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Yes I am ranting
Here we are again behind several months on child support. I asked for a re evaluation back in June of 2012 for child support. I called the state a couple of weeks ago only to find out that in the past eight months they had done nothing. The cases submitted are suppose to have activity within 180 days here we are 8 months later and nothing....Now that I called something has to be done within 20 working days. WOW I want stuff to sit on my desk for 10 months and not do anything with it. I am sick of my kids seeing all the crap from facebook that his wife posts yet they can't pay child support in a timely manner. In the past 5 months they have taken a week long cruise, a week long trip to New Mexico, a four day trip to Las Vegas, bought a 20K Harley and this weekend a 15K toy box to haul the Harley in, but can't be bothered with the 3 months in child support that is owed and another measly $50 for Dr copays. Yes I am bitter and pissed that the kids come last and they see the child support as money for me. I work, my husband works and my kids do not want for anything. It is principal at this point!! Flame away if you must or tell me I am a catty witch but the system is broke for sure.
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Re: Yes I am ranting
It's a valid rant! C/S should be paid first. If life changes and you need a revaluation then get it the right way. You don't just not pay. Every parent has a financial responsiblity to their children. I'm sorry they are not taking your case seriously.
Singed,
A SM whos H constantly gets crap for BMs "doing it all financially" regardless of c/s never being late, carrying insurance, spliting all extras, medical bills, and back to school shopping.
Screen shot those FB pages and keep at it.
Done and in a file I have been doing that for a while.
Completely agree! The Friend of the Court system is a joke!
Our judge signed off and ordered child support April 2012 - still haven't received a penny! Apparently FOC did not send a request for C/S to ex's place of employment and no matter how many telephone calls I have made to FOC - I get no response. Attorney's seem to be no better - fired the first one as he couldn't seem to get it going either. Went with a much larger firm for the new att and still can't seem to get anything done.
What world do these people live in that makes it ok for issues to not be resolved in months or years?!
Hope that you are able to get this resolved! Unfortunately from what I've seen it won't be quickly!
Btw, that is if CS goes through the state system. If your lawyer is handling it, then it can get pushed back indefinitely time and time again.
I hate TN.
I am in Texas as well and the system is a joke. My BF did not start having his wages garnished until this past Friday. We have been playing the CS game for eight years and he has had his wages garnished for only two of them. Never with his current job, even though he is an actual employee and pays taxes through them. I think that the only reason they got on the ball is because he bounced a CS check to the Attorney General. I thought the system flagged those who owe CS, but I apparently not. When I have issues I email the system through the website. I tend to get more of a knowledgeable response than if I call. You should try that and ask why nothing has happened. Plus it starts a paper trail. Good luck. I know you must be frustrated.
Your income should never be a factor and BM is wrong for even being suggestive of that. That is like my son's father saying he shouldn't have to pay CS because obviously me and SO are doing a fine job financially supporting him. She is lucky though to have someone that is supportive of her son and puts her son first.
I will say that I handle our finances and child support is the first "expense" that is paid.
BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013 Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013
I used the website yesterday hopefully that will help, I don not understand becasue my DH had a knee surgery last summer on workman's comp and was out for 2 weeks and they didn't take the child support out of the workman's comp checks. The AG started sending a notice once he missed one week and when we realized it wasn't taken out when the check came we sent it on ourselves so the letter and the check crossed in the mail.
Just keep trying. I know that every three years the amount can be reviewed. Also, if there is a change in circumstance or his tax return shows he makes more you can apply for it to be in review. Standard in Texas decrees is a clause that says they must show you their tax return for the previous year by April 15. If there is a huge discrepancy in the amount child support is determined on and the amount he is making you can try to apply for it to be reviewed. Definitely keep pushing for CS to be established, but maybe wait to apply for a review until April 15th.