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colmstead
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Shower or Not?
colmstead
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in Baby Showers
Hello everyone - looking for advice on the whole baby shower subject.
My husband and I have been married 5 years, no children of our own (3 kids from our previous marriages - ages 16,14 and 10). A couple of my close friends want to host a shower but I am unsure of the "shower rules" so to speak. I feel a little uncomfortable having a shower at this stage. I had a huge shower when my son was born (granted 10 years ago) and feel like 2nd baby showers are tacky and seem to be geared more towards "gimme presents" than actual celebrations of babies. Not to mention my dislike about being told what type of gift to buy (books in lieu of cards, diapers in addition to expensive registery items).
What's everyone opinion on a couple's party hosted by a friend in our home, that involves food, beverages (beer/wine as well) and games? We conceived using IVF and like the idea of including my husband in the party as it was pretty rough on him as well.
Thoughts?
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Re: Shower or Not?
Congrats on the new baby!
You know the answer to this. You're uncomfortable with a shower, you find it tacky, so if anyone offers, decline.
Why not wait until the new baby arrives to have your party? It can be totally informal and if people choose to give you a gift they can but they won't be obligated to.
This!
I really think that it is a personal choice. I am currently pregnant with baby number 2 ( due 6/10) I had my first child almost 10 years ago ( when I was 18) I did have a shower for her. Since then I got married and my mother in law is throwing me a baby shower. I'm really quite thankful due to not having kept anything other than a few outfits from my first child.
so i guess i am in the same boat as you and i am excited to have a shower.
In this situation it's personal preference. I myself had a son with my first husband 6.5 years ago and then ended up divorced 1.5 years later. Needless to say i didn't really keep any baby stuff because i was a single mother that wasn't planning on having any more children, at least not in the foreseeable future. A year later i met my now DH and 3.5 years later we were married and a month after that we were pregnant with this LO. This is HIS first and i feel it is completely acceptable to have a shower in my particular situation, plus i am comfortable with it because second baby showers are the norm in my family even with the same husband and not spaced so far apart.