October 2013 Moms
yesthisiskim0401
member
Options
Toddler moms
yesthisiskim0401
member
Does anyone else feel like they are "neglecting" their child due to debilitating m/s? This evening I laid in my bed with all the lights off and DD sat next to me quietly playing cars like the amazing kid she is. I just finished up a big ugly cry because I feel so bad for being such a shitty mom who has the TV on all day and can hardly lift her head to read their child a book. And it has officially freaked me out that she will no longer have my full attention ever again. I feel guilty for being pregnant. I can't be the only one, right?
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Toddler moms
Right there with you. I laid on the floor while DS played after dinner. When he came over to climb on me I had to roll to my side and curl up in a ball. I read him a book while he said dadadada over and over standing next to me. I put him to bed 15 minutes early so I could lay on the couch sooner.
I'm calling first thing tomorrow to ask for some. I've been sick for a while but today it hit me like a bus.
DD has been living off quesadillas, lunch meats and frozen breakfast foods, her favorite. She's not complaining!
07.22.11
10.22.13
Yes. I just told dh that we need to turn TV off! If been so tired and my back is in excruciating pain. So I lay down on his monkey pillow pet and read or watch cartoons with him.I do feel guilty. TV has def been on more.
its survival, so don't feel too guilty.
This. She has been doing a lot more individual and imaginative play not sure if its BC I'm so lazy or her growing up. So far she hasn't seemed upset or anything, I did put her in ballet and gymnastics this week. She had her first classes and loves it. Hoping it will be something consistent and enjoyable for her and help through the transition
I have 4 already, so I feel no guilt about my kids not having my sole attention. I feel you though. So sick.... TV has been on a lot. My Kindle has been used a lot. I cheat and have some flashcards for the young kids and work books for all the kids. So I encourage use with those. They have toddler ones at book stores and Walmart has them (kinda hidden in the paper/coloring books area)
Also play-dough! homemade play-dough is non toxic (for the toddlers) and it is an activity that is good for them.
I still have to get up and function. My downfall is not keeping 100% with routine (I have an autistic kid) which leads to some meltdowns and also not keeping up on the PECS daily board.
BTW, putting the phone near my mouth makes me ill... really....
Yea, these last few weeks have been rough. I've been nauseous pretty much all day so there's definitely more TV-watching than there used to be. And lots of quesadillas in our house too. I can't wait for the second tri (and knocking on wood that I'm not one of those unlucky souls who continue to have m/s through the 2nd tri).
My food & craft blog: Fraises et Tartines
BFP #2: 9/29/12; EDD 6/8/2013; m/c 10/5/2012
BFP#3: 1/29/13; EDD 10/5/2013 - Baby Claire arrived 10/6/2013
First Baby Boy - Born January 4, 2010
#2 BFP 2/14/13 EDD 10/24/13
Eleanor 9.30.13
Totally feeling this! I'm a working mom so I feel extra guilty that this week I just cuddled with DD on the couch for an hour while she watched tv and I tried not to fall asleep. I get so little time to play with her as it is!
I've been feeling guilty about having another kid and feeling like it's not fair to have a second if it means being a terrible mom to your first.
But then, my friend posted a picture on Facebook of his sons. He was taking a nap and woke up to find that the 2 boys had gotten a coloring book and crayons and were hard at work coloring together. It was just so sweet. I love having siblings, I can't imagine growing up without them and I'm just hoping DD won't feel totally neglected.
Daddy is freaking out with guilt because DD will never have our undivided attention again. I'll tell you what I tell him, your second child will NEVER have your undivided attention. They will never be an only child and guess what, they're going to be just as happy and healthy as your first child despite it.
Probably happier since they'll have a sibling!
As for sitting in the dark with the tv, you're in survival mode. It's okay!
BFP#4 1/19/13 ~ due 10/2/13 ~ hoping for our rainbow baby!
BFP#3 8/14/12 ~ missed m/c ~ D&C 9/25/12 at 10w1d
Hannah-10/25/08
Yes, and my mother is visiting. I'm sure she thinks this is how we always are: ordering food in; me laying on the couch; PJ watching movies.
NOT AT ALL. But hello - nausea like a b!tch all afternoon and evening; we are all still on antibotics; and now we have a cold.
I don't feel guilty - my kid is so well taken care of - but I wish I didn't have another set of eyes with all tha tjudgement going on
I know I'm late to the party, but wanted to add another "you're not alone" post. I felt so guilty yesterday, since I cancelled a trip to the children's museum because I just feel crappy. I feel like it's not fair that my DS has to miss out on fun just because I'm pregnant. It didn't help that my friend gave me a guilt trip about it, too.
I can operate at about 80% in the mornings, but the nausea and fatigue get so bad in the afternoon/evenings that I'm just a lump. There's been a lot of TV here, too. All that being said, I really value having a sibling, and I was the first. I survived my mom's pregnancy...I'm sure our toddlers will, too.