3rd tri most stressful

delino · March 2013

I wasn't prepared for the last couple of months to be so stressful. I know being pgal is one stressful hurdle after another, but I'm on overload. Between this whole low fluid thing, possible bedrest, so much on my to-do list at home and work, DH not getting the baby room done as fast as I would like...my head is going to explode!

I guess in my head 3rd tri would be all cute baby stuff and prepping for our little girl. Hello reality check Sad Anyone else feeling this way?

JCWhitey · March 2013

I'm still only in my second, but we are moving thousands of miles away in my third tri and I'm starting a new job, switching caregivers, switching hospitals, etc. I'm not stressed about it yet but I know when the time comes I'll be freaking out a little. Definitely not going to have any time to relax, that's for sure! I'm trying to get that in as much as possible in the second tri now.

mork · March 2013

I felt the same way. And then again after the baby was born. You think it's going to be all bliss and happiness looking into baby's eyes, and it is, PLUS the other 80 percent of life. The hard work, emotions, struggles, and just downright reality.

What I've tried to do is be very aware of the happy enjoyable moments, so I can remember and hold on to them during the reality checks. Take time to purposely stop the other stuff for an hour and do the "fun" stuff. And be aware and present for it, don't be thinking about all the other crap! ::hugs::

delino · March 2013

mork:
I felt the same way. And then again after the baby was born. You think it's going to be all bliss and happiness looking into baby's eyes, and it is, PLUS the other 80 percent of life. The hard work, emotions, struggles, and just downright reality.

What I've tried to do is be very aware of the happy enjoyable moments, so I can remember and hold on to them during the reality checks. Take time to purposely stop the other stuff for an hour and do the "fun" stuff. And be aware and present for it, don't be thinking about all the other crap! ::hugs::

Stupid reality getting in the way of happiness. So annoying. Thanks for the advice Mork.

mork · March 2013

delino:
mork:
I felt the same way. And then again after the baby was born. You think it's going to be all bliss and happiness looking into baby's eyes, and it is, PLUS the other 80 percent of life. The hard work, emotions, struggles, and just downright reality.

What I've tried to do is be very aware of the happy enjoyable moments, so I can remember and hold on to them during the reality checks. Take time to purposely stop the other stuff for an hour and do the "fun" stuff. And be aware and present for it, don't be thinking about all the other crap! ::hugs::
Stupid reality getting in the way of happiness. So annoying. Thanks for the advice Mork.

Right? So annoying.

emeraudecephiro · March 2013

I know this feel, my friend. I was hoping it'd be less worry seeing movement and preparations and excitement! But I just get more and more ouch and more and more frustrated. I am excited beyond belief, don't get me wrong. But dang.

I take time each day to do something fun and productive. Sorting tiny baby clothes (may not sound fun, but I can sit and aww at them) or something else I can do. Big hugs!

hungryhippo · March 2013

Lots of hugs, D.

LSzwaya · March 2013

Big big hugs, D!

delino · March 2013

Thanks for the hugs and advice. I think what I'm having the hardest time with is that I'm trying to rest as much as possible in hopes that Wednesdays appt doesn't result in a bedrest sentence. So I'm not getting anything done and I'm relying on DH to do what needs to be done. I don't do well relying that much on someone else and if I get the bedrest sentence I know I'm going to have a difficult time.

AlishaPreggo2012 · March 2013

Definitely the most stressful. I'm still holding out hope that, once I pass my loss milestone in 3 weeks, I'll be able to let out a huge sigh of relief... But I get the feeling that sigh won't actually happen until LO is here and healthy. It feels like I spend half my energy every day just keeping myself calm. Now that I'm also getting the nest in order, buying everything we'll need for LO, trying to schedule us for infant care classes, etc. it drains me to continue holding the hormonal PGAL freakouts at bay.

delino · March 2013

nola78:
delino:
Thanks for the hugs and advice. I think what I'm having the hardest time with is that I'm trying to rest as much as possible in hopes that Wednesdays appt doesn't result in a bedrest sentence. So I'm not getting anything done and I'm relying on DH to do what needs to be done. I don't do well relying that much on someone else and if I get the bedrest sentence I know I'm going to have a difficult time.
I'll be honest -- this is the most difficult part of bed rest.  Being in bed all day isn't so hard, it's giving up control and relying on others to do things that's hard.  And it's especially hard because invariably they will never do them like you want them done.  Sometimes I just want to scream.  I fear our baby will be sleeping in a dresser drawer and wearing an old t-shirt for the first few weeks of her life.  We have nothing done.   

I'm sorry Nola. I know you've been dealing with this for a while now and it must be so trying. :::hugs:::

alb245 · March 2013

I'm only in 2nd tri, but I can definitely see myself being stressed if I were in your shoes. I'm a big list person, there is ALWAYS something on my to-do list, and if I do something that isn't on my list I'll write it down just so I can cross it off. And I am a control freak too, other people just don't do it the same.

But the most important thing you can do right now is rest up for your baby. You're already doing so much for your baby by taking good care of yourself and following doctor's orders. That's really what it's all about. Babies don't need much when they're actually here. All of the websites and registries make us think we need a million things, but as long as they have a few onesies, a place to sleep, food, and love, they will be quite content. The baby won't care if their room is ready when they're born or when they are 2 years old

Like PP said, set small goals for yourself and continue to focus on what's really important, your baby.

And come back in a couple of months and give me the same advice and tell me it all worked out just fine when I write a similar post (((Hugs)))

delino · March 2013

PetraStonegirl:
Delion, my friend. I am very much sharing your feelings right about now. But, I want to remind you that your are a lioness and you absolutely will get through this, even if it isn't what you were expecting.
(((HUGS)))

Thanks love. I hate to hear that you're dealing with these same feelings.

delino · March 2013

Jessiebug81:
Just try to breathe, I promise you'll remember the joy and not the stress when it's all over.

This is what I keep telling myself.

Gregermis · March 2013

Yup... Throw we are buying a house in the mix for me... Stupid bank was suppose to take its time and get back to us after the baby was here. We're going to be moving when I am 8 months pg!!

plainoljane · March 2013

Yes and no. I am only in 2nd tri, which is supposed to be the golden tri, but it sucks! I'm in a lot of pain and feel icky/woozy 90 percent of the time. Why can't every pregnancy be like the ones in movies and magazines?

Sorry 3rd tri is a bummer. Keep your eye on the prize! Rainbow baby in arms SOON!