I would like to have a shower for baby number two however I don't want the focus to be gifts, just celebrating the new baby but we will be moving out of state very soon after the baby is born so a meet the baby won't really be an option,any ideas to keep the focus off of gifts and on celebrating the new life.
ps. I'm not throwing it myself lol
Re: celebrating a second baby
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He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
How about just having a BBQ or something at your home or at a park and invite your close friends and family?
If I'm invited to a shower of any kind I would bring a gift. If someone calls and invites me to a BBQ I don't expect to bring a gift. So long as you don't invite people to a "shower" there shouldn't be the expectation of a gift IMO.
Like PP said, what are people going to shower you with if you don't want gifts? Just have a going away party. Everyone knows you're pregnant...I'm sure they're "celebrating" it. It doesn't require a party dedicated to the baby you are gestating.
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What about a mother blessing? Depending on your group on friends this could work for you. The "party" is a gathering of women to celebrate motherhood, pregnancy & birth loosely based off of a Native American Blessingway. You share birth stories, prayers or hopes for the family/mother/baby to be, maybe do an art craft like making/painting a belly cast. There aren't really any gifts but sometimes there are "ceremonies" where each person might bring a bead or make a bead which get put together into a bracelet for the mother to have with her during the birth to remind her of the support and strength of the women in her life. You might give out small candles that the women light when you go into labor or string bracelets that they wear until the birth. It's all about women empowerment & unity. Kind of a hippie thing but totally beautiful especially if you are going to be moving. The support issue and marking a major life event seems to be what's really important to you.
What the ever-lovin-eff? Seriously people...quit throwing stupid, honorary, self-indulgent parties for every damn life event. Gender-reveal, sprinkles, meet-the-baby, sip and see, BABY-Q, blessings...we get it - you got trophies for participation when you grew up and there were never losers, just ties to make sure everyone felt all warm and fuzzy inside.
Good gracious - you're pregnant. I don't need an invitation to an event to buy you a gift, and even worse - I don't need to be invited to a non-gift-giving event and feel awkward about whether or not I should bring a gift anyhow.
And while I am on my rant - all these damn names we give these events are just social media's way of making new moms feel self-important and cutesy - and do not in any way mask the idea that they are all gift-giving events that are all horribly unnecessary.
You're right - not our lives and not our babies - then the OP shouldn't be posting on a public forum asking for advice.
And if I was on my high horse, I would be the one demanding all these stupid parties. Conversely, I am grounded in knowing that I don't need a damn party to celebrate all these moments. It's not etiquette I speak of - it's self-importance, and the sheer over-abundance of it among some women.
Making a mockery of someones relgious/spiritual beliefs in order to cover up a tacky excuse for a second shower is shameful.
Don't mind me though, I suppose, I'm just jealous that my mom never threw me a Bat Mitzvah or a quincenera (sorry for the spelling, not in the mood to double check).
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
Did the host actually ask for your help?
that's a really cute idea thank you for your idea.
thanks
yes she has never thrown a shower/ has no kids of her own.