Question re: announcing/end of first tri

Cleo421 · March 2013

What's everyone's opinion of when it's safe to announce? I used to think after first tri, which is 13w3d (depending on who you ask!). But I'm bursting at the seams to share our news, and was considering doing so after the 12 week scan. I know that they say at the end of your 1st tri is when your risk drops precipitously, but I can't help but think that clearing milestones such as the 12wk scan is the real indicator of decreased risk than the calendar hitting exactly 13w3d. Would it be premature to announce after our 12wk scan?

MsKrisXO · March 2013

I have my 12 week scan on Friday and I'm thinking the same thing! It's inches away from the second trimester.... Close enough for meeee ;D

PrettyInPearls23 · March 2013

The risk drops significantly after a HB has been established. This can happen as early as 6-8 weeks. Granted, there's still a risk, but it's a lot less.

That being said, when to announce is completely a personal choice. We waited until after my first appointment at 11 weeks when we had an u/s and saw everything was ok.

ravenclaw1 · March 2013

My personal opinion is that it's never TRULY safe. But I'm a Debbie Downer, I guess. There's no right answer to this question, other than do whatever you and your SO feel comfortable with.

revlaurawittman · March 2013

We told at 9 weeks, but only because constantly throwing up at work when you work at a church is kind of hard to hide. Also, after our m/c last year I wanted to have support in case something happened.

I say tell when you feel like telling. There is no right or wrong time. It is absolutely not premature to tell at 12 weeks. Just enjoy the fun of telling everyone

waterfall11 · March 2013

ravenclaw1:
My personal opinion is that it's never TRULY safe. But I'm a Debbie Downer, I guess. There's no right answer to this question, other than do whatever you and your SO feel comfortable with.

This is me too. Once you experience a loss it never feels safe, especially since mine was in 2nd tri and I know people with 3rd tri losses. You just have to tell when you are comfortable. DH and I have told some friends but definitely won't do a FB post until after A/S, if we even do then. I'm not telling the moms from DD's play groups until I can't hide it anymore.

magdalina.h · March 2013

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Cleo421 · March 2013

waterfall11:
ravenclaw1:
My personal opinion is that it's never TRULY safe. But I'm a Debbie Downer, I guess. There's no right answer to this question, other than do whatever you and your SO feel comfortable with.
This is me too. Once you experience a loss it never feels safe, especially since mine was in 2nd tri and I know people with 3rd tri losses. You just have to tell when you are comfortable. DH and I have told some friends but definitely won't do a FB post until after A/S, if we even do then. I'm not telling the moms from DD's play groups until I can't hide it anymore.

I definitely agree that it is never truly safe...even after they're born, if you want to get really sad about it. I completely understand wanting to keep it in for as long as you're comfortable. I am truly sorry for your losses.

I guess by "safe" I mean not reckless/irresponsible. I get a little overexcited to share things (3 ppl knew before the testing stick was dry - and that's only a slight exaggeration) and wanted to check myself against others in terms of when to put things out in the open.

NicknShan · March 2013

12 wk vs 13w3d? I don't see the difference whether you wait or not. I say go for it if your scan looks good!!

Lga1224 · March 2013

I am waiting until 13w2d but that is because we live far away and that is when our flight gets in. Otherwise I would totally announce at 12w! I am definitely bursting and its so hard...

sewlovely · March 2013

After your 12 week scan should be good! Just be cautious we had told our friends we were pregnant with twins and now we only have one healthy baby so.... to have to make the second announcement of one baby was difficult.

good luck!

burmann · March 2013

I announced at 6 weeks to family. I am 10 weeks and just announced at work and to extended family and friends. Its just easier to let people know. I suck at secrets and I wanted people to know why I have been such a mess lately.

CDMay2006 · March 2013

We started telling people this weekend, after hearing the baby's heartbeat. We've told family and have started telling close friends. We'll wait to tell work, etc. till after 13 weeks, and sometime after that we'll "go public" (inc. FB if we decide to).

SweetPeaK26 · March 2013

According to my OB, after getting a hb at 8 weeks, the chance of mc goes down to about 5 percent.

DanaColeman · March 2013

It's a personal choice for you. I say if you feel ready to tell then do it! It's exciting! We told our families right away, and then everyone else afterwards. For me, living everyday worrying about miscarriage wasn't something I wanted to experience. I'm sure everything is most likely fine for you, especially being so close to the 2nd tri. I say go for it if you feel ready!

OpheliaChem · March 2013

There are so many versions of when its "safe" that I don't pay attention anymore. I just pray every day that I will still be pregnancy tomorrow. That being said, we announced to family at 4 wks, close coworkers/friends after the 8 wk u/s, close friends that aren't close in location after hearing the hb at 10 weeks, and after the NT scan next week, we will tell the rest of our friends (mostly DH's friends). After my 14 wk appt, I will announce on FB. I'm weird about announcing, I like to wait until after a milestone like hearing hb or u/s. But you can announce anytime! There will always be people who agree and disagree with you, so you'll never 100% win! Just do what makes you happy!

Jpthatsme14 · March 2013

The way I look at it is anything can happen at any time in your pregnancy. Tell them when you feel it's right!

kat81again2 · March 2013

I think right after the scan would be great.

normandyn7 · March 2013

I announced right after our 12 week scan. We got an ultrasound and everything looked great so we decided it was safe to tell. It's really up to you and when you feel comfortable announcing it. Some people even thought 12 weeks was too early and I have seen people announce as early as 7 weeks! Do what makes you happy.

Sok82 · March 2013

I told after my scan which was 11wks 4days... A week ago : was a beautiful feeling and makes u wonder why we hide it for so long when anything can happen at any point anyway : Its all Gods will.

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