thoughts on shower/sprinkle for baby #2

tsaw2000 · March 2013

just curious what you think...a long time friend of mine missed my shower for ds. when i told her news of baby #2 she said i promise not to miss your shower this time. I've always thought it wasn't proper etiquette. she then went on to say she is going to have one for me. thoughts?

cantalopes24 · March 2013

Two big showers this close together would be tacky. If your friend wants to volunteer to have something that's fine but I wouldn't go soliciting a host because someone said they wanted to be a guest.

btsrc5 · March 2013

In general, I do not like second (or more) showers... but I think it totally depends on the situation and group of family/friends.

if someone offers to throw you something small with just really close family or friends (more of a "sprinkle") and you are comfortable with it, then go for it.

jwls84 · March 2013

tsaw2000:
just curious what you think...a long time friend of mine missed nbsp;my shower for ds. when i told her news of baby 2 she said i promise not to miss your shower this time. I've always thought nbsp;it wasn't proper etiquette. nbsp;she then went on to say she is going to have one for me. thoughts?

I know people are really against second showers and I personally wouldn't accept another shower, mainly because I hated the ones I had. But one of my friends is pg with her second and she works her butt off and I am planning a girls lunch with Mani Pedi's for her, it's a surprise. I am not doing it for the presents but more to give her some attention and a day of pampering before the second arrives. Maybe you could plan something simple like a girls day out or something?

skipperkelly · March 2013

I vote no.

ellewoodsSC · March 2013

btsrc5:
In general, I do not like second (or more) showers... but I think it totally depends on the situation and group of family/friends.

if someone offers to throw you something small with just really close family or friends (more of a "sprinkle") and you are comfortable with it, then go for it.

This!

CMonkey515 · March 2013

I wouldn't be comfortable having a second shower, especially this close together. The only second showers I've attended have been where there is a very large age gap between the children. If your friends and family really want to do something I would keep it very small. Maybe a simple lunch sprinkle where guests could bring a simple gift like an outfit, book, or diapers. I definitely wouldn't do a registry or anything like that.

wilsontl19191 · March 2013

Sprinkles are popular in my area. But, a fullblown shower is a bit much IMO.

stardust317 · March 2013

Not a fan. They had a surprise shower for me at work and I was super uncomfortable.

missyishere · March 2013

You could recommend just a small lunch with her and a few close friends but state you're not comfortable with having a shower.

pennysuedog · March 2013

I was given a second baby shower but my first baby shower for Oliver was really small like 5-6 people. Plus there was a 5 year age gap.

We gave my SIL a second surprise baby shower for her 5th kid becauseafter popping out 5 kids you deserve a 2nd shower. I plan to throw her a shower for number 10 also, if they get there. She has 8 and is only 36 so we will see.

I would say no to a big shower, yes to a girl's day out.

Fianschneid · March 2013

We did a sprinkle for my cousin because her 2nd was a different sex than her first. I think this is probably the only time it is appropriate.

There was no registry. It was a laid back dinner with the ladies at a nice restaurant. It was about celebrating the new arrival, rather than "showering" the mom and child with gifts. Most brought a gender specific outfit or small toy.

ETA: Also appropriate with large age gaps, or, as Penny pointed out, every 5th child Wink

blu-eyedwife · March 2013

This is what we've been doing. About half of my group of friends are on to round 2. About half of those have had #2, and the other half are due within the next few weeks/months. We all have 2011 babies, and every one in the group is having the same sex child as the older one. After the first "she doesn't want a shower, so we'll surprise her" we came to a new tradition. No shower, no gifts, but a couple of weeks before the baby comes we do a girls' night out in honor of the Mom-to-be. Celebrate her, give her some time away from being a mom, etc.

Elsa1984 · March 2013

In my friends and family group, it's normal to have a sprinkle. First baby is a shower where people go all out and you also get gear. Any other pregnancy/baby is celebrated with a sprinkle getting mostly clothes, bath items, etc.

We celebrate them no matter how close the kids are in age.

Ms.Jade · March 2013

I'm pretty anti 2nd showers too, but I have been know to host small (no more than 10 women including the grandmas) sprinkles in restaurants for people.

RichardSlap · March 2013

Elsa1984:
In my friends and family group, it's normal to have a sprinkle. First baby is a shower where people go all out and you also get gear. Any other pregnancy/baby is celebrated with a sprinkle getting mostly clothes, bath items, etc. We celebrate them no matter how close the kids are in age.

It's common to have showers for every baby in my group too. We're boozy types though, so we're down for almost any excuse to drink wine together.

joolz17 · March 2013

Second showers are definitely not the norm here and I do sideeye them.

What my group of friends has been doing is either book out a nail spa and do brunch and mani/pedi without gifts for the mom to be, or do a little brunch with the new baby once it's here (and no gifts).

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