What do you think?

vwsfy6 · March 2013

I came across this article...what do you think?

It changed my outlook on many things, and I found it helpful. Enjoy!

https://www.renegademothering.com/2013/02/09/i-became-a-mother-and-died-to-live/

RoseSnocker · March 2013

I liked it, the author is well written. Can't wait to feel all of the emotions that she felt in losing her old self. I'm due March 31st and I am so ready for all of what can happen to my life

vintagejjane · March 2013

I've seen this article. I love how she describes her emotions of motherhood and leaving another life behind. It's so eloquently put and very true.

Nechie122 · March 2013

This article made the rounds on the Toddler board and I think I was the only one who didn't have a glowing reaction to it.

To me, I think it probably would have resonated a lot more when my DD was first born; I distinctly remember walking with the baby carriage and watching everyone commuting to work and feeling this acute sense of identity loss.

But then I returned to work myself and my body returned to normal and I started going out with my friends again and we got the sleeping stuff down. I found a number of lovely babysitters I can call when DH and I need a night out.

And now I'm just me with a kid. No grand rebirth. Just the same old me.

LaurelBee · March 2013

totally hit the nail on the head. Anyone who says motherhood doesn't change them, is a big liar IMO

Mrs E in Oregon · March 2013

I think we all will change, to what degree, that will be just as different with each woman as birth is. What I liked is that this was someone being honest about their feelings and that it's okay to have these feelings when you are in this very new place in your life. When you have a new baby, no matter how strong you are, you are also very vulnerable. People, women especially, like to put women down for not pulling themselves up by their bootstraps and moving on. We are very hard on eachother. Well, sometimes we need to take a moment to cry, grieve, or have a bad day so that we can heal, get ourselves together and become stronger.

Nechie122 · March 2013

Mrs E in Oregon:
I think we all will change, to what degree, that will be just as different with each woman as birth is. What I liked is that this was someone being honest about their feelings and that it's okay to have these feelings when you are in this very new place in your life. When you have a new baby, no matter how strong you are, you are also very vulnerable. People, women especially, like to put women down for not pulling themselves up by their bootstraps and moving on. We are very hard on eachother. Well, sometimes we need to take a moment to cry, grieve, or have a bad day so that we can heal,nbsp;getnbsp;ourselves togethernbsp;and become stronger.

I like your interpretation of it and I think that's true.

I also think that she's talking about a very specific moment in time, and women who are struggling with having a newborn may want to know that, yes, you may be floundering now but it will get better and you'll feel like yourself again. I didn't want the old me to "die" and thankfully she didn't have to.

aylafsu88 · March 2013

I wish I read this article before I gave birth. All of the things she described I felt as a new mom. I mourned the loss of my carefree life, I mourned the loss of my pre-baby body, I mourned the loss of sleep and being worry free. It was hard adjusting and it was the biggest event I have ever gone through. I would not trade it for the world but I wish someone had told me some of these things.

kathleen02 · March 2013

Great article. Especially on a day when motherhood was a little rough. I went back to work and there are times when I feel like my "old" self but you never truly can go back to that...there is no fooling yourself or anyone. Your life has changed whether you liked and still like to party at the club. May I repost this to my birth month board if it hasn't been already?

vwsfy6 · March 2013

I'm glad so many people found this as useful as I did.

Kathleen02- I posted this on the July 13 board, and didn't get much of a response (which is totally fine). By your ticker it looks like you are due around then, so I'm not sure if thats the birth month board that you were talking about. I'm also 20 weeks pregnant, but I mostly lurk on that board.

Im sorry you had a day when "motherhood was a little rough," but remember, just keep swimming!

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