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DH vent

SarahRae85SarahRae85 member
in March 2013 Moms

Preface: 99% of the time, my DH is great. Super supportive, completely unselfish, really great about making me feel like I'm attractive (even with the belly), quick to help out, etc.

But, right now, I want to strangle him. He had it easy with our first two pregnancies. I never experienced false labor. We went to the hospital once with each and had babies within 12 hours both times. It was basically a breeze for him and, other than the c-section with the 2nd, pretty easy and straight forward for me.

This time, we're enjoying the "full experience". I started having prodromal labor about 10 days ago. DH assumed contractions meant labor and he'd be getting his week off of work soon (even offered to call into work when I had 2 hours of timeable contractions at 36w2d). I was pestered for the rest of the day with several phone calls and texts basically asking if I was in labor yet and it hasn't stopped for 10 days since. He got on google and looked up ways to encourage labor and has been pestering me about those, too. When I tell him nothing's happening, I get a text suggesting I bounce on my birthing ball or a suggestion to clean the tub (cleaning our tub is what I was doing before labor started with our first).

As if false labor and these last few weeks weren't frustrating enough. I had casually mentioned that 2nd and 3rd babies usually come sooner than the first, so now that we're less than a week away from the gestational age I had my first, he's getting frustrated with it. I want to strangle him. Yes, a large part of me expected to have gone into labor by this point (though I'm not yet 38 weeks), especially with prodromal labor started at 36w2d and our 2nd coming at 36w4d. Not to mention, my doctor got into my head as well, though I tried to ignore him saying "you'll definitely go early" because logically I know he has no way of knowing that.

I'm so sick of the texts and the phone calls. I can't even have gas pains with DH hovering over me and asking a dozen questions for the next 20 minutes. If I groan as I roll over in bed at night, DH wakes up to ask if I'm having a contraction. If he notices me half-awake as he gets up at 5:30 for work, he'll ask if I've had any contractions. The other day, I'd had contractions from 11pm to 2am before I finally fell asleep and they woke me up at 5. I hadn't been awake for 10 minutes before DH was breathing down my neck asking if I was in labor. 10 minutes. I had only been able to time one of them and I was still half asleep. When they stopped 2 hours later, he called and got grumpy when I told him they'd stopped. I started crying over the phone (I'd only had 3 hours of sleep, I was disappointed, and my kids were awake so I had to power through all of it) This morning, he called me and asked if I was having contractions still (I'd had a few last night), when I told him "no" he got grumpy and said "well, that's annoying". Except he wasn't annoyed on my behalf, no he was annoyed because he wants the week off of work and he's getting impatient waiting for it. 

ARGH!!!!!!

I love my DH, but seriously... we're going to have to have a talk because I might snap soon. 

DD- 11/17/08, DD- 11/16/09, DS- 3/20/13 
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Re: DH vent

  • mammamia24mammamia24 member
    You're a lot more patient than me. Hubby would have gotten an earful or something thrown at him if it were me.
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  • emisiemisi member
    Ha, that does sound frustrating.  I'd have a talk with him, but maybe try to have it in a calm frame of mind first.  Try to come at it from another angle - he's excited and nervous, and the only labor he's experienced with you was straightforward, so he's having to learn all of this again.  At least he's excited, right?
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  • doremi29doremi29 member
    Yeah, I'd totally just tell him to zip it and no more texts about whether or not it's time.  I'm sure he'll be the first person you let know lol
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  • candrecocandreco
    And you haven't told him to knock it off why?  I don't get why you didn't just tell him to stop after the first couple days of it.
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  • Stacey209Stacey209 member
    I would talk to him calmly - he is excited and has the best intentions.  But then on the flip side, dont be mad when he stops texting, calling and asking how you are.
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