This group is open to anyone who has already gone through donor egg/donor embryo/gestational carrier, is in the process of it, or plans on doing it in the future.
This check-in posted each Tuesday. If you?d like to be added to this group, please reply to this message, and I?ll make sure to add you for next week. Welcome to the lurkers! We know this can be a difficult journey, but we welcome you with open arms. Let us know if we can answer any questions.
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Status Update: Where are you currently with the DE/DEmbryo/ GC process?
QOTW: Anything you've been wondering about (suggestions for future QOTW)?
Sorry I have been becoming later and later with the check-in! I've been really tired, and work has been hectic. I hate to keep people waiting all week!
All the best to those who are cycling or in the 2ww and hugs to those who need them!
In the 2ww
BabyVDM ? Probable diagnosis of age-related egg quality issue, cancer survivor! pursuing DE, contacted two West coast clinics, phone consult with PNWF, donor?s eggs added to frozen bank, conversation with clinic and they will hold 1-2 sets of eggs depending on number retrieved, phone consult rescheduled, repeat SA on 12/13, hoping for FET around the week of 2/12, u/s on 1/23, TSH OK, continuing on Lupron and estrogen patches, 3 beautiful frozen embryos! Lining looking good, transfer complete! Need to follow up after routine MRI showed something that needs further investigation
erink1981 ? Pursuing DE after three losses and jumping into the domestic adoption process, Currently in DE IVF cycle (guarantee program), started Lupron on 1/13, met with MFM to discuss decisions about embryo transfer given other medical issues, recommended transferring 1 embryo, started on estrogen, DE retrieval anticipated for 2/13 or 2/14, lining looked good, donor started stims, retrieval set for last Friday, 3dt of 2 embryos complete, beta scheduled for 3/4
liz4paws ? No response to max stims with IVF, moving on to embryo adoption, signed up with Miracles Waiting, also on waiting list with RE for when they start their donor embryo program, accepted 5 frozen embryos from a woman in VA, working on paperwork and hope to have contract signed soon, found RE willing to do FET of embryos, frozen embryos arrived in Texas, started BCP?s and set to start Lupron, FET delayed from 2/8 to 2/11, Baseline and blood work complete, hoping for some insurance coverage for cycle
Currently Cycling or on BCP?s or Lupron
ceemonkey ? High FSH on her side and Sertoli-cell only syndrome on DH's side, joined donor embryo program and submitted some picks, phone consult with a new double donor split cycle program completed, ordered blood work, officially left old clinic, in-person consult with new clinic complete, psych consult went well, accepted a profile, on Lupron and Vivelle, lining check on 11/30 went well, ET of 2 blasts completed on 12/13, low betas, m/c ((hugs)), accepted a new profile! On Lupron and Vivelle, Lining check on 2/22 and transfer planned for 2/28, travel interrupted by major snow storm
happywifemomofone ? 100% OOP, considering shared DE cycle, DE consult scheduled at Advanced Fertility went well, would like to cycle in June or July, contemplating guarantee programs, delaying cycle due to financial considerations, selected donor, all preliminary testing is complete, meeting with psychologist arranged for early November, continuing to wait for cycle anticipated for early to mid February, selected a new donor who was then removed from the donor registry, selected fourth donor, PCP, lawyer, and RE appointments complete, on BCP?s for March/April cycle, Lupron on 3/8, baseline on 3/18, ER anticipated for between 4/2 and 4/4 with transfer between 4/5 and 4/9
indianasun ? 2 1/2 year-old son from cycle with OE, pursuing DE and started donor search, chose a donor and have an appointment with RE on 9/10, next steps are for donor to have medical and psychological testing, then will sign contracts, current donor straight off a successful cycle in December, started Lupron on 1/11 and Estrace on 2/7, retrieval estimated for 2/27, donor?s baseline u/s looking good!
