I was in a pretty good mood going in to work. I was making copies when a coworker asked if I had kids....totally random, I don't talk with her much. When I said "no", she said "on that's smart." It took everything I had in me to not breakdown right then and there. Why would anyone ever say that? I know she doesn't know my situation and I know it wasn't intended to hurt. But come the eff on, people!
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I am a nurse at a children's hospital. I get it from coworkers and patients parents. Some of my coworkers do know my situation and still say stupid s!
Some people are just very insensitive!
DOB 12/77 Married 2006 Tubes removed 2008 Nursing School
IVF round 1 (9/2012) BCP lupron micro stimulation with bravelle/menapur crinone ovidril estrogen patch prenatals 5 follicles 4 fertilized 2 transfered day 3 none to freeze - 4 cell with moderate fragmentation - 4 cell with moderate fragmentation Beta 1-less than 1
IVF round 2 (2/2013) stimulation with bravelle/menapur ganirelix hgh crinone ovidril aspirin after retrievel prenatals 13 follicles 6 fertilized 3 transfered day 3 (none to freeze) - 8 cell with mild fragmentation - 8 cell with mild fragmentation - 4 cell with mild fragmentation Beta #1-6 Beta #2-3
I am a nurse at a children's hospital. I get it from coworkers and patients parents. Some of my coworkers do know my situation and still say stupid s!
Some people are just very insensitive!
Me too!! This happens all the time!
"Everything will be alright in the end. So if it's not alright, it is not yet the end." Me:29 DH:29 TTC since 1/11 Dx: unexplained IF/early DOR/immune issues
Feb'12- July'12-testing(all clear minus slight arcuate ute), 3 IUI with clomid all BFN 8/30IVF#1 Antagonist protocol- ER 9/11-8R, 7M, 5F.
ET 9/14 2 embies transferred. 1 10cell Grade 4, 1 8cell Grade 4. No frosties. BFN IVF#2 Antagonist protocol plus baby aspirin- ER 12/5-16R, 12M, 8F! ET 12/10 5dt! 1 fully expanded blast & 1 early blast. No frosties. BFN 3/13 hysteroscopy & polypectomy, Consulted w Dr. Kwak-Kim.
DX: High NK cells, cytokines, DHEAs& PAI1; hypothyroid, +APA, restricted bloodflow
7/13 IVF#3 Long lupron protocol with PIO, Crinone, Prometrium, and vivelle
(plus synthroid, metformin, baby asa, metanx, PNV, Vit E, D, calcium, fish oil, CoQ10, IVIg infusions and lovenox per Dr. Kwak-kim) