I've read that it is typical for kids to behave one way at daycare, and another at home, but DD's Jekyll and Hyde routine is really wearing on me. The issue isn't even just with home vs. daycare, but it's about me vs. anyone else.
Daycare admitted at her "parent-teacher conference" that she is strong-willed and a little stubborn, but they said she is really engaged in all the activities and generally very happy, and very smart. One morning she threw a fit when I dropped her off because I took her sippy away and they were shocked. Apparently she doesn't do that for them. Also, at home, it takes 2 adults to change her diaper; no joke. It's like a wrestling match with tears and screaming. Apparently she also does not do that at daycare.
What is also frustrating is that she will play perfectly with someone else when I'm not around, but the second I show up, she becomes clingy and whiny. She only wants me, but sometimes she is not happy playing with me, she just wants to hang on me, or me to pick her up. She'll be perfectly happy at daycare when we pick her up, but as soon as she gets home, it's often a struggle and grumpiness through dinner until bed. When we get home, I do give her my undivided attention. We sit on the floor with her toys, but sometimes she just wants to sit on my lap and yell indiscriminately. Daddy tries to play with us too, and often she just bats him away.
Now, I'll admit she's still actively teething, and she's gotten a little worse about yelling since she broke her leg 2 weeks ago and can't get around as well, but this was all happening before that too. What gives? Am I doing something wrong? Is it that she's just tired after a long day? I am jealous that we don't always get the sweet little girl that daycare does.