Open Letter Sunday

Re: Open Letter Sunday

• Karley0212 member

  March 2013

  Dear toys taking over my livingroom,

  Clean yourself up and fold the laundry! If you want to be part of this family get to work!

  From, Alexander's Mom

  Dear Fruit Loops

  Why you so tasty?

  From, my belly!

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• sapphirebride06

  March 2013

  Dear Random People H Knows,

  Don't just drop by my house and expect an invite inside.  H was napping and so was DS #2 but the doorbell interrupted that.  You won't get invited inside so don't act like I'm a b.  I don't know you - you know my H and he was annoyed you stopped by and we aren't even sure how you know where we live.  So go away.  

  Signed,

  The annoyed woman who will have a pissed off and over tired toddler thanks to idiots

  (Background info - they try to borrow money from us repeatedly.  And by us I mean my H.  The wife has called him over and over to try and borrow money before and told H not to tell her H she's trying it.  So not a position we will be put in and we are not a bank so we don't do loans.  I'm so annoyed with them right now!!!) 

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• jmccall79 member

  March 2013

  Dear exSO,
  It's not my fault, or your son's fault, that the weather hasn't been great. It's not his fault that your paycheck is contingent upon the weather. He still has to eat, he still has to have diapers, he still has to have child care so I can work and support him. I get that it's winter and things will pick up soon, but going on 7wks without any help from you is killing me!!! I have completely supported him on my own but you want to keep whining to me and telling me how hard it is for you. How the hell do you think I feel? I'm really over you wallowing in self pity and giving me sob stories. I've continued to allow you to see Ian any time you've asked though you have said to me all that to matters me is money. If you're testing me, I say the test is over! Do something!!!! I can't continue to play "nice" forever. I'm trying to be understanding but my patience is wearing thin.
  Sincerely,
  Your child's fed up mother who finds a way to take care of our son, thinks it's past time for you to step up to the plate

  

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• lancyjo member

  March 2013

  Jmccall, that man needs to be finding a dependable, steady job, and needs to quit making excuses while he's at it. Kudos to you for not having throttled him yet.

  
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• pinkshades05 member

  March 2013

  lancyjo:

  Jmccall, that man needs to be finding a dependable, steady job, and needs to quit making excuses while he's at it. Kudos to you for not having throttled him yet.

  Agreed! Time to get a lawyer or mediator involved and something in writing.

  
  
  

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• jmccall79 member

  March 2013

  Lancy and Pink...I agree that he needs to do something. He enjoys his job and I'll give him props for that. And he does work for a company that does work during the winter months, which most don't. However, it's been "wet" so that has affected the hours he gets. Winter hours are not as many as they are during the normal season but they are hours nonetheless...when it's not raining. He's gotten a raise, so when hours pick back up, he'll be getting more money and will be able to give me more money, or so he says. What sucks is that I've done a child support calculator. If he truly pays in cs for his daughter, what he says he pays, I'd be getting less than what he voluntarily pays me when he pays it. But I guess something consistent would be better than nothing at all. If he is court ordered to pay, according to the calculator, what he would have to pay me wouldn't even cover the 2 days of daycare that I have to pay each week. It sucks. It's ridiculous!!! So, I'm kind of stuck in a hard place...take him to court and get less money and make things strained between us again. Or don't take him to court and just suck it up and deal with the BS weeks he only gets a day or 2 on a paycheck. I really have tried to be understanding with him. I've tried to be patient. I've tried to overlook the fact that he did nothing for him for Christmas, did nothing for him for his birthday. I've supported our son all on my own. I'm blessed to be able to live with my mom and pay significantly less rent than if I were to have to live somewhere else; I couldn't do it right now. I budget and make do, but I'd like to not have to struggle. I'd like to be able to just put what he pays me in savings so that Ian and I can move out on our own again. I'd like to not have to be in a place where I'm put in a bind because I've expected his child support and then it doesn't come. It's been 6 or 7 weeks, I'd have to go look at my receipt book...and I've been ok, but I'm tired of being the nice guy. I'm tired of being the responsible one while he has no cares in the world, no responsibility, and can do whatever, whenever he wants. I love my son more than anything in this world...it just hurts knowing that his father apparently doesn't care as much. I know I can't make him be a daddy. Paying child support isn't going to do that either, but it would be nice just knowing he's being responsible. I'm sorry that turned into a book. I guess I needed to get that out. Sorry!!!

  

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