my fam hates her name. curious about other opinions!

carpediem909 · March 2013

We decided on the name Devin Lilliana for our baby girl. Ive always liked the name Devin for a girl and it sounds similiar to my bf's name. We also went with Lilliana after combining Lillian (after my great grandma, grandma and aunt) and my mom wanting to name me Ana. My fam absolutely hates the name Devin. They keep calling her Olivia and are telling everyone thats her name. I am getting really irritated with this. Am I being overly sensitive and what do you guys think about the name? =

Zimger · March 2013

It doesn't matter what I think. You have already named her. Your family needs to respect that.

magpie1127 · March 2013

I had a female Devin in my choral group in college.

There's nothing wrong with your name - your family will not continue to call her daughter by the wrong name once she's born. For now, you'll just have to grin and bare it.

Manderlin923 · March 2013

Although I think it's good you used a very feminine middle to balance the masculine first name, I don't care for Devin at all. It is 100% boy to me. Not only that, but I also think of a naughty/trouble-maker boy when I hear it. Other suggestions:

Sloane, Wren, Piper, Darcy, Hadley, Morgan, Erin, Robin, Arden, Dale

Or you could switch the names- Lilliana Devin

526SadieSadie · March 2013

They are being rude when they are calling her by another name (and telling people that's her name!) but that being said - Devin for a girl is awful. Lilliana is beautiful.

In the end, it's your child.

Court0026 · March 2013

Families can be really weird about naming babies. That is why we kept our fav names a secret until after birth. However, like pp said, you already named her and they will adjust! And hopefully stop acting like jerks!

cameronzmom · March 2013

Where did they get Olivia??

I love Lilliana for a little girl but Devin to me, sounds like a boy.

carpediem909 · March 2013

olivia was one of the names thrown around when trying to pick a name. we never decided on it along with a ton of other names. ugh...

carpediem909 · March 2013

...and i think bc girls dont run in my family a whole lot they were looking forward to a super girly name. oh well. thanks for opinions everyone!

plunderb · March 2013

If that's the name you have chosen, your family needs to respect that.

Sit them down and have a blunt conversation with them. Tell them that her name is Devin, not Olivia, and that it is disrespectful and childish of them to tell people anything different. If they object that they don't like the name, tell them that you're sorry they feel that way, but it's your choice to make and they do not get a veto. Really, be straightforward with them. Nip this in the bud. If they can't respect your name choice, they won't respect your other choices.

rsage53 · March 2013

Whether or not anyone on tb likes the name, your family should not be calling her something different than the name you've chosen! Telling others to call her the same is flat out rude! I would have a blunt conversation with them and explain your choice. Maybe you can agree upon a nickname that YOU feel comfortable with them calling her.

Keri Marie · March 2013

Nothing wrong with the name Devin. Your family members are being huge jerks!

ShoeFanatic614 · March 2013

526SadieSadie:
They are being rude when they are calling her by another name (and telling people that's her name!) but that being said - Devin for a girl is awful. Lilliana is beautiful.

In the end, it's your child.

This is basically what I was going to say.

CNJ4EVA · March 2013

I would be irritated as well. It is the privilege of the parents to name their child. It's lovely if others like the name as well, but if they don't, it's kind of too bad for them.

catahoulatte · March 2013

Your family is being rude.

Since you asked, I hate Devin on a girl. I know people think it can go either way, but it's all boy to me. I LOVE Lilliana though.

CeCe8579 · March 2013

plunderb:
If that's the name you have chosen, your family needs to respect that.Sit them down and have a blunt conversation with them. Tell them that her name is Devin, not Olivia, and that it is disrespectful and childish of them to tell people anything different. If they object that they don't like the name, tell them that you're sorry they feel that way, but it's your choice to make and they do not get a veto. Really, be straightforward with them. Nip this in the bud. If they can't respect your name choice, they won't respect your other choices.

This and I love Devin Lilliana!

austenfan919 · March 2013

rsage53:
Whether or not anyone on tb likes the name, your family should not be calling her something different than the name you've chosen! Telling others to call her the same is flat out rude! I would have a blunt conversation with them and explain your choice. Maybe you can agree upon a nickname that YOU feel comfortable with them calling her.

This.

