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I am ordering my oldest childs graduation cap, gown and announcements, at a cost of $250.00.  I won't need 25 announcements as we do not have a lot of family.  BD can not seem to pay his child support or half of medical so I am doubtful that he will help with this expense.  Is it wrong of me to tell him if he wants annoucements to send to is family or friends they will be a certain $ amount per annoucement?  I will be sending one to his mom and dad as we are on good terms and that is my sons grandparents but as for anyone else I do not feel it is my responsiblity and I shouldn't have to foot the bill for him.  What would you do?
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  • HopeforthebestHopeforthebest member
    I'd give him the ordering information so he could order his own set and how many he wants.
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  • jenjen930jenjen930 member
    I agree.  His family and friends are not your responsibility.  I am totally okay with paying for our own announcements for my SD, and actually would expect no less.
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  • +just+j++just+j+ member

    imageHopeforthebest:
    I'd give him the ordering information so he could order his own set and how many he wants.

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    Or what you suggested given his history, is not out of line either.

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  • J&A2008J&A2008 member
    Can't you rent the cap and gown for way less?
    Stay at home mom to a house of boys: two amazing stepsons, 12 and 9, and our 4 year old.
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  • 2chatter2chatter member

    We ordered and paid for everything that was needed.  We left the items like keychain, sweatshirt, etc for BM if she wants to contribute.  Our view was SS has one graduation and one family.  Not ordering invites for "BM's family" excludes part of SS' family.  It just was not worth it. 

    In our situation we pay much, much more than CO'd and BM contributes zero.  She does not work and spends like crazy.  We didn't want SS to be put in a situation due to her inability to be a decent person.

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  • Ginlyn0Ginlyn0 member
    I paid for 100% of all my nephew's graduation expenses including announcements. I expect I will pay 100% of my DD's as well.
    DD(14),SD(13),SS(11),SS(9),DS(3)

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  • SimpleJaneSimpleJane member
    image+just+j+:

    imageHopeforthebest:
    I'd give him the ordering information so he could order his own set and how many he wants.

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    Or what you suggested given his history, is not out of line either.



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  • coopsbabycoopsbaby member

    I ordered my dd's cap and gown through the school ($50), no help from bd and am doing her announcements myself (I do graphic design). We are not sending any to bd's family. My dd is not close to any of them, hasn't seen them in years, etc. 

     

    Given her age and past history with her father I leave most decisions about things like this up to her. We are hosting a big graduation bash for her this summer, and she has decided that if her dad cannot help pay for the party she will not be inviting him or any of his family to the party, and will not give him a ticket to her graduation either. He called me to tattle on her, and I told him she's nearly an adult, that is her decision not mine. If she wanted them all here, I'd be very happy to invite them, but she's old enough to make these kinds of calls. 

     

    Anyway, I think it would be fine to see if he'd like to buy the extras from you. Maybe he will, maybe he won't, but it won't hurt to ask. 

       
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