Problem with the name

KKillian1029 · March 2013

Does anyone else have family that has a problem with the baby's name?!

Some of our family don't like what we picked out for our son but we will still name him Damon Eli but i was wondering if anyone else had a problem

MrsWindyCity · March 2013

We aren't sharing our names (and didn't share them the first time either), in case our family had something to say. It wouldn't change my mind, but I'm sure it would annoy me. :P

DesignsOnYou · March 2013

We've never shared our names prior to the baby's birth.

No one else's opinion matters except mom and dad's and the last thing we need is people nay-saying it.

I'm sure some people don't like our names but no one would dare say that after meeting the baby the first time.

Kmape36 · March 2013

Yep, my MIL doesn't like the name we picked out either, but i don't care. I've told her several times that it is our child - our decision. She has stopped saying anything to me but tells everyone else every chance she gets. Little does she know, it makes we like the name even more. hehe my evil side. I totally feel your pain but it is your child and a decision you guys get to make. For what it is worth, i love the name you picked out. Don't let anyone else make you question your choice!!!

SarahRae85 · March 2013

We pass on family names as middle names. MIL happened to be given a middle name with some family ties on her dad's side that just happened to also be my great grandmother's first name. It was pretty much a perfect pick to honor family, so we chose to give our 2nd daughter the middle name Ruth.

The moment we shared the decision with family, MIL was convinced we were only doing it to honor her (trust me, we weren't, it was more a nod to the woman SHE was named after for DH's grandfather's sake as well as my great grandmother) and spent months telling us how much DD would hate her name and what an ugly name it was and how much SHE hated it. Oy.

We haven't told MIL our decision for this LO's middle name. She is going to flip her lid when she finds out (and we want the paper work signed so she can do a double back flip and we can laugh at her for it). She hates DH's paternal side and the fact that we'd choose such an out-there middle name to honor DH's paternal grandfather will undoubtedly elicit a strong reaction from her. We're kind of looking forward to it and only wish we still lived nearby so we could actually SEE her reaction.

mrsjollybrown · March 2013

I was told not to share names because everyone will have an opinion. I however don't care what people think and/or say so I shared our name soon as we figured them out. Nobody told me they hated them. But if they had I would've told them when you have him you can have an opinion on his name. Simple as that.

KKillian1029 · March 2013

Well everyone is trying to figure different names to call him and trying to find nick names so they don't have to even call him Damon cause they say it to much like a devil name ....

i don't care thats what i want to name our son but its hurts that no one in the family wants to call him by his real name

shellmom22 · March 2013

We're not telling anyone the name we have picked out because we don't want to know what they think. It's our choice what we name our child.

Last week my mom said to me "I hope you aren't going to pick a weird name. You liked some really horrible ones back in high school" I flat out told her we didn't care what anyone thought and this kind of attitude was exactly why we weren't telling anyone. Her saying that to me did hurt my feelings but made me feel really good about our decision not to tell anyone the name.

If they are trying to come up for a nickname for your child I would either pick one yourself that they have to use or let them know that his name is Damon and that's what they will need to call him by. You could blame this a few things: so he be won't confused since you are calling him only by Damon or just tell them that is his name and they will have to call him that if they want to see him.

It may be harsh but in my experience once you let them walk over you it will be harder to set boundaries later.

GL

rm2013 · March 2013

DesignsOnYou:
We've never shared our names prior to the baby's birth.No one else's opinion matters except mom and dad's and the last thing we need is people naysaying it. I'm sure some people don't like our names but no one would dare say that after meeting the baby the first time.

This. Exactly why I refuse to share the name. People wont have much to say when the kid is here and the papers are signed, theres nothing they can do. Plus, I feel like I don't want anyone calling her by her name until she's actually here.

ShadyKull · March 2013

Like many others, we are keeping ours a secret also. I think that most people in our family/friends are considerate enough that they wouldn't share negativity if they didn't like the name, but just in case. . . and we like that it will be a surprise for everyone.

Sorry your family is being so difficult about it. It sounds like they are being very immature by trying to come up with different names and nicknames.

ClandestineX · March 2013

I shared with everyone what the possibilities of the names would be, I let my husband actually choose the entire name cause I am nice like that... he liked all my names I chose but he did some research himself and liked Connor as a first name.

I told everyone what the name would be and if they didn't like it, well tough.

JennKosh · March 2013

I just wanted to add that your relatives will very likely change their tune as soon as there is a little one physically attached to that name (which, I love by the way, so I think you guys are making a good choice!). They will be so in love with him, the pettiness they are exhibiting will hopefully subside.

