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August 2011 Moms
Jennikd3
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Peeved at DH today.
Jennikd3
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My DH is being a great big meanie-head today. Basically he's decided that if I ask him to do something then I am being a "child who needs my hand held."
I asked him to call this city earlier this week because they never picked up our trash cans and I have to work so I didn't have the time to do it myself. He is a students and spends Tuesdays and Thursdays at home, usually working on homework, but he has a little more time than I do.
Then I asked him to look up a couple places/prices because I needed a oil change, and I wanted to go do that today. After I made breakfast and got DD dressed and ready, I noticed he wasn't ready. After i asked how long it would take him to be ready, he popped off, "You're a big girl, you can go yourself..."
I don't think he's ever sat, waiting, with a bored/destructive toddler. I do not want to wait around at some auto shop for who knows how long. And I can't leave DD with him on his "day off" because then I am "punishing" him. I just wanted to drop the car off and then go get some groceries.
He finally agreed to come along with us, and I asked him what he found about prices, and again he rudely states that I'm not a child, I can do my own research. And while technically true, I would LIKE some help. Not that I am incapable of doing it myself, but rather why would I want to do EVERYTHING by myself? He's supposed to be my teammate here, and he's acting more like it's my kid, my car, my trash, my responsibility to get it all done. It's like I'm the single parent of a 18 month old AND a 30 yr old.
Sorry for the vent, you get a cookie if you've bothered to read my whole little rant.
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Re: Peeved at DH today.
You're punishing him by leaving his daughter with him for an hour?? Sorry he's a parent there are no days off. He's coming across as a big jerk.
That said, I really don't think it's that big of a deal for you to call the city or to find a place to get your oil changed. I do think he should be watching your DD if it's up to you to get your oil changed.
And it's not a big deal to do those things. I just have enough things to do during the day, and I'm not really supposed to be calling the city when I'm working.
He's being ridiculous at the least. While I am on maternity leave, these are the kinds of things I would do for my husband if he asks. Not because I have more free time, not because he is a child, but because it is easier for me to make a 5 minute call during a naptime then for him to do it at work.
Now, when we are both working, that's another story. I leave earlier and sometimes get home later so he just naturally does a lot more. Without being asked. I hope your husband doesn't expect much in the next couple of days. If he asks where dinner is, tell him that he's not a child and that he can make it himself.
Haha, great advice. Try to work that in all weekend.
hahahahaha!
Dude, that sucks. I'd be really pissed.
While I do most of the managerial things for our household, this is only because I'm home during the week and can. If things were different, and DH had two days during the week at home like you described, I'd definitely expect him to help out with more of the administrative tasks.
Even if we were both working full time, there's no way in helll that I would ever be taking DD with me to wait around for an oil change while he stayed home!!
Exp: "I'm going to get the oil changed. Watch LO until I get back."
Your H needs a good dose of kick in the pants.
Yes, you CAN do it, but you asked for his help. If he couldn't do it, all he had to do was say "I'm sorry I really don,t have the time". No need to be a big jerk about it.
And yeah, parents don't get days off. That goes for your H as well. He needs to realize that.
::pours Jenn a giant glass of wine::