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HisChamaoleGirl · February 2013

Once people find out we are expecting they ask if it's our first baby. Well, it's my first bio child but not DH. So yes my first, no his second, our first? how would BF answer?

cole2144 · February 2013

I used to say it was my first but his second. Now if someone asks how many kids we have, we just say three.

ambrvan · February 2013

I always say we have two children, but DS is our first together. In today's society, most people can accept that and leave it. But some will ask who the first child belongs to. I never have any problems explaining if someone asks.

blush64 · February 2013

ambrvan:
I always say we have two children, but DS is our first together. In today's society, most people can accept that and leave it. But some will ask who the first child belongs to. I never have any problems explaining if someone asks.

This seems appropriate. Or as PP suggested saying it's your first but his second. I wouldn't just say "it's our first".

I am pregnant right now with my third. It's my husband's first. When someone asks us I'll tell them it's my third and his first. I haven't met anyone yet who was confused by this. (and I have been asked many times)

emikat · February 2013

If people ask me if this is my first, I say yes. It usually comes up that I also have a SS, but it really depends who it is. If they ask DH and I if this is my first, I say yes it's my first, DH also has a son. Or something like that. I have yet heard DH answer the question.

HisChamaoleGirl · February 2013

Thank you for the responses. DH and I went to a dinner last weekend and it was obvious I wasn't drinking so people did ask. The first time we were asked it was sort of awkward because we stumbled over the words. I'll definitely be better prepared next time

CurlyQ284 · February 2013

I said "well its my first but I have two stepdaughters".

+just+j+ · February 2013

I'm honest. I would say, this is my first, but H has 4 adult children. H would say the same, "It's J's first. I already have 4 adult kids" or just, "It's our first, together." and he wouldn't mention his other kids if it was people we didn't really know all that well.

lily_721 · February 2013

"My first and DH's third."

Jessys_Girl · March 2013

Depends who was asking. If it was a coworker of mine, or someone who is specifically connected to me, and they said "Is this your first?" I would say "Yes, my first. My husband has two older kids, but this is my first".

If it's someone connected to DH, and they ask (which most of them knew the situation already, so it didn't come up a lot), I say "I get to add to the two he already has!" With a little laugh/smile.

If it's a total stranger like at a store or something I simply said "No, this is our third" (a lot of times I was with stepkids, so it was apparent that there were two children, plus my bun in the oven. But when I wasn't out and about with them and got asked, I'd just leave the complicated blended family stuff out.)

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