Hi Ladies- I am 21 weeks pregnant and I have a 19 month old DS. I have been trying to plan as much as possible for life after delivery. My question for you:
With twins and an older child did you hire any help for the first few months? (When I say hire I mean to only help for a few hours in the afternoon). My DH will be staying home for 10 days and after that I am just not sure what to expect. Your advice would be much appreciated!
Re: Mom's with twins or 3 children under 2...
Hi,
We are due the same week with twins - Congrats to you.. I am a FTM so I do not know about the 3rd child. We are planning on hiring help, We are not sure to what capacity yet. Like you I have no ideal what to expect. I am very nervous.
Yes I am expecting twins I will definitely post on the multiples board, I just figured I'd have a better shot here with the SAHM's who have 3 under 2. Holy scary and exciting!
Emmakins87- Have you started looking for someone already? Will you be using a sitter/nanny site? Sorry so many questions.
Nervous mom here! I have such a good routine with my DS and our days are very scheduled and obviously that is about to change I just want to make sure its not a drastic change and it can be as smooth of a transition as possible
I do not know what we are going to do. H is going to very active in this then narrow who he likes and we will interview together. ( long story)
I am doing a word of mouth thing through some nannies in my neighborhood that I do know since they live-ins in my building. I might inquire with an agency, but I would like to already know the person. I live in nannyville, as a matter of fact I know more nannies than parents / residence in my building. We are moving in 2 weeks so we have to find someone who will be willing to commute via train. We do not want a live in. just like a day time person
DS was 2yrs 6wks when our twins were born. DH was able to be home for the first 2 weeks, after that we were on our own. Literally... on our own. In some ways it sucked, I was still recovering from a c/s and dealing w/ 2 newborns and a 2 year old and recovering from surgery wasn't easy. But in other ways it was a good thing. We had a sink or swim situation, and we had no choice but to swim. I HAD to learn to deal with them, DS HAD to learn patience. DH got up w/ every feeding because I HAD to be able to get some sleep if I was going to be up w/ all three all day.
If you can afford a post partum doula or something like that definitely do it. But you can survive on your own
The information you ladies are giving me is exactly what I need! How do you go about finding a post partum doula/nurse? I plan on nursing the twins as well so I am hoping I can do it all.
How hard was it to get your twins on a schedule? How long did it take?