I was friends with a little girl Devon (not sure of spelling) in kindergarten, so it doesn't seem odd to me.

Mrs.G123 · March 2013

Can't see your ticker but they are being rude.

lightgetsin · March 2013

Ignore your family, they will get used to her name. Even after I told my mom what this LO will be named, she keeps emailing me name suggestions. I told her it is not going to happen. She was the same when I had my first and she got over it....or at least I did!

carpediem909 · March 2013

thanks everyone! its comforting to know i'm not just being sensitive. ive tried correcting them when they dont call her devin and they just ignore me. arghhhh!!! i know the name is associated more with boys, but all the devins ive ever known have been girls and i like that it isnt super common or popular.

carpediem909 · March 2013

idk how to fix that. LOL. help!

carpediem909 · March 2013

i mean idk how to fix my ticker!

brooksidebride · March 2013

Devin is "fine", in my opinion. And I do like it even more when paired her pretty and feminine middle name. It's nice.

But that's not the issue here... you like it and are happy with it. And that's what matters. And I think it's BS that your family is not recognizing that and is calling her by another name! That's crazy and rude. Though, if I was in that situation (which I'm not because we are not sharing the name of our future DS until he's here), I'm not sure if I'd speak up about it or just wait until she's here because most likely they'll call her by her name once she's here.

Fianschneid · March 2013

Your family is being obnoxious. They don't get a vote and telling people the wrong name is incredibly rude.

If that's the name, be firm and stop discussing it with them. End of story.

They'll grow to love it when they meet Devin.

kmichln · March 2013

Joy2611:
::looks around::
I like Devin for a girl. I also like it for a boy. I think it swings more boy, but it can go both ways. That might not be a popular opinion here.

This

FWIW Devin is one of the few boy names I don't mind on a girl. I actually quite like Devin Lilliana. And like other people have said I think it is rude that they are going around telling people that your child's name is Olivia. I'd do what others have already said. They've all given great advice.

adoring · March 2013

it's YOUR child and it's up to YOU to name her. i would be getting irritated in your situation, too. maybe you could sit down and explain to them that you have chosen a name and it's not up to them to change it. they need to respect you and your choice.

carpediem909 · March 2013

adoring:
it's YOUR child and it's up to YOU to name her. i would be getting irritated in your situation, too. maybe you could sit down and explain to them that you have chosen a name and it's not up to them to change it. they need to respect you and your choice.

i completely agree and i had hoped that they would eventually get over it, but its been a few months and its starting to get under my skin. when i told my dad what we decided on he literally stomped out of the house. WTF?! it really makes me not want to be around them. i should have kept my mouth shut until after she is here! definitely going to do that next time. (IF theres a next time!) =P

MrsJ723 · March 2013

plunderb:
If that's the name you have chosen, your family needs to respect that.
Sit them down and have a blunt conversation with them. Tell them that her name is Devin, not Olivia, and that it is disrespectful and childish of them to tell people anything different. If they object that they don't like the name, tell them that you're sorry they feel that way, but it's your choice to make and they do not get a veto. Really, be straightforward with them. Nip this in the bud. If they can't respect your name choice, they won't respect your other choices.

This. Personally, I don't care for Devin, but if it is the name you love, go for it.

Angela814 · March 2013

526SadieSadie:
They are being rude when they are calling her by another name (and telling people that's her name!) but that being said - Devin for a girl is awful. Lilliana is beautiful.

In the end, it's your child.

I agree with this.

janneann1127 · March 2013

I'm not a huge fan of Devin myself, but I think it's awful that your family is calling her Olivia when you have clearly chosen a name! Tell them to back off.

salt78 · March 2013

I don't like the name personally, BUT I also think your family is being incredibly rude, especially by going so far as to tell people that her name is something else.

new2colorado · March 2013

I know a Devin that is a girl. I love the name that way. I think your family is being rude by ignoring your choice of name.

I didn't like my sister's choices of names but we call the kids by their names....

its not up to them its up to you to name your child.... have a talk with them about it and set them straight.

emikat · March 2013

This.

Also, Olivia is way too popular for my taste.

mamainVA2013 · March 2013

Although Devin Lilliana is NMS, I find it ridiculous that your family is calling her a different name than what you chose. It really irritates me when people other than the parents of a child think they have ANY say in the naming process!