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March 2012 Moms
countrygrl5533
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Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012
TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
parenting vent
countrygrl5533
member
I hate how no matter how bad my day or how tired I am or if I don't feel good, I still have to be a parent. No breaks for me. I hate how that doesn't seem to go both way. I hate that just because he is tired and doesn't feel good and had a bad day (same for me on all accounts as well), he just goes to the bedroom and lays down. Doesn't even eat the dinner I made. Wasn't even inside when I was making dinner so had to cook and deal with a blow-out myself (because I was cooking and couldn't change the diaper).
I love my husband, I love my husband, I love my husband............
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012
TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
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Re: parenting vent
I like your mantra.
Sometimes when I'm having a bad day and taking it out on DH I have to repeat to myself, "he is not the enemy...".
I hope you get a break soon too!
Married: 5/09 ~ TTC Since: 10/10 ~ PCOS ~ Progesterone from 10/10 - 2/11 ~ HSG on 3/18 - Clear ~ Started Metformin 1000mg & Clomid 50mg 2/11 ~ Metformin upped to 1500mg 4/6 ~ 6/7 Now going to SG and put on Clomid, Ovidrel, Gonal F, Prometrium, Estrace ~ IUI #1 7/2 = BFP!!!!!! March 6th our little man was born.
6/17/13 - Ovidrel, Follistim, Prometrium ~ IUI #1 7/2 = BFP! March 17th our St. Pattys day baby arrived
10/29/17 - Started process for IVF, got pregnant & miscarried a 2nd time since summer. 2/22 started stims - Menopur, Gonal F, Cetrotide - retrieval 3/6 - , PIO, estrace 3xday - FET 4/18 = Beta 1: 616; Beta 2: 1342 = BFP
I very gently yelled at him last night. Just a "I hate that you get to go hide because now I have to do the entire evening by myself." About 15 minutes after that, he came out of the bedroom. Said he felt better and just needed a little while. We both though he was down for the night. Either he really did feel better or I guilted him into realizing he still has to be a parent too just like I do.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012
TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
HUGZ! And I hear ya!
My husband has been going on ski trips once a month this season, and I stay behind and take care of the LO. I don't mind in some sense...sometimes it's actually easier when he is not around. LOL. But when he gets home and acts all tired...ugh...it drives me crazy.
I feel for ya - and hear ya! I just had a similiar conversation with a girlfriend recently. Her take on it is that women and men are wired very differently when it comes to parenting. Women fit their lives into their kids' lives and men fit their kids into their lives. I realize that's a pretty big generalization, but it sure does fit how things seem to work in our house. I definitely don't take for granted that I have wonderful husband who loves his son and is very helpful in caring for him in many ways. In fact, he never says no when I ask him to help with something. I just wish I did not have to ask so much. I wish he'd come in from work and say, okay, you've been with little man for the past hour and a half after you just got off work, let me take over while you get some stuff done. Same with on the weekends. I usually get up with DS first and then when DH gets up, his first thought is what does he personally need to get done. Not, what's going on with DS? What do you need to do? How can I help? It's always me negotiating that time. Super frustrating, but something that I think we'll continue to figure out over time. Hope I don't blow before then! :-)
Now I get it! Good insight.