moonaggie ? Pursuing anonymous
donor eggs, frozen DE transfer anticipated for 2/11, on Lupron and Estrace,
cycle cancelled because embryos did not grow past 4-cell stage, starting a
fresh cycle with a different donor, started BCP?s on 2/22, ER and ET
anticipated around the first week of April
reb259 ? DE consult schedule for 11/3, DE IVF#1 with frozen eggs did not work out (((hugs))) WTF and appointment with reproductive urologist scheduled, phone consult with RBA went well, meeting with psych and had more blood work done on 4/20, picked a donor! Finished BCP?s, planning travel to RBA for thaw and fert on 6/4, u/s on 5/30 to check lining, hoping it is 8+ transferred 2 low grade embies, home test negative ((Hugs)), on BCP?s, see RE on 1/31, cycle anticipated for mid-February
Sophistikitty ? Slated for DE cycle in January, have selected donor and signed agency agreement, calendar received! Start Lupron second week of January, ET anticipated for the first week of February, started BCP?s, new diagnosis of adenomyosis, concern about donor cancelling some appointments
Waiting to Cycle/Between Cycles
BeckyP005 ? 2 IUI?s both BFN?s, RE says DE is best option, not 100% sure about this option but beginning required testing, repeat mammogram needed, second mock cycle completed, lining looking good, SHG complete, put on thyroid meds, DH needing to get blood work done, on the DE waiting list! (6 months) - #10!
ebdubbed ? Matched with a donor through an agency and waiting for her to be approved by clinic, need day two blood draws and unmedicated cycle before insurance will cover anything, officially matched and waiting for donor to fly to clinic for her work up, everything cleared up with insurance, small amount of coverage left, everything is moving forward! Donor doing testing, planning on a May transfer, also doing hail mary cycle with OE (EPP)
glueck ? Pursuing DE through a clinic in Czech Republic, tentative transfer date of 10/6, filled out anonymous donor selection paperwork and matched with donor, mock cycle has begun, ER estimated for 9/24-25 and ET for 9/29-30, delayed because Essure scarring process was not complete, transfer set for 12/9! ER complete ? 9R, 7M, 6F, 5dt complete of 2 grade A blasts
Jen12573 ? History of several issues including high FSH, hyperthyroidism, uterine fibroids, POF, and mild endo, meeting with RE to discuss donor embryo program was on 8/10, feel very positively about program, on two DEmbryo wait lists, meeting with new donor embryo program on 2/25
kbrodie06 ? Has a 3-year-old daughter, researching DE for second child, checking with doctors in the area and weighing options, secured a shared donor! Found a new donor after previous donor pregnant, started Lupron on 9/25, DE ER complete ? 17 eggs from shared cycle, all fertilized normally! 5dt on 10/21 of one 4AA embryo, BFP followed by miscarriage ((((HUGS))))
krod2010 ? IVF #6 with identical twin as donor, 16 eggs retrieved but none fertilized ((((hugs)))), DE cycle, ET 1/16, transferred 3 blasts, nothing to freeze, BFP followed by m/c, cycling with the same donor again? 30 eggs retrieved, transferred two blasts, chemical pregnancy ((((HUGS))), 18 frozen embryos, hysteroscopy and laparoscopy complete, started delestrogen, FET on 6/15, Beta negative ((hugs)), planning to cycle again
may2806 ? DE IVF cycle was BFP, having bleeding episodes but heartbeat is good, NT scan went great but blood work showed high HCG and low Papp-A, amnio scheduled but not done, late m/c ((((HUGS)))), determined to be caused by a huge SCH behind the placenta, hysteroscopy showed uterus looks normal, waiting for next cycle with donor, completed Lupron Depot, now starting daily Lupron and IVIG, transfer 6/20 Beta 1 ? 261, beta 2 ? 546, 6 week u/s shows twins M/C ((hugs)), FET in December, things seem to be on track now
Mrs.McIrish ? Passed lining cycle and have been matched with a donor, ER initially anticipated for the second week in October, ovulated after stopped estrace, e2 producing cyst at baseline so delayed at least 3 weeks, started Lupron and baby aspirin, cleared baselines!, donor started stims on 10/13, ER estimated for 10/24, lining and E2 check on 10/19, donor stimming slowly, ER complete, low quality embryos and unsuccessful cycle (((HUGS))), DNA fragmentation test was normal, saline sono done, new donor selected with ER/ET anticipated for late January, hysteroscopy and D&C (polyp removal) completed on 12/5, started Lupron on 1/2, donor bailed on cycle! Selected new donor from those available, beta on 2/1
MrsT4 ? Fresh DE cycle resulted in chemical pregnancy (((HUGS))), four DE frosties, pursuing additional testing before FET planned for sometime this spring, immune panel and other blood work done, getting more labs run and then will schedule phone consult, hoping to cycle in April in March, but I'm still hoping that April is a possibility.
