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MOTN feeding and weaning

Readyforbaby77Readyforbaby77
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First of all, hi! I am not a big poster, but I've been following a few boards since I was pregnant. I stay at home with my 8 month old ds.

The post earlier got me thinking. For those who said there comes a time to drop the motn feedings, how did you do that?

I'm no where near that point with ds although it would be nice if he could get down to just one or two. I'm just thinking ahead, because at this point I feel like he will be hard to wean. We currently bed share, and he will only fall asleep while eating. I feel like we fell into a horrible routine. Sometimes I feel like I have failed at the sleeping part.

I guess I strayed from the point, but I will take any advice you may have!
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Re: MOTN feeding and weaning

  • TiffanyBerryTiffanyBerry member

    You have all the time in the world, and how hard it is and how it goes depends very much on what age you do it.  Right now, he's not going to understand talking about it.  At nearly 3, my daughter is understanding it.

    And I wouldn't beat yourself up about him only nursing to sleep.  Every kid is different and some only nurse to sleep for a little while.  I promise you that will stop*, and you may well be sad about it because it becomes a new challenge to get LO to sleep. :)

    *For DD, she stopped nursing to sleep at night ~12 or 13mo, iirc.  Now, it takes about an hour for her to unwind and fall asleep.

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  • erbearerbear member

    I was planning to stop feeding overnight at a year, but both of my kids apparently knew that was coming and stopped waking up at 11 months.

    We did some sleep training with DD1 around 10 months (she was waking up 6-8 times a night and was MISERABLE) but didn't wean then. I've heard to decrease the time of the feeding and to break the sleep association of nursing to sleep. What happens if you don't nurse him to sleep (if you don't want to, of course. If you're ok with how things are going, keep doing whatever) 

    "Hello, babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. At the outside, babies, you've got about a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies. God damn it, you've got to be kind." - Kurt Vonnegut
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  • Readyforbaby77Readyforbaby77
    It is nice that I do kind of have a magic weapon to get him to sleep now, and I'm sure I will miss that later on.

    At this point, it just seems excessive. If he wakes up 3 times, it's a good night. But he can wake up almost every 90 mins. Like I said, I stay at home, so it's not like I have to work in the morning. But waking up that often is not good for either one of us, in terms of sleep cycle.

    If I don't nurse, he will end up screaming. My husband suggests CIO, but the cries really don't sound like they will stop, so we don't let him cry longer than just a few minutes. Then we both decide ds just isn't ready.
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  • blu-eyedwifeblu-eyedwife member

    It's different for every baby.

    For us, he dropped his MOTN feedings one at a time.  He was a great sleeper, up until 5 months and then he started waking often.  But eventually he went down to 2, then 1.  At 13 months he dropped MOTN feedings entirely.

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  • Merried_2008Merried_2008 member
    Just wanted to say you're not alone. I say this as I lay in bed with my nearly 7 month old. She is comfort nursing for her nap
    "When the first baby laughed for the first time, the laugh broke into a thousand pieces and they all went skipping about, and that was the beginning of fairies." Sir James Barrie in Peter Pan

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