Father to be's reaction

Clairee125 · March 2013

I found out about two days ago that I am 5 weeks pregnant. I told the father yesterday in person.. He just sat there and didn't say a word for 20 mins. I asked if he was alright and he shook his head yes. I asked if he wanted me to leave him alone and he shook his head no. Then 5 mins later he stood up, gathered his things, said,"I'm sorry, I am going home." He then left and I still haven't heard from him. How have your fathers reacted? Is this a normal reaction?

Ps we weren't dating but we had a thing going for about 2 months and we are on the same fire department. I am 20 and he is 28.

20thirteen · March 2013

My ex sat there and kept saying "oh my god... are you sure?". He pushed me to terminate, I said no but was willing to place baby up for adoption. He dumped me on Christmas because he wasn't ready to be a father, but then revealed he had been cheating on me with a girl who had a kid of her own. So... he's a douche. Your situation, I'm not sure about. I would probably give him a little space but maybe if you don't hear from him in another day or two, reach out to him and tell him that you guys need to discuss this situation. It's not going to go away (unless you terminate the pregnancy).

tracy41 · March 2013

I don't think there is any one normal reaction. He is probably in shock and hopefully he'll work through it and be there for you. Mine was the opposite. He handled me telling him fine then proceeded to ignore the fact I was pregnant. Good luck and concentrate on taking care of yourself!

Sheenafontenot · March 2013

Mine had the same reaction. He still stayed over but didn't say words for days. Finally I told him if it was going to be awkward he should just take some time at home. It's been 3 weeks since telling him the news and he is still in shock. He pushed to terminate and I finally told him there is no way I'm doing that so he can either deal with it or walk. Not sure what the final result will be yet. My dad said give him space. If he's any kind of man he will take responsibility and be there. If not you don't want him.

preggersin2011 · March 2013

Everyone reacts in their own way. If you are 5 weeks pregnant then you conceived 3 weeks ago but you have only been 'seeing' him for about 2 months? I'm surprised he didn't claim it wasn't his. That sounds like it went well to me.

inthelost · March 2013

I'm hoping that he's just in shock and that he will come around..give him some time. My BD's reaction was worse. He immediately went to his computer, looked up an abortion clinic and pushed me to go THAT day and told me it "wasn't my choice to make" and "every day I wasted it was just going to cost more money" (to terminate) It pissed me off. I'm sorry he didn't take it so well, and we're here for you if you need support!

Nichollini · March 2013

I'm currently 14 weeks and told the baby's father when I was 5 weeks. We weren't dating, just fooled around once. He pushed me to terminate twice but I said no. Of course he didn't like that. He continued to text me every single day telling me that he is sterile and that the baby is not his. Well, it's not like I'm out bed hopping! Needless to say, he's pretending that he's never met me in his entire life and I haven't heard from him in 7 weeks.

BNMQWE09 · March 2013

I found out when i was 9 weeks , and my babys daddy just kept saying how this happen and wasnt i on birth control... We had only dated a few months , my family just told me to give him time and he would come around... But it didnt help at all , i got none stop calls and text telling me to terminate the pregnancy and i told him this wasnt an option..He was even bothering me at my place of work.. I finally told him if he didnt want anything to do with it , to move on... That didnt really work either he jsut became more and more crazy about terminate... It only took me a few days to realize i dont want someone like that around my child... Yes it is hard and upsetting, but i feel god has a plan and everything works out the way its suppose to... Keep your head up and dont tried to control what is out of your control... God bless and have a great pregnancy. Smile

Amo35 · March 2013

Mine didn't talk to me for two weeks in fact he blocked me on FB! When he did talk to me, it was to accuse me of being on fertility meds. We now talk again but, it's just not the same as before....it's going to take a lot for me to trust him. Yours is just probably freaking out from the shock like mine did, not saying it justifies his behavior though! Hang in there, it will all work out!

3222w27thst · March 2013

I know from expierence when I told mine all he did was walk away. No words or nothing. He is in shock and depending on the gie it can last a while. Im a little over 2 months and mine is still in shock, he even changes the channel if there is a baby movie on tv. Were all grown here and we know what were doing when we fool around, If you plan on keeping your baby then he needs to man up. I would say give him a bit of time but then yet he had intercourse so he has to man up. Try n understand where is coming from, he is 28 no kids (im assuming cause you didnt state he had any) 2 months later BAMM!!

I say its normal but no pregnant women wants to feel unwanted so good luck to you and hope it works for you and your baby

jnjmommy0609 · March 2013

My ex pretty much didn't believe our son was his until after he was born and had the paternity test. He has since stepped up.

To me the guy sounds like he is just trying to gather his thoughts. His life just changed in the matter minutes...can't blame him for reacting that way. But his next step is what counts. Let's hope he sucks it up and does what he needs to do which decide he needs to be a good father. You don't have to be in a relationship to be a good parenting team.

Watergirl21 · March 2013

Men can be weird about thus kind if thing.. Takes them time to process.

bripratt2 · March 2013

O he was super excited then when I wasn't too happy about him cheating on me and the hormones started kicking in he wanted me to get an abortion...

DawnFriedman25 · April 2013

My ex and I were together about a month and a half when I found out. He was excited and then a month later I found out he was responding to casual sex ads on Craigslist trying to meet up with random women and couples. Needless to say I left the state and moved back in with my parents I have been back almost 5 months and I have yet to hear from him. Some guys just aren't cutout to be dads.

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