mtlaurel ? Pursuing DE after two failed IVF cycles, DE consult complete, DH?s SA numbers are up, chose a donor! started BCP?s on 4/3, another recipient selected donor! ER anticipated for 6/13 with ET on 6/18, started Lupron week of 5/17, started delestrogen on 5/28, dilapan done, next up is lining check, transfer of 2 grade A embryos, Beta on 6/28 C/P ((hugs)) working on improving DH?s issues, DH?s karyotyping normal, endo biopsy normal
rewdew ? Going straight to DE with ICSI after removal of one ovary and elevated FSH, also dealing with MFI, DE IVF #1 = BFN (((hugs))), 2 morulas frozen, planning on natural FET
stinkerbell6879 ? Beginning to look more seriously into DE, phone consult this week, looking into DE/Fresh vs. frozen, etc., consult scheduled, mock cycle monitoring and HSG complete, waiting on OBGyn appointment regarding fluid in uterus, DH needs to get SA done, psych eval and nurse consult complete, found out insurance will not cover frozen eggs, RE recommending endometrial biopsy, saline sono, and RLP
stinkerbell6879 ? Beginning to look more seriously into DE, phone consult this week, looking into DE/Fresh vs. frozen, etc., consult scheduled, mock cycle monitoring and HSG complete, waiting on OBGyn appointment regarding fluid in uterus, DH needs to get SA done
strunella ? AMA, low AMH, three losses (((hugs))), initial DE consult complete, scheduled psych eval and meeting with nurse, looking into frozen eggs to minimize wait time and costs, still deciding on frozen vs. fresh and which clinic to use, several tests planned for 2/4 (saline sonogram, endometrial biopsy and repeat loss panel)
SuzanneJesse ? Secondary recipient in shared DE cycle (2nd IVF after failed cycle with OE), ER last Sunday, 10 fertilized normally, 9 still growing, 5dt of 2 embryos, beta on 11/11, 4 frozen embryos, C/P, WTF appointment, now looking at uterine and thyroid issues (thyroglobulin antibodies ? precursor to Hashimoto?s), will ask to be put on Synthroid, consulting with hematologist regarding the possibility of Lovenox, BA, and Folgard, SHG coming up, cycle likely in February
Looking into Options
BootsOrHearts ? Talking with RE about whether to use OE or DE, severe DOR and AMA
brooklynesque ? May try one more cycle with OE but considering DE due to serious egg maturity issues, started looking at DE profiles and agencies
BzeetyD ? Considering DE after one more cycle with OE, researching clinics and looking for databases/registries that offer semi-open donation, WTF consult scheduled to discuss cycling with OE and possibly DE
hrtbreakr ? Has been going through IVF/Infertility for 4 years, told DE is the best option
kflynn81 ? Currently cycling with OE, hoping to cycle again by July, starting to research DE options, getting several second opinions, phone consult with CCRM on 2/21
~*~Graduates~*~
2MamazInSeattle ? DE cycle, ET anticipated for December 9-15, found lower price for Follistim, suppression check on 11/6 and everything looked good, signed consents and made payment, DS delivered, , lining looked good, donor started stims on 11/25, ER ? 19R, 14M, 11F, 5dt completed! Transferred one blast and have 3 frosties, positive HPT?s ? BFP! Saw the heartbeat! NT scan and cell-free DNA test on 2/8
AmCheri ? BFP after first DE cycle, 5dt of one embie resulted in baby girl with due date of 6/16, donor cycling again in April for some hopeful frozen embryos
amethysgrrl ? Pursuing DE, have selected a clinic and a donor, planning for a June cycle, successfully completed evaluation cycle and had SHG done, got calendar! Began Lupron on 5/22, Cleared to begin cycle! ER planned between 6/14 and 6/17 with ET between 6/17 and 6/22, transfer complete, Beta 7/2 ? BFP! Twins! First OB appt. was on 8/6, two boys! A/S scheduled for 10/17, baby boys born 1/15/13 at 32 1/2 weeks
ashleyann82 ? Chose a new donor after first one backed out, shared cycle, DE eSET on 6/19, 4 frozen, BFP! Heartbeat is looking great on ultrasounds, baby looked great on a/s, it?s a BOY!, failed GTT, appointments set up with RN and dietician, going to start exercising more and watching diet, hit 35/35 milestone
bluebabka ? DE IVF #1 - 13 eggs retrieved, ET of 2 blasts on 2/19, BFP! First u/s showed two but follow-up showed one beautiful baby with a heartbeat of 174, baby boy born 11/3 via C-section, planning on FET in April or May
BRSAugust20 ? BFP (singleton)! J is here! Contemplating next steps regarding frozen embryo, on RESOLVE parent panels!
