Toddlers: 24 Months+

Affection

I grew up in a very affection household, always plenty of hugs and kisses.  I am doing the same with my kids, DD will sometimes just come and sit my lap so I can play with her hair or rub her back.  DD in turn is a very affectionate kid, always kissing her baby brother and playing with his hair (what little of it he has :)

Anyway, recently I have been noticing her go up to kids at gym class and try to play with their hair, rub their arms and on one occasion she tried to kiss a boy on his arm.  That time I just said, "Why don't you just blow him a kiss?"  Which she did, but then continued to rub his arm.  I guess I'm just wondering how I should be explaining at this age that other people might not want to be touched without discouraging her loving, nurturing nature?  Also would this bother you as another parent, if a kid in class was rubbing your kids arm or showing affection if you didn't know them?  I don't think it would bother me, though I don't like kissing just because of the germ factor.  But that's just me, thoughts? 

Re: Affection

  • Another boy at my kid's daycare used to give DS a big kiss each morning! I thought it was adorable. I'd much rather see affectionate kids than bratty kids who hurt others!
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  • It wouldn't really bother me as a parent, because kids are kids and some are affectionate like that. But it would bother the crap out of my daughter who, at 3, still dislikes giving most anyone hugs, kisses, hand holding, or anything except, maybe, a high five.  And if your kid continued to insist on affectionate stuff to my kid that she didn't want, *then* I would get annoyed.  (But still understand, kids can be kids, and it's just a good time for teaching about personal space and respecting other people's decisions NOT to be affectionate.)
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  • When DS was 2 he went to dc with a little girl who liked to hug him, kiss him hold his hand. I thought it was cute. I did encourage cheek kisses not mouth kisses in hopes of limiting germs, as if that's even possible. If another child didn't want the attention I would just explain. I'd much rather see DS getting hugged by other kids than mean behavior.
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  • I would let the other child try communicating. Your daughter is just fine. I think she sounds adorable!
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