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A weekend away from baby (advice needed - long)

kimeeteekimeetee member
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Currently, my husband and I bedshare with DD (15 months).  I nurse her before bed (so she mostly nurses to sleep, sometimes she pulls off and will settle down on her own).  She usually wakes up a couple of times before I go to bed and it's usually fine when i'm there.  She has been teething lately, so I do nurse again even when I'm in bed with her. 

 I'll be away for the weekend in June and am really nervous for my husband.  My mom was in the hospital in September and I was gone for one night and she cried for two hours straight.  My husband was a wreck.  We do not want a repeat. 

I plan on starting the night weaning (via Jay Gordon) this week - although of course I have reservations (molars are still coming out).  After that, I will try to stop the nursing to sleep.

Also, I was planning on buying a hand pump to bring with me on my trip.  How often and how long should I pump?  Right now, I nurse DD on demand whenever I'm with her.  She usually wants to nurse ASAP after she gets picked up from daycare and then she feeds a few times during the night.  On weekends, she will probably nurse 2-4 times during the day.

Do we need to practice with me sleeping in another room before June?  Practice him putting her to bed?

 Any advice?  Thanks in advance!

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Re: A weekend away from baby (advice needed - long)

  • BelhurstBrideBelhurstBride member

    DD was 18 months old the first time I went away. We bedshared and she was still nursing at that point. Honestly? She was fine with DH. Granted, we had stopped the nursing to sleep and DH had taken over bedtime months prior to that, but when she woke up she asked for me a couple of times, DH gave her a shirt I had worn and brought her into bed with him. She was content with that. He kept her busy during the day with special, fun things and she never asked to nurse or anything. 

    I brought my pump along and only pumped when I needed to relieve the pressure. I froze was I pumped and brought it home, but she was over bottles by then and wouldn't take it out of a cup. I think I ended up putting it in her oatmeal or something.  

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    BelhurstBride, do you still ever get engorged?  I don't.  I can't even remember the last time.  That said, I think the longest I ever go without feeding DD is about 10 hours.

     I'm actually going to Vegas for my best friend's bachelorette party, so I am definitely not bringing any breastmilk home and want to avoid bringing my pump if possible.  I am  a little scared of ruining my supply however.

    It definitely is time to nightwean and stop nursing to sleep.  I am so lazy however.  This may be the kick in the butt that I need. 

     

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  • BelhurstBrideBelhurstBride member

    When DD was your daugther's age I did if I was away from her for the entire day. 

    I coach swimming and stopped bringing my pump along after she was a year. If I was at a day long meet I felt it by the end of the day.  

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    BelhurstBride, do you still ever get engorged?  I don't.  I can't even remember the last time.  That said, I think the longest I ever go without feeding DD is about 10 hours.

     I'm actually going to Vegas for my best friend's bachelorette party, so I am definitely not bringing any breastmilk home and want to avoid bringing my pump if possible.  I am  a little scared of ruining my supply however.

    It definitely is time to nightwean and stop nursing to sleep.  I am so lazy however.  This may be the kick in the butt that I need. 

     

     

    I left DS1 at 18 months for a weekend - I was night and morning nursing. I just brought a hand pumped and pumped a little bit in the morning and night, then I dumped.  I was able to continue feeding for months after I returned. 


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  • ncbellencbelle member

    I think the key is for your DH to start being involved in getting her to sleep now.  I was just out of town for 48 hours (was supposed to only be 1 night but my flight was cancelled).  Eleanor was totally fine - she still nurses a lot including bedtime (although we have night weaned) and did ok.  I pumped once while gone - probably should have twice but I got lazy ;)  That was with my manual pump.

    What I've found to be true even when I'm just gone all day is that she doesn't miss nursing unless I'm there - if I'm here, she'll nurse multiple times a day.  If I'm not, she's ok and rarely asks for it. 



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  • kimeeteekimeetee member

    Thanks, all!  I think I'm going to buy a hand pump since I def do not want to lug my PISA with me to Vegas (been there, done that).

     This whole night weaning thing is the tough part.  We/I haven't done it, mostly out of laziness.

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