baby finally. GL to all you you!
**DD1 - 7/9/98**
**DS - 11/9/00**
**DD2 - 4/30/13**
Right there with you ladies! I have a 14 y.o. (almost 15) DD and a 12 y.o. DS. This pregnancy was a complete surprise (I'll be delivering at 43!) and it took a long time to get excited. I finally allowed my DH and the kids to paint the nursery last weekend. I think when a baby isn't planned, it takes awhile to warm up to the idea. But, now that she's moving non-stop, I find myself talking to her and actually visualizing her as a baby finally. GL to all you you!
**DD1 - 7/9/98**
**DS - 11/9/00**
**DD2 - 4/30/13**
Not the same as most of you, but I'm 37 and have a son that will be starting kindergarten in August. He's been home with me nonstop since birth so I was mentally preparing to have more me time and figuring out how to deal with my son being away from me so much. Then TADA "New One" surprised us! I think part of my issue is I know what I'm in for this time which is good and bad. Firstborn took a lot out of me so the thought of night feelings and no sleep are daunting. Give yourself a break. You haven't known for long that you were even expecting!
hoping you have an easy uncomplicated pregnancy!
My baby is planned but I have to admit I still have moments of being scared and wondering what the heck I was thinking. My kids are 12, 16, & 19. I'm very much "starting over" considering one of mine is an adult already in college, driving, etc. I have been so much more scared with this pregnancy than the other 3 pregnancies because of my age. Now that the pregnancy has progressed and the baby is growing great, ultrasounds are great, etc., I'm a lot less nervous.
Just give it time. There are risks of being pregnant but at 35 you are still very young. Having a baby is a huge life change and it might take a while to adjust to the idea.
Hi there Lucky13boys I just signed up on here after reading your blog. I turned 35 last June and had absolutely no plans of starting over with a new baby. Like you, I have 2 boys one 8 and the other 16yrs old. In the beginning I had the same fears about starting all over again and what type of medical issues I may encounter. I am currently 33 weeks pregnant with a baby girl. I can honestly say that this pregnancy hasn't really been kind to me, but then again they are not all the same. My boyfriend and I broke up when I was about 3mos pg, and was scared to death about going this pregnancy on my own and not knowing what to expect. But then I look at my boys and realize I am strong enough to do it all over again. I wish the best for you and pray you keep a positive outlook on this new blessing.
Sincerely