Bubs711 ? Selected donor! Sonogram as follow-up from mammogram showed fibrocystic breasts, biopsy of both breasts on 2/16 ? mass was drained, TSH came back high, went on Synthroid, ET of 2 day 5 embryos, beta #1 = 477, beta #2=1,777, first u/s on 4/25 showed one heartbeat, EDD is 12/12/12, it?s a girl!
chicagobride_07 ? DE-IVF cycle in July was a BFN, follow-up testing showed elevated lupus anti-coagulant (hematologist thinks it was an aberration), blood work - waiting for results, pap, mammogram - normal, TSH high - referred to a medical endocrinologist, everything came back normal, started delestrogen in preparation for FET, everything looked good with lining check and blood work, ET of 2 blasts, somewhat low betas, Betas continued to rise! Heart heartbeat at u/s! Bleeding scare but everything still looking good, U/S at just over 9 weeks looked good! Tapering off of PIO, Verifi test looked good, it?s a girl!
dreamalotmp ? DOR, AMA, DE IVF + ICSI cycle, chose donor, cycle planned for November, donor dropped out of the program but selected a new one, ER and ET complete, BFP! Beta #1 = 243, Beta #2 = 489, first u/s showed one healthy developing yolk sac, everything looked good on first trimester screening, diagnosed with gestational diabetes, great anatomy scan on 3/5 showed a girl! First monthly growth u/s complete, baby looking great, baby daughter H. born on 8/1
hooliface ? DE cycle, transferred 2 embryos (8 cell compounding grade B+ and an 8 cell grade on day 3, BFP!
Imanurse03 ? DE IVF #1 - ER on 5/31, ET on 6/4, 16 frozen embryos! BFP! It?s a BOY! Complications including low amniotic fluid levels, IUGR, welcomed baby boy on 1/18/12! Making some decisions about timing of FET for baby #2
jcath ? Donor egg cycle with frozen egg bank, chose donor and back-up, had endo biopsy, 5dt on 1/26, beta #1 = 118, betas have been good, first u/s on 2/21 showed identical twin girls! Arrived safely on 9/2/11, talking more each day, officially donated remaining frozen embryo
jhleap ? Has a toddler from DE, did an FET in November and got a BFP, expecting baby #2 in early August, first OB appointment scheduled for week of 1/16, baby girl born 8/10!
JM1977 ? DE IVF #1 = BFN, DE IVF #2 - eSET on day 5 (12/15/10), beta on 12/28 = 1,035, beta on 12/30 = 2,234, first OB appointment showed baby measuring right on track, baby girl M arrived on 8/30/11! TTC #2: Mock ET, sonogram, and blood work on 11/12, transfer of 1 frozen embryo on 1/21, beta on 2/4 = 5,213, everything looking good at first u/s on 2/20
koyn ? Cycled at RBA, transferred 2 embryos on 9/19, froze 1, BFP!! Beta #3 was 14,621, first u/s showed TWINS! 1st MFM appointment and saw both babies dancing around
LBR_NJ/LisaBRM ? BFP! Baby girl Alana arrived on 12/9/09! FET scheduled for 12/10 but embryo did not survive the thaw (((hugs)))
lenebene ? Split DE cycle underway, on estrogen, donor started stims, ER on 4/25, ET is done - BFP! Beta #1 = 314, Beta #2 = 664, u/s showed one bean, u/s #2 saw heartbeat again, released to OB, team green!
