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They did it AGAIN (work vent)

PipSqueak0313PipSqueak0313 member
in March 2013 Moms

Twice now, the entire department where I work has gone to lunch without inviting me AND without letting me know they were ALL leaving. 

Back up a moment here: Each month the whole dept goes out for team building/friendship building/etc to celebrate the birthday of a member of the team (those who share a birth month are assigned to months with no birthdays based on seniority) The team usually leaves around 11-11:15 and returns 2ish hours later.  I started on 1/2 days in January. I verbally let the person in charge of organizing the birthday lunches know that since I would be leaving at 12 that I would not be able to attend the birthday lunch.  So I don't know if she took that to mean that I didn't need notification and/or invitation to join the dept for lunch until after LO is born or what.

At the same time, I find it unprofessional of my bosses to knowingly leave me as the only person in the office without checking in with me before leaving to verify that I not only know they are all leaving but also to verify I have no problems or questions that I need to address before I leave for the day.

 All in all, though, it's making me feel like I'm no longer a part of the team/department.  I was able to brush the first incident off as a fluke but not two consecutive incidents.  I even thought I was just over-reacting (being the hormonal pg lady here) so I stopped down to talk to HR and verified that this really was something I should bring up to my boss.

Thanks for "listening", now, let's get back to something fun.

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Re: They did it AGAIN (work vent)

  • ClandestineXClandestineX member

    The coordinator probably took it as "I will not be attending any more of them."

    I would just go back up to them and say that next time you would like to be invited... 

     

    Usually what I do is make sure they know if I wasn't going to a single particular reoccurring event, I make extra emphasis on saying it will just be that one single event I wasn't attending. Like something "I won't be going to -this/that- THIS time, but I will be there NEXT time for SURE." or something along those lines.

     
     
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    I also think there's nothing mean behind it, they took your update as in you won't be going to ANY of the lunches until you are back working full time.

    And they prob think you wouldn't need anything in the 45 min that would elapse btwn when they leave and when you would leave for the day.
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  • PipSqueak0313PipSqueak0313 member

    Just to clarify something with this....the invitation is a meeting request sent by email in Outlook so that it would show up on our individual calendars; the lunches are NOT posted on the department's shared calendar.

    My problem is NOT with them going to lunch without me -- it's with the lack of communication and what should be professional courtesy to keep ALL team members informed of things that affect them while at work.

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