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18 weeks and not excited yet.

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After thinking for the last few years that I couldn't even get pregnant, surprise doesn't come close to how I felt when I found out I was. In fact I cried in disbelief and had to make my boyfriend get the test from the bathroom floor since I couldn't say anything. Even though my family's know for awhile,though we've seen a sonogram, even if my boyfriend is so so happy, we've heard the heartbeat, I feel like I'm still in denial. I'm just not happy about it yet. Maybe its because its not when I wanted it, or my family's isn't as happy about as I thought they'd be eventually, or just because our situation isn't the greatest, or maybe I just feel detached from it all. I keep hoping I'm going to wake up one day ecstatic, but constantly think I either wont be happy till it's here or I never will be. Is this a somewhat common thing or does it mean something else? I'm afraid to look anything up especially so close to finding out what it is. The thought of having to tell my happy father-to-be, who for the past seven years has been the most important person in my life, that something is really wrong terrifies me.
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Re: 18 weeks and not excited yet.

  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    A lot of people worry that something may be wrong. Hopefully you'll be one of the many people who has a perfectly normal 20w scan.

    And there are people who take longer to bond with their babies than others. Especially if there are life challenges. If you're that concerned, bring it up with your dr.

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  • bwildman91bwildman91

    I wouldn't worry too much, to be honest, I haven't felt all that excited either. I havn't had the time to be excited though. Between work stress and house hunting and figuring out if my relationship is strong enough to make this... Where is the time to be excited?? Not to mention I'm going to be a young mother, and haven't even taken on the stress of telling my own mother yet.

    I understand the whole not excited thing. It helps me though once I start looking at cribs/car seats/strollers, ect. Its like i can take a minute to enjoy and really think about how things are going to be.

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  • MrsWill07MrsWill07
    I was facing the same issues when I found out I was pregnant too. I had the same concern. Don't. It's easy for everyone else to get excited about something that about an experience they don't have to experience. You're going through so many changes right now that it's completely understandable to be uncertain. It took me months to get excited but once you do it'll be like you were all along. But if for whatever reason a few months down the road you still feel something's wrong don't be afraid to do some research or even bring it up to your dr. If nothing's wrong you'll be at ease and if something should be wrong at least you'll know and it can be taken care of. Try not to stress! You can do this and you can be great at it. I wish you the best of luck!
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