"Meet the baby" party after the baby's born??

Re: "Meet the baby" party after the baby's born??

• RibbitGrl930 member

  March 2013

  I know actual showers are common in some cultures that do not occur until after the baby is born (I've heard it stems from a superstition about not wanting to jinx anything, but I'm not entirely sure on the exact origin). It is also fairly common for the MTB to have a shower after the baby is born in the event that the baby comes prematurely (usually the shower is already planned for a later date, but baby has other plans). I have not seen it happen where there are full-on showers both before and after the baby is born, but I am not sure it is expressly "forbidden" in terms of etiquette.

  If you would rather have one shower before the birth, but your mom would also like to do something for you for after the baby is born, you could always just do a Meet the Baby party in which gifts are not expressly mentioned (but people would probably bring them anyway). While I completely agree you may be exhausted in the few weeks after the birth for a party, it simultanteously might do you some good to see people outside of LO and DH just to try and get yourself back into the "land of the living," as it were. Also, Meet the Baby parties can also arranged to be "floating" parties, in which there is no set time for anything to start, but rather a range of hours during which people can come and go as they please. This way, you do not have to worry about entertaining a bunch of people all at once.

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• CRLSMC2011

  March 2013

  If the guest list is different or if gifts are not expected at the MTB party, there is no problem.  I had a shower and I will be having a bris for my son when he is 8 days old assuming no medical complications.  Although some people bring gifts to the bris, they are absolutely not expected and the guests are invited just to celebrate and share in the happy event.  The guest list will be slightly expanded from the shower list (to include some additional cousins and acquaintances/friends, out of town family, etc., plus all of the men and children who were excluded from the limited shower list).

  

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• cinderin member

  March 2013

  I think you could have one shower before and one shower after the baby is born, as long as the guest lists dont overlap.

  
  

   
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• PinkLillyLover member

  March 2013

  cinderin:

  I think you could have one shower before and one shower after the baby is born, as long as the guest lists dont overlap.

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• 1026pumpkin member

  March 2013

  cinderin:

  I think you could have one shower before and one shower after the baby is born, as long as the guest lists dont overlap.

  This.  I will say my pedi advised us not to have DS around groups of people for the first 6 weeks (because fever before 6 weeks is automatic NICU), and I don't think I would have felt up to it much before 3 weeks, but after that I was feeling much better. 

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• pnutg member

  March 2013

  PinkLillyLover:

  cinderin:

  I think you could have one shower before and one shower after the baby is born, as long as the guest lists dont overlap.

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  This is what we are doing.

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• EmJ&B member

  March 2013

  Ambsies:

  I agree that it seems alright- as long as the same guests aren't invited to both showers.

  Since DS was baby #2 we decided to have a meet-the-baby party after he was born.  It was a ton of fun.  We waited until he was just over 2 months old since I didn't want to expose him to a ton of germs when he was super tiny.
  

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• rhubarb123 member

  March 2013

  Meet the Baby parties are not showers (no registration, guys are invited, no shoewr decorations, gifts are not "mandatory" as they are with a shower).  I had a meet the baby party after both #2 and #3.  They were both born in the spring and since we always host an annual BBQ we just combined the two.  Approx. half of our guests (about 40 couples) brought gifts...diapers, wipes and clothes.  We had them 3 weeks after the babies were born since I thought it would be silly to have it once they were much older because then a lot of the people invited would have already seen them at one function or another.  I felt fine, even with a toddler (or two).  My mom helped a lot, but mainly so I could visit with guests.  You kind of have to "bounce back" pretty fast when you already have kids.

  I hosted 2 showers for women after their babies were born.  One is Jewish and that is their tradition.  The other was team green and that is just when she wanted the shower.  They were when the babies were 3-4 weeks old.

  I will say that if you wear the baby people do not ask to hold him/her.  They can definitely see/meet the baby without holding the baby.  Wearing the baby definitely discourages people from even asking.

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• amu110902 member

  March 2013

  My cousin and her husband live on the other side of the state. Their church, her friends, and his family threw her showers local to their home. Her mom did a "meet the baby" shower after the baby was born so that we could all meet him and still get her things she would need for the first baby. Because he was already here, she did get things needed for later on...like the baby bullet blender, bigger clothes, etc. I don't know how she felt, but we all loved meeting him!
  

  

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