Crequito · March 2013

We told people once we had completely decided ourselves and we actually haven't had any issues. My younger brother jokes (and yes I know he is completely joking) that Viviana sounds snobby and he's going to make up his own nickname for her. Our family has loved the name we picked out - at least I haven't heard through the grapevine that someone doesn't!

evelyntaylor · March 2013

Thankfully, no. But we are team green so this baby doesn't have an official name yet anyway. Who cares if they have a problem? Not their baby! Also, I love the name you picked!

ScarletOflaherty · March 2013

JennKosh:
I just wanted to add that your relatives will very likely change their tune as soon as there is a little one physically attached to that name (which, I love by the way, so I think you guys are making a good choice!). They will be so in love with him, the pettiness they are exhibiting will hopefully subside.

Completely agreed, I have a Damian, and I got a lot of the 'Makes me think of The Omen' comments, but once he was born no one cared. They forget kids under the age of 20 will never even have heard of that movie.

jkkg317 · March 2013

We decided on Dexter after our first son was born and since we both still liked it we used it this time. Everyone I know seems to hate it, I just smiled and told them that means he won't have a bunch of kids in his class named the same thing. A coworker said all the kids in kindergarten would call him Dexters Lab, and I pointed out that no one in his class will even have seen the show more than likely anyway.

watermellens · March 2013

mainerocks:
MrsWindyCity:
We aren't sharing our names (and didn't share them the first time either), in case our family had something to say. It wouldn't change my mind, but I'm sure it would annoy me. :P

This. The comments would drive me nuts. We didn't even tell the girl name after LO was born (boy) in case we use it this time. I don't want to hear the opinions )

ditto all of this

hmt7 · March 2013

Yes!! And even more so, we did not decide on the name until we were literally leaving the hospital and they needed the birth certificate!! Everyone was mad that we weren't sharing, but it was because we just didn't know. And even funnier...now that we have decided everyone keeps saying "oh...you named her after (insert family member)" because on both sides there are people with that name. Not true, but we let them believe what they want!

UberBiz · March 2013

Most everyone is ok with our name choice except my immediate family. Since we're not married yet, they are not keen on us using FI's name (to be "the third"). We had discussed going JOP before the baby comes, but I'm not sure what I want to do yet. Either way LO will be "the third" whether they like it or not.

Also, it's an unusual name, so my mom is always asking, "If you name it "V", what are you going to call him?" and I'm like, "I'm going to call him by his name. What else would I call him??"

ThursdaysAngel · March 2013

I am sorry and I feel your pain. Just to give you a different perspective... I'll share my story because I actually caved to the peer pressure. We had chosen the name "Jesse David" and heard a few "We can call him J.D." comments... those weren't so bad until I heard from my best friend/also a relative, that she didn't like the name and it would always remind her of so and so from where she lived before moving here.

I couldn't take naming my child a name that I actually knew someone didn't like... maybe it was hormones, maybe it was something else but it really bothered me. So we decided to switch the name... at that point my husband and I talked options, I wanted to name him with all three names beginning with the same letter... for instance our last name begins with a G so I thought of Grayson Gabriel and loved it. This is actually a tradition my Grandmother carried out and no one since has done it... I thought it'd be really cool! And I figured it wouldn't hurt anything since we were only have one or two children max.

My husband was not so keen on the idea and so we kept searching... deep in his heart he still loved the name we had picked out three years earlier (Jesse David) but in my mind... the name had been pretty much ruined. So needless to say we finally, after a long time of struggling... came up with a new name. Mason William (Middle name is also my husbands middle name)

Now you would think the problem would be solved but not so, we finally told everyone we had officially decided on a name and always asked that they not tell us if they didn't like it. So we told MIL and guess what she said after we told her... "His name is officially Mason William though we had considered Jesse David for a while." and she goes... "Well we are okay with the name Jesse David." (BIG surprise... David is a family name on both sides and surely they think it is because my husbands father and brother are both David's... but there is a grandfather and nephew on my side that are David's as well as that being my father and brothers middle name.)

Anyway... that bothered me for some reason because we had finally decided and come to love the name Mason William and here she was trying to set us back to a name I couldn't bring myself to use anymore. The whole thing was a mess for a while but once we stuck to Mason William and let everyone know that it was final and keep it to themselves if they didn't like it or knew someone named that or had any negative opinions what so ever. Thank goodness that is settled.

I wish you the best of luck in your situation and that things work out well for you. If you love the name you chose, keep it... if you decide to switch, that is okay too. No matter what, he is your baby and it's your decision and you need to do what feels right in your heart. If you want to be funny... you could jokingly tell everyone you decided to change the name to "Lucifer Hellfire" lol. I am just kidding but that might make them see that the name you chose really isn't so bad. Good luck.

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