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Heavy heart and reconsidering

bluejettabluejetta member
in September 2011 Moms

Up till 1 min ago I thought I was sure I didn't want another baby.  I have a twin brother and he is struggling with his fertility.  He and SIL desperately want children and I desperately want them to be happy.  My Dad told me today that bro is having a surgery tomorrow -- I didn't want to rat out my Dad so just sent bro an unrelated email and after some exchange he just sent me the nicest thing he's ever said (and he doesn't say much).

How can I not reconsider having a sibling for N? I know there are no guarantees and have seen plenty of poor examples in my family of sibling relationships gone astray but I also see how wonderfully powerful they can be.  To have someone that has your back, will move the world for you, etc.

Hmmm..... 

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Re: Heavy heart and reconsidering

  • JKGymnastJKGymnast member
    As a twin, with a VERY close relationship, and the youngest of five kids... I am a huge fan of siblings. It's not for everyone, but I cannot tell you how many times A DAY I'm thankful for my siblings. Friends come and go, but your family is forever. I would give a limb for one of them and they would for me.

    Best of luck whatever you decide. And best wishes for your brother and his infertility struggles... Poor guy. :[
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    Sorry to hear about your brother's problems, but it sounds like the two of you have a good relationship.  Whatever your family decides, at least you know you'll have some good cousins that N can count on through life.
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  • manda26manda26 member
    GL with your decision! Personally I cant imagine not having my siblings and I'm excited for O to have that one day too.
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  • T&HLoveT&HLove member

    I can't imagine not having my sisters! They're my best friends.

    GL, I hope you can come to a decision. Your dd will be happy either way :)

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  • bluejettabluejetta member
    Thanks ladies. We initially assumed we'd aim for two but we were re-considering for a host of reasons. I'm still not sure and am torn.
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