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MIL supplimenting BM w/ Formula?!

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I just found out that my MIL has been feeding my LO (8 months) formula in addition to my breastmilk!  Does this sound OK to anyone at all for any reason?  My DH and I were not consulted.  It's not like formula is bad for a baby, but what if there were allergies?  What if I want to solely breastfeed?  When talking with my pediatrician it might be nice to know he is taking formula! 

I should add that MIL only watches him on Fridays, so maybe I'm overreacting.  I just do not think there is any circumstance that would permit a MIL to make a decision of this magnitude without first consulting the parents.  Even then I think it's none of her business.  I provide her with everything he needs to eat for the day and more when we leave him.  I pump constantly to ensure I can provide enough milk for LO so we don't have to feed him formula!

I have to pick up my LO after work today and need some advice from other mommies!

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  • Ladiebug710Ladiebug710 member
    I would be extremely upset.  That was not her decision to make.  I don't even know how I would handle it, but I feel it is a HUGE betrayal of your trust.

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  • thebokitheboki member
    Oh H3LL no!  My baby only eats breastmilk and there's no way I would allow anyone to feed her anything else.
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  • Starbear06Starbear06 member
    I would be upset as well. This is not her decision to make. Even if she only watches your baby once a week, the fact she did it without even a mention to the parents. Did she just go out and buy formula herself? How would she know which to buy or if LO was allergic is any of them?
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  • mben1119mben1119 member
    You're completely right to be upset. Decisions like that are to be made by the parent, end of story. I wouldn't allow her to be alone with my LO for a while after this.
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  • ASmallWonderASmallWonder member
    I FF my son but Jesus, would I be pissed.  WTF is her reasoning?  How did you find out and have you talked and DH talked to her at all?  I honestly can't get over it and how angry I'd be.
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  • strawberrytreestrawberrytree member
    I would flip my shiz if my MIL did that. You work hard pumping to provide your baby with breastmilk. It is not her call to make and she has overstepped. If it was my MIL I would tell her that today is the last time she'll be babysitting LO if she cannot respect you enough to follow something as simple as that. I wouldn't trust her again to follow instructions I left for a long, lone time. 

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  • HennessyHennessy member

    Heck, my MIL watches DS 5 days a week and I get upset if she changes his clothes during the day.  Some days she just doesn't like the way we dress him and feels that he should be in "warmer" clothes (even though he is appropriately dressed for the weather) this is a far longer story but...... my point is, I'd be FURIOUS if she took it upon herself to make such an important decision without consulting us first.

    How did you find this out?   You absolutely need to address this with her on a couple of levels.. 1st her respecting your right to make all important decisions for your son (dietary being just one) and 2nd the health concerns that she could have caused by doing something like this without telling you.

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  • vic8504vic8504 member

    I would NOT be okay with this. I would tell MIL if she can't respect your decisions then she will no longer be allowed to watch him.

     



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  • pghmortdollpghmortdoll member
    I would be livid. That would be the last time she watched my child. No one makes decisions like that except the parents. That is completely out of line. I hope you talk to your DH and he is on your side. You two need to talk with her together and make Sure She knows this is a huge deal.

    Sorry you are dealing with this. I am really frustrated for you right now.

     

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  • Katie829Katie829 member

    I would be so angry. I work really hard to BF. I hate pumping but I do it to insure she gets my BM.

    I know my MIL is convinced I don't feed DD enough and has given her too much milk in one visit but if she ever went against my parenting like that, I would never leave her alone with my DD until she rebuild that trust.

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