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help! plans w/ a baby shower

erickag1985erickag1985
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My husband and I are going to throw a housewarming/ baby shower in april and we're trying to incorporate the 2 in an invitation. Any ideas or suggestions on how we can do that? Maybe something about 'new home, new baby on the way...'
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  • lifewritelifewrite member
    wait are you throwing yourself a baby shower?? If so you are about to get a lot of bad responses...
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  • mben1119mben1119 member
    Stop. Don't. If you want to have a housewarming party, great. If someone offers to host a baby shower for you, great. The 2 shouldn't be combined, and you shouldn't plan your own shower.
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  • JennaOsJennaOs member
    If it were me, I would just stick to having a house warmong party. People know you are pregnant so they may end up bringing you a gift? I would be irritated if I opened an invite to your house warming/baby shower. That looks like you only want people over so they bring you gifts...
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  • misspriss726misspriss726
    Proper etiquette is to not throw the shower yourself/at your own house.  Have your housewarming, but leave the shower planning to someone else if they offer.
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  • MrsWindyCityMrsWindyCity member
    "new home, new baby, new levels of tacky?"
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  • Disneygeek77Disneygeek77 member

    I would stick to the housewarming party.

    If someone else offers to throw you a baby shower, then great. 

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  • BigPoppa22BigPoppa22 member

    Don't let all of the negative comments deter you.  I am sure there are reasons why you are doing this yourself.  My DW and I had to plan our own baby shower and nobody saw it as low class or grabby.  We did not have it at our house, but still had to do everything ourselves.  The world didn't end, in fact, I threw a damn awesome party and everyone had a great time.

     

    I would probably drop the housewarming from it, altogether. We almost had our shower at our new home but moved it when it grew too big.  Two friends had asked about housewarming without us saying anything.  We would have hated if someone brought a housewarming gift instead of something off our registry, I need diapers a lot more than cute napkins for the dining room.

     

    You could just fill out the Location line of the invite as "At our new home, 150 Main St" etc. and people will naturally get excited about seeing your new place as well.

     

     

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    Don't let all of the negative comments deter you.  I am sure there are reasons why you are doing this yourself.  My DW and I had to plan our own baby shower and nobody saw it as low class or grabby.  We did not have it at our house, but still had to do everything ourselves.  The world didn't end, in fact, I threw a damn awesome party and everyone had a great time.

     

    I would probably drop the housewarming from it, altogether. We almost had our shower at our new home but moved it when it grew too big.  Two friends had asked about housewarming without us saying anything.  We would have hated if someone brought a housewarming gift instead of something off our registry, I need diapers a lot more than cute napkins for the dining room.

     

    You could just fill out the Location line of the invite as "At our new home, 150 Main St" etc. and people will naturally get excited about seeing your new place as well.

     

     

    Just because no one told you to your face, doesn't mean they didn't say/think it.
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  • BigPoppa22BigPoppa22 member
    Oh, I forgot you guys are the "experts" and represent what "most people" think!  I am sure the original poster has a good reason for planning it herself, just as my wife and I did. Get off your high horses.
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  • Disneygeek77Disneygeek77 member

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    Oh, I forgot you guys are the "experts" and represent what "most people" think!  I am sure the original poster has a good reason for planning it herself, just as my wife and I did. Get off your high horses.

    Dude, even if half the people out there think it's rude and greedy to host your party where the sole purpose is to SHOWER YOU WITH GIFTS, why do it ?

    Hosting a party ?  Fine, nothing wrong with that, but a party where people are supposed to bring you a gift ?  I mean come on, how can you not see that as greedy or like you have a bad case of the gimmies ?

    Yes everybody come to my party I'm throwing for myself.  I am the guest of honor and here are the places where I am registered so you can get me a gift. 

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  • KMac570KMac570 member
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    imageBigPoppa22:

    Don't let all of the negative comments deter you.  I am sure there are reasons why you are doing this yourself.  My DW and I had to plan our own baby shower and nobody saw it as low class or grabby.  We did not have it at our house, but still had to do everything ourselves.  The world didn't end, in fact, I threw a damn awesome party and everyone had a great time.

     

    I would probably drop the housewarming from it, altogether. We almost had our shower at our new home but moved it when it grew too big.  Two friends had asked about housewarming without us saying anything.  We would have hated if someone brought a housewarming gift instead of something off our registry, I need diapers a lot more than cute napkins for the dining room.

     

    You could just fill out the Location line of the invite as "At our new home, 150 Main St" etc. and people will naturally get excited about seeing your new place as well.


    Rest assured, people thought it was low class and gift grabby, they just didn't tell you to your face. Go ahead and continue to pat yourself on the back though.   

     

    Completely agree with this.  We have had a few friends do their own showers, and we definitely side-eye it.  We would never say it to their faces, but we are absolutely thinking it. 

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  • CranangCranang member

    "I threw an awesome party and everyone loved it."

    Oh the self-awareness FAIL.

    Oh, and to the OP...throwing your own shower is tacky.  There are no "good reasons" or "circumstances."  You don't call your friends and say "Hey guys...I'm going to have some food on Saturday.  If you come, you need to bring me a present.  Thanks!"  If you wouldn't feel comfortable calling your friends up and saying EXACTLY that, then you shouldn't host your own shower because that IS what you're saying.

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  • lifewritelifewrite member
    Yup like I said a lot of bad responses. All of which I agree with! Don't take it too hard, it really is good advice.
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  • ordinary1ordinary1 member
    Don't throw your own shower. No matter where you live, what circumstances you are in, it will never be ok! I hope you enjoy your housewarming but please do not make it a baby shower too. If you have a baby shower, your hosts will take care of everything.
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    imageBigPoppa22:
    Oh, I forgot you guys are the "experts" and represent what "most people" think!  I am sure the original poster has a good reason for planning it herself, just as my wife and I did. Get off your high horses.
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  • Sarah52BethSarah52Beth member
    Where do you live? I will throw you a baby shower if you are close!
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  • erickag1985erickag1985
    Thanks for the advice! Your comment seems to be the only sensible and kind one! : I thought it might've sounded too "grabby' as others put it but I asked some friends and they thought it was ok. But after reading all the comments, looks like its not ok. My reasoning behind it was I don't need anything for the house, but I do need lots of things for baby, but yeah, I can see where it sounds bad. Thnx again!
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  • erickag1985erickag1985
    Wow! Wish I would've seen your comment a lot sooner! Thnx for the warning though
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  • erickag1985erickag1985
    Fine. All you naysayers aren't invited to my party then.
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