Irrational Fears

mdr619 · March 2013

This is our first pregnancy so of course we're full of questions. I've been reading everything I can find about pregnancy and I know its totally fine to have BD when pregnant, but I'm still scared. DH mentioned it the other day, but I told him to give me a little time. I'm still getting used to the idea that there is a human growing inside me.

Honestly, I know sex won't cause a MC or any harm to the baby, but I just can't help worrying. Anyone else worried about this? What about you 2nd and 3rd time mommies? When did you have sex after getting a BFP?

Please forgive my post...I'm on my kindle.

femmepink · March 2013

I'm kind of in the same boat. I know rationally sex is fine, but last time I started spotting after sex and my miscarriage was confirmed like 3 hours later. I know sex didn't cause the m/c since the baby died the week before, but it's still in the back of my mind.

katester42 · March 2013

I'm a FTM but I'm also almost 29 weeks and I can say I had your same fears when I first found out we were pregnant.

Honestly I had morning sickness for 15 weeks and sex was the last thing on my mind but there were moments when the urge hit me and it was great.

Sex can't hurt the baby so just take it in stride. I know we had to take it slow and such in the beginning because I was nervous etc but after a certain point you'll stop worrying about it and enjoy it.

Then the second trimester will hit and some ladies and lucky and have quite the surge and I say take advantage of that if you're that lucky. Now at 29 weeks I get winded trying to get in and out of bed so sex really isn't a top priority.

Hope that helps a little!

lamo1210 · March 2013

I have that fear.

BUT I also am just not into right now. Poor DH.

MaliMommy · March 2013

My DH said to me last night, okay so no more sex right... And Im like WHOOOAAA Buddy, Unless you want to purchase me a few vibrators, don't go there. Lol... He said Pregnancy is not a turn on... Idk... I don't really care. My libido has gone wayyy down in the last few weeks.

I'm also worried about Mc though... And Idk how to get over my fears... Its my first pregnancy ever, and my niece (my age) had the nerve to mention it to me yesterday before I got my BFP!! JERK! ... I'm just praying, and doing some positive affirmations like "My body knows exactly what it'd doing"... Think positively! Don't stress... Everything we go thru, our little buds go thru... So all positivity and negativity will affect them...

Good Luck! Relax and Enjoy Mommy!

swimiz500 · March 2013

With DD, we didn't have sex at all during the pregnancy. I was just not at all in the mood, and DH was very scared (and so was I, truthfully). I doubt that this time will be any different. Even though it may be silly and irrational, I don't think we'll get over it.

mdr619 · March 2013

I'm relieved to hear I'm not the only who is concerned. I'm looking forward to the 2nd trimester, hopefully I wont be nearly as neurotic. I hope DH wont mind holding out til then. Lol! Right now I have no desire.

lilcoco13 · March 2013

I'm too tired during the first tri, but when I gave in a few times last time, it was fine. I can remember having cramping if I had the big O, but I think that was later in 3rd tri...

Tonight I actually worked up the energy to shave my legs but DH decided to go out, so he will never know .

airforcemomma · March 2013

Uh after we got a BFP ... lol. I'm utterly exhausted right now being in the 1st Tri but even with #1 I never was worried until later when I became high risk (not because of sex).

My best advice I can give the FTMs is to try to relax ... take every piece of advice with a grain of salt. You need to do whats best for you and YOUR baby ... that may not be what everyone's advice is. The more you relax and go with the flow the happier you will be and the more you will enjoy this awesome adventure!

appleseed1986 · March 2013

My first pregnancy we were animals in the sack, including first tri. I never experienced cramping or spotting.

This time around, I'm so tired and nauseated poor dh hasn't gotten any since we conceived this one. HA. poor guy.

babyruth88 · March 2013

mdharrison:
I had sex the night I got my bfp. I'd rather have it now while I can still move around. It just gets so awkward when you have a big belly and can't move around.

this exactly. it was so awkward for me towards the end and ava would always go crazy in my belly. totally freaked us out

MandyPandyBear · March 2013

My DH happens to be one of those guys that is turned on by pregnancy so last time we had quite a bit of prego sex. This time however, we have a toddler who bed shares with us. So... Yeah. Sex isn't a thing that happens lots right now. I'm surprised we managed to get knocked up again. Thank god for grandparents who sometimes keep him over night.

Beathag · March 2013

Forgive my reply because I am on my iPhone. But I have been pregnant once before, a MMC and the doctor told me to not have sex to give the baby the "best chance."
So I am just trying to sleep away t annoyance this time because my spouse is afraid to have sex. He doesn't want us to lose another.

AnnecyDream · March 2013

If you're low risk, there's no concern. I actually find myself more into it since getting my BFP last weekend. Maybe that's because the hormones are back. I have had such a low libido since having DS and healing from the delivery. I'm just happy to actually want it and enjoy it now.

mamabird8 · March 2013

This is our second LO and I feel the same way. I had a lot of spotting and cramping a few weeks ago and I am still a bit freaked. I think it's normal to feel that way.

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