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People Inviting Themselves...

terriedwardsterriedwards member
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I have been very surprised at the number of people who have invited themselves to my baby shower.  My husband and I own a local business, so I have had a lot of people I know only through the business tell me to invite them.  Normally I would not think much about it if they just mentioned it once, but when they mention it several different times it is different.  People didn't do this with my bridal shower!  While I am flattered that these people want to attend, I feel terrible because my sister and BFF are throwing me the shower and I don't want to just keep adding people...the more people I invite, the more food they have to pay for, etc.  I know if I offered to chip in, they would freak out on me!  I don't like being the center of attention really and hate for people going out of their way to do things for me (like throwing the shower), so I don't want to make this a huge ordeal really.  I just don't know what to do.  Are any of you guys having this same thing too?  
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  • mben1119mben1119 member
    When people ask, just say "Thanks for asking, but we're having small, family shower" or something to that effect.
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  • 1026pumpkin1026pumpkin member

    imagemabenner1:
    When people ask, just say "Thanks for asking, but we're having small, family shower" or something to that effect.

    This- or you could say your family is planning it and keeping the details a secret, so you're not sure what's going on....it takes you out of the equation of adding them to the guest list. 

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  • inthelostinthelost member
    Don't add people when people try to ask or 'invite' themselves mention that it's just going to be a "small shower with mostly family" or something to that affect. I think the PP's gave you great advice on what to say.
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  • mel8255mel8255 member

    Agree with all the suggestions that PPs have offered.  I do have to wonder why on earth people WANT to be invited to a baby shower.  I find that this is one tradition people can do without.  I don't need an invitation to get someone a gift, and it frankly saves me the time of reserving several hours on a weekend for it. 

     

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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member
    I would just tell them that although you appreciate them wanting to attend your hostesses told you they have met the max that they can accomodate.  If they want to give you a gift, they will anyway.  I think some people want to be invited to get "closer" to you...become more of a friend rather then business acquaintances...if you know what I mean.
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  • terriedwardsterriedwards member
    Thanks everyone!  All very good advice!  I am so bad at turning people away, but I am going to have to!  I almost don't even want to have a shower to save myself the worry!  I over think and worry about everything...I've got to work on that!  Thanks again!
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  • girlmama83girlmama83 member
    imagemabenner1:
    When people ask, just say "Thanks for asking, but we're having small, family shower" or something to that effect.


    This is exactly what I will be doing. My mother and I have made a guest list of about 30 close family members and my few close friends. I know my boyfriends friends girlfriends will expect to be invited and that is NOT happening so I've already planned to tell them it's family only.
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