lhcooper ? Cycling with DE at out-of-state clinic, ER 12/5 - 16 eggs retrieved, got 5 in split cycle, 4 mature, 3 fertilized, 5dt of one embryo on 12/10, beta #1=413, beta #2= 3952, first u/s showed a healthy baby with heartbeat of 138 bpm, second u/s also went great, CVS on 2/14 showed healthy baby GIRL! Starting monthly growth scans, beautiful big baby girl arrived 8/31/12!
lisaiesha ? DE cycle with an anonymous, proven donor, transferred one Day 5 blast on 3/12 ? BFP! Due date was 11/29
lunatwo ? September cycle cancelled due to ovulating on Lupron, DE IVF#1 - ER was 11/11, 13 eggs, 6 fertilized, 5 B-grade embryos, ET on 11/16, BFP! Beta #1 = 485, Beta #2 = 2,495, first u/s showed twins!! A boy and a girl!
lynn0926 ? Pursuing DE out of state, found a local clinic willing to do monitoring and submit to insurance, started mock cycle on 4/2, accepted into guarantee program and lining looks good, chose a new donor, donor started stims on 6/8, 25 fertilized embies! Transfer on the 6/28, HPTs+, Beta 2500! 2nd beta at 13dp5dt was 6131, first u/s showed TWINS! Had NT scan, everything going well, it?s 2 boys!
Mama-Bear ? GC due with baby boy on 5/6
njohnson1972 ? Last attempt with OE, transferred 2 embryos on 11/6, BFP! Jack is here! IVF cycle with OE unsuccessful, currently on a break and pursuing DE during the summer
PetraStonegirl ? Fresh-frozen DE cycle in late July, had scar tissue and uterine septum resection in May, has 3 five day frosties! sFET was cancelled due to insufficient lining, restarting new cycle, on delestrogen, lining check went well, starting PEO, sFET went well, BFP! Beta #1=291, betas still climbing strongly, many u/s with RE before graduating to OB, NT scan results looked great, diagnosed with placenta previa, but it has now cleared! Dealing with labile hypertension, C-section no later than 5/13, scale prompted L&D visit but everything is OK
RachelD83 ? BFP on 2nd FET (single embryo transfer) - boy! Jonathan born on 12/8 at 38w3d, he's starting to crawl!
rebaann ? Two pregnancies from IUI that ended in miscarriages and D&C?s (((hugs))), now pursuing DE, mock ET on 4/12, everything looked good on repeat HSG, repeat S/A, mammogram, social work consult, injection training, mock EEP cycle, picked a donor! Transferred 2 embryos, BFP! Beta #1 = 820, Betas 2 and 3 were great, u/s on 10/1 showed one baby measuring right on track with a heartbeat of 125, first OB appointment on 10/22 uneventful, everything looked good at NT scan, put on baby aspirin because of blood pressure
sekura ? Had WTF for IVF#1 and decided that DE is best option, cycled at RBA?s frozen egg program, 3 out of 5 donor eggs fertilized, 5dt of 1 blast on 5/12, beta is 5/22, also have 2 frozen embryos ? BFP! Beta #1=306, Beta #2-818, NT scan and b/w all looked good
shyntrue ? Donor selected! Surgery to have septum removed, cycle postponed to December, had second SHG and uterus looked good, DE IVF#1 - 3dt of 2 embryos on 12/10, BFP! Beta #1=890, Beta #2=10,967, first u/s on 1/11 showed TWINS! NT scan scheduled for 2/24, two trips to the ER and an overnight hospital stay, extensive u/s showed (most likely) 2 boys! Failed 1-hour glucose test and going back for 3-hour, Boys have arrived!
strudel82 ? Success with DE cycle in Dec., pregnant with twin girls! Girls born early, they are home! 2-week NICU appointment and they are doing great, considering another DE cycle for a sibling, going to be a gestational carrier for another couple! Met the IPs, screenings coming up and hoping for April cycle (FET), screenings and then contracts planned
Re: ~*~DE/DEmbryo/GC Check-in~*~
Well, today was endo biopsy #2...'cause I had so much fun the first time! Apparently, they didn't get any tissue the first time. Aarrgh! Good news is that my recurrent loss panel and saline sono results came back normal.
