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emarshall0113
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Dealing with people who don't understand pregnancy...
emarshall0113
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My husband and I got married just over 3 weeks ago. Apparently we conceived a wedding night baby because I am 5 weeks pregnant! The thing is, some people don't understand how pregnancy works (with counting from the first day of your LMP) and assume I was pregnant and that'w why we got married so quickly.
(just as a back story, my husband and I were engaged before and broke things off for a while...we got back together and decided we DID want to get married, so we did...QUICKLY lol.)
Anyway...we have told close family members that we are expecting and even a very small amount of close friends and we have had to deal with the ignorance of "oh so that's why you got married so fast!" ummm...no. Has anyone else had to deal with this kind of ignorance? How did you deal with it?
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Re: Dealing with people who don't understand pregnancy...
The more you insist you didn't get married because you were pregnant, the more it looks like you did.
Next time someone says it, just say, "I didn't know I was pregnant when we got married." If they push the matter, just let it roll off your back, its not worth getting angry.
Again, going into all that detail (though accurate) really looks like a "the lady doth protest too much, methinks" situation.
If they're judging you about a shotgun wedding, that's their problem - WGAS?
My grandparents had this happen when my grandmother was pregnant with my dad (their first child). She just told everyone that she was due a couple weeks later than she really was because she got sick of the comments. People thought my dad was born early, but in reality he was on time. It was lying, but it really saved her a lot of explaining.
Make a pregnancy ticker
FYI.. you did have sex 5 weeks ago to get pregnant..
The timing starts when you ovulate.. which is when your egg was released at this point the sperm meets the egg. Then the fertilized egg travels down your tube and inplants into your ute around week 2
Some education about your body..
https://www.webmd.com/baby/interactive-pregnancy-tool-fetal-development#week-1
I'm confused, couldn't she have conceived Feb. 15th and be 4w6d (essentially 5w) today? If she conceived 5 weeks ago, she would have been conceiving during her LMP.
thank you! =]
To a few others...no. Your pregnancy is calculated from the first day of your last period. That DOES NOT mean you conceived that day. The first day of my last period was Jan. 26. Pregnancy is calculated from that date, which is why doctors ask that and why pregnancy calculators ask for that date as well. If you enter that date, it will say the ESTIMATED conception date was around feb. 10th. We got married feb 13th so I am assuming that is the date of conception. (we did not have sex on the 10th).....Technically, your body is 2 weeks ahead of baby. This is my second child and I understand how the due date calculations work. I know its a little confusing but it's not that hard if you think about it.
I think this is the best advice.
People *think* they're being funny when they make jokes about you having a shotgun wedding not realizing that EVERY OTHER PERSON will also make that same lame joke. In reality I doubt anyone cares that much whether you did or not.
Umm No. She is 5 weeks based on LMP, she is not talking about the gestational age of the baby. 5 weeks ago she was on her period. So, if she has a text book cycle she ovulated 3 weeks ago, right around the wedding night.
Congrats OP. It really sucks that people make assumptions and make their "hilarious" jokes but they are just idiots lol. If you want, instead of just telling them how far along you are, tell them the estimated due date and that you got pregnant on your wedding night
Honestly I would tell people the fetus/ fetal age rather than going by LMP. I got tired of comments from friends that went by the date for LMP and said it all happened on New Years when it did not. No where near as annoying as your situation but I can understand.
I know for me, I was truthfully just trying to make sure I really understand how this is all calculated.
you are wrong. They count the weeks you are pg from the day of your last period. You find out you are pg at about 4 weeks. .... When you miss you period. The first 2 weeks of being of you are waiting to ovulate. You actually conceive during week 2. This is done because most women don't know when the ovulate
Seriously. I'm sorry I just don't see the point in discussing this issue in detail...it's no ones business.
Try not to let it bother you. We conceived DS 3 months after our wedding and I still caught people doing the math in their head. I say ignore it or lie about it.
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