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Who throws the shower?

AppleMuffinsAppleMuffins member
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I live on the East coast and from my understanding generally it's family or friends of the mother-to-be who throws the shower for a 1st born. However, I'm from the Midwest and a lot of my friends back home are having babies and it seems they're all kind of planning their own shower. I thought that wasn't proper etiquette, but nobody seems to be saying anything negative to them about it. Is there no "proper etiquette" about who throws the shower? Does it vary by region? Either way I'm not throwing a shower for myself, but I don't want to be all judgey if it's not improper in that region.
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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    IT's tacky.  THey are doing it because others have done it and no one has said "boo" about it. So they think it/s ok.  It's not.
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    I live in the Midwest and have my whole life. I have never heard of someone throwing their own shower. It is tacky!

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  • amie444amie444 member
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    I live in the Midwest and have my whole life. I have never heard of someone throwing there own shower. It is tacky!


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  • LaineyPaneyLaineyPaney member
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    The mom to be should never be the host.

    Generally, a sister, aunt or friend hosts the shower.


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  • heatherbrownmheatherbrownm member

    imageamie444:
    imageordinary1:
    I live in the Midwest and have my whole life. I have never heard of someone throwing there own shower. It is tacky!
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    Yes, this. I live in the Midwest, and I think it is horribly tacky. Just because you are having a baby, does not mean that you are entitled to a shower. If no one offers to throw it, you don't have one. A shower is a gift, and you do not throw your own. 

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  • saralynn7saralynn7 member
    I'm also a midwest girl and under no circumstances would I have thrown my own shower. I had two of my best friends host mine and if they hadn't been able to my aunts/cousin would have done it as well.
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  • MrsWindyCityMrsWindyCity member

    imageamie444:
    imageordinary1:
    I live in the Midwest and have my whole life. I have never heard of someone throwing there own shower. It is tacky!
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    Me too. 

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  • AppleMuffinsAppleMuffins member
    Thanks everyone, that's what I thought! I'll continue to give them the stink eye from afar.
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  • adeller11adeller11 member

    imageamie444:
    imageordinary1:
    I live in the Midwest and have my whole life. I have never heard of someone throwing there own shower. It is tacky!
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    Same here. 

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  • EmJ&BEmJ&B member

    Kansas City here . . .

     I would def side-eye someone throwing their own shower.

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  • deltagirl79deltagirl79 member

    imageEastCoastBride:
    IT's tacky.  THey are doing it because others have done it and no one has said "boo" about it. So they think it/s ok.  It's not.

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  • RachieTKRachieTK member

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    Tacky has no geographical boundaries.

     

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  • BallSoxBallSox member
    A few attention whores do not speak for the entire Midwest.  It's tacky.
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  • Stinag30Stinag30 member
    I disagree that it's "tacky" to throw your own shower. It's maybe more tacky to expect someone else to spend a lot of $$$ on food, decor, venue, etc. on your shower. I'm actually debating throwing my own so my husband & I can pay for it, rather than expecting others to be burdened with the expense. 
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