Finally confessed to my nurse that we will be cycling at another clinic and using the local clinic for monitoring and testing. She seemed a bit short after hearing that, but maybe I imagined it.
So, now we race against the clock. I'm hoping to start meds on March 14. Tomorrow DH and I both have our bloodwork (last of our pre-screen testing) and then I just have to keep fingers crossed that I can get all the results to my new clinic quickly to stay on schedule.
Can't think of any questions right now, but I'm sure I'll have some soon!
Good luck to everyone who is almost at transfer or waiting on betas!
Stunella-Hoping that you will be able to get all that you need in place to start meds on March 14.
GL to anyone cycling and (((hugs))) to all who need them.
Nothing new here-Baseline on 3/18. Got my much smaller box in the mail (when compared to when I cycled with my OE) yesterday. I have spent so much time waiting-ready to get this party started.
We had an incredible meeting with a clinic up in NY on 2/25, and we took home four, yes FOUR donor embryo files for us to look over and decide from. I think the entire ride home, every 15 minutes, I'd look at DH and scream "holy crap!!!" I can't believe that we've gone from 12-18 months waiting time, to "how does May 2013 sound for you?"
So, we're right now in the processing of deciding which embryo profile we like best. We have narrowed it down to two from the four we took home. Hopefully we'll decide next week, and we'll call them back to let them know which one we've chose. I have to go for a saline sono soon, and we both need to get baseline b/w done too. I think we're doing that on Monday just so we can get it out of the way. I'll be monitored locally with my latest RE, who the doctor in NY knows well. Awesome.
Good luck to everyone, best wishes!
JM1977-thank you for doing the check it!! It's most appreciated
update: on 2/18 we transferred 2 good embies. The 4 we had left didn't make it to freeze I have NO patience so I POAS at 6dp3dt and it was a super faint positive. I've POAS at least once a day since then with darker lines really hoping this is it!! My RE makes us wait 2 weeks after transfer for beta, so I go in on Monday. Seriously. The. Longest. Week. Ever!!!!! I've done pretty good keeping my mouth shut. I have 2 bff's and my mom that know I'm going through this right now. It's been hard to not tell them about the HPT, but hubby wants to wait til mon for betas. I'm pretty impressed I've been able to hold out. I'm hoping this weekend flies by.
QOTW: everyone in our family knows we were pursuing adoption...only a select few know about us doing ivf. Wondering if any ladies have advice on how to handle the questions I know will arise when/if this cycle works out?? I guess I'm wondering how to field the "see, as soon as you sign up to adopt....you'll get pg" comments. Because its not like this just happened naturally, and I'm still really sad that our adoption journey didn't end up as we planned or hoped. I'm not sure i feel I need to disclose all the information b/c it's not really anyone business.
DD conceived with no issues, but born at 33 weeks due to PPROM
loss #1-06/2010 loss #2-2/2011 loss #3-5/2011
07/2011 dx with a Balanced Translocation
9/2011-decided on domestic infant adoption 10/2011-signed with an agency and getting ready for homestudy
12-2012-after being with our agency over a year and only shown to EM once we decided to talk with RE about DEIVF. Thru a crazy sequence of events we decided to go for it and we picked a donor MUCH quicker than anticipated
1/13/2013-started lupron with anticipated transfer in mid Feb.
ER 2/15 resulted in 15 eggs/10M/6F with ICSI.
2/18 transferred 1-8cell and 1-9cell embie. Snuggle in little embies.
positive on HPT 6dp3dt. Could this really be IT?!?! Beta 14dp3dt=2440. U/S scheduled for 3/20.
My update: I had a bit of a setback this week...first I found out that they needed to redraw 4 blood tests (check!) and second, I'm definitely not going to be cycling in April. My consultation is scheduled for mid-March and they told me to expect another 1.5 to 2 months after that, so it will give whatever immune treatments they are recommending some time to do their job. So if I'm lucky, maybe I'll be cycling in June?
