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All of these 2nd baby showers
So far in 2013 we have been invited to two 2nd kid baby showers. The first couple was team green this time, as they were the first time. Meaning, they had plenty of gender neutral stuff from their first shower. Their older child is only 3yrs old. Against our better judgement we went to the shower because it's one of my husbands best friends. We're talking 70+ people at a second shower!!! Now, we get another invited to a 2nd shower where their oldest is only 2 yrs old and they're having another girl. I'm so frustrated with even getting invited to these second showers so close together. Anyways, I'm thinking about just RSVPing no and not attending. I just can't help but think it's gift grabby. If the baby on the way were an opposite sex I think I wouldn't be as hesitant to attend.
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Re: All of these 2nd baby showers
Olivia and Matilda, 09/10/201 - Graham, 10/01/2013
IT's fine not to go. It's an invitation, not a subpoena.
SMALL 2nd showers w/ truly nearest and dearest.... eh, I don't get upset about it. But a 70+ shower? Um.... really?
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I wish someone could explain to me what genitalia has to do with anything regarding subsequent baby showers. So you're miffed about having to buy a gift for another girl, but for a boy you'd be fine with "celebrating?"
Repeat genitalia = gift grabby
Different genitalia = worthy of buying a gift
???
FTR, I don't like 2nd showers period...
The sex part has to do with the attendance of the second shower because they won't have any clothes for an opposite sex child. Therefore, they may need baby boy clothes. If you have the same sex then obviously you would have clothes for that particular sex. What else do you think it meant? It has nothing to do with if a girl is worth buying a gift for or not and celebrating!!!!
This. I personally buy gifts for all my close friends/family for each new baby, but showers for every baby are a little much.
I wouldn't attend the shower because they don't need anything. However, we would give them a gift for their baby NOT at a shower once the baby is born. I wasn't asking if I should or shouldn't attend. It was a vent and I said i'm thinking of RSVPing No. I clearly know that I can decline if I want to. I wasn't asking for people to tell me to go or not to go.
That's what we USUALLY do, buy a gift and bring it to the hospital or first visit with the baby. I was venting that attending another shower for people who don't need anything will be a waste of my time. Just venting...that is all.
I'm sure they don't have diapers either, which are required for either sex. So a shower is OK if they need clothing? What if the two children of the same sex were born in different seasons? Then they wouldn't have clothing to pass down to the other child because the clothes would either be too warm or cold for the new child to wear at the same age.
My point is I don't understand the rationalization that if the child is of a different sex, then a shower is OK. I see that a lot on here, and it just doesn't make sense to me.
Good God, yes! I am expecting my second, but still preparing for a consignment sale! It's everything that's wrong with this society, but that's another rant for another day.
exactly every baby deserves to be celebrated this is our second and we will probably have a shower boy or girl.
Yup. Plusalsobtw, is it just me, or is entitled slowly becoming the new norm?? It seems like more often than not, the people with manners are the out numbered ones.
You've got to be kidding, right? Just because someone gets KU again and it happens to be a different sex then it becomes everyone else's responsibility to clothe and diaper said child? Btw...showers are not for celebrating they are for showering gifts on the mother to be (baby isn't here yet). Celebrating is for MTB parties, birthdays, etc. I'm not saying that I wouldn't still buy my friend or family member something, but it certainly doesn't entitle them to another shower after they've already been welcomed to motherhood.
I was wondering when this statement would make an appearance. Babies can be celebrated in ways that do not require solicitations for gifts, which is exactly what a shower is. The fact that people feel so entitled to receive gifts from others just because they got pregnant is what is so abhorrent to the ladies here. Showers are to welcome moms to motherhood. If there is already a child in the home, she is already a mother. Additionally, there should already be items in the home that can be used on any subsequent children. Sometimes things expire? Make a plan to buy them yourself. Really, nobody should ever feel entitled to any shower at any point, but if you have already been welcomed to motherhood (with or without a shower), a full-blown shower- especially with overlapping guest lists- should be even less than expected.
I was thinking this EXACTLY.
If the person having a shower for their second baby because the second baby is a different sex from the first expected to have more than one child and literally ONLY registered for or bought pink dresses for her first child, she's kind of a dumbass. Her boy can wear yellow, purple, blue, green, and white onesies, t-shirts, etc. I bet a LOT of the clothing can be re-purposed for a boy baby. It's not like ONLY girls can wear flowers and ONLY boys can wear dinosaurs. They're babies. They don't care.
Not to mention, clothing is one of the least expensive things to buy for a baby. I know people love buying outfits for showers, especially when they know the sex, but the things new moms NEED are the bigger items, like a carseat, pack n play, bassinet, nursery furniture, breast pump, stroller. Seriously, you won't die just because you picked out a pink elephant boppy cover for your first one and now you HORROR of HORRORS might have to use the same boppy with your second.
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