QOTW: Anything you've been wondering about (suggestions for future QOTW)? I think this may have been discussed before, but perhaps not on this board, as we're still pretty new. That said, here is my long winded explanation for my question (LOL)...Assuming I'm successful using DE, I plan on telling my future child(ren) about how they were conceived (in an age appropriate way, of course.) That said, I kind of struggle with sharing this information with others (aside from really close friends or immediate family), because utlimately, I don't think EVERYONE needs to know these intimate details and...thinking of my child(ren), I think when they are old enough, it should be their decision on how much information they want to share with others....so my question would be...How do you plan on sharing the details of using DE/DS with your children as well as family/friends?
Me: AMA, DOR, undetectable AMH, carrier of SMA, MTHFR homozygous C677T, high cytokines, low IGg B cells, Factor XIII V34l mutation, High Anti-Phosphatidylethanolmine, borderline hypothyroid and mildly insulin resistant.
MH: No known issues, aside from MTHFR.
Recommendations from RI: LIT, Humira, IVIG, Lovenox, Baby Aspirin, Folic Acid, Low-dose synthroid and Metformin.
Currently taking: Pre-Natal vitamins, Foltanx, Low-dose synthroid and Metformin.
When cycling also taking: Baby Aspirin, Lovenox, Humira and IVIG.
TTC since 7/11/09..with medical intervention starting in 2010, including 4 failed IVF's and 6 failed IUI's...only "success" was a chemical pregnancy in 11/2012 (credited to use of DE).
FET #1 (11th cycle) on 8/23/13 = BFN.
FET #2 (12th cycle) Transfer of last two (day 6) donor egg blasts on 1/22/14 = BFP, EDD = 10/10/14 (please stick little BOY!)
My favorite breed:
***PAIF/SAIF always welcome***
Same sex couple MK doing shared maternity IVF with donor sperm after 5 failed IUIs for M and one loss. K is on follistim and menapur for DE, M is on Lupron for ET. Monitoring of K on 3/1 showed good response to stims, 16 follicles and increasing before ER scheduled for 3/8. Waiting to see what we get for possible fresh transfer to M in early midMarch.
TTC with RE since March 2012
3 missed O's, 6 IUIs = 1 BFP then 8 w M/C, 5 BFNs
(2 unmedicated IUIs, 2 clomid IUI, 2 femara IUI)
Shared maternity/partner IVF, transfer #1 BFP!
EDD 11/28/13
we are just getting started with the DE process but this is a concern I've had. I would love to hear what others think about this one. All the articles and books I've read on it say its important to have an open and honest relationship with your kids so telling them is something that simpler needs to happen, but when?
I know one lady in person who has twins with a DE and she just told them the story of how much mommy and daddy wanted babies and how they came to be. She started telling the story at a very young age so the kids just grew up knowing like it was no big deal. They have had a few awkward moments when the kids blurted it out at weird times but other than that it hasn't been an issue. I kind of like that method but I'll have to consider it more.
There is a pretty good article about it here: https://parentsviaeggdonation.org/disclosure.html
We have our transfer tomorrow morning. Right now we have 7 good/excellent embryos and 12 others. I am terrified.
I think ideas for telling the children about the donor are a great idea. I have already been thinking about this.
I'll be 31w tomorroww, I can't believe how quickly this pg has flown by.
QOTW: The only thing I'm really wondering about is what it will feel like to see my IP's with their baby boy the first time. We're getting so close, and I can't wait for them to meet him face to face.
GSx1 - 05/13/2013
GSx2 for T&B - EDD 6/21/2015 - They're having a GIRL!
Update: I passed my lining check finally, and will have my ET mid-next week!
QOTW: I agree with others, how to talk about use of DE with children is something I always think about.
SAIF Always Welcome
TTC #1 since Fall 2008
High FSH, Sertoli Cell Only Syndrome
Unsuccessful with my OE, moving to DE + DS
DE + DS IVF #1: Dec 2012 - BFP, nothing at first u/s
DE + DS IVF #3: 7/12/13 - BFP! Finally! No heartbeat at 7w1d.
Hi Ladies!
I haven't been around at all since the boys were born. They are 8 months 2 weeks (6 months 2 weeks adjusted) They are doing great. Both are over 20 lbs (started out at 3.15 & 3.06) They are sitting up and rolling around on the floor. If I knew how to do pictures I would post one. Can't even figure out how to update my siggy...
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Hope all of you are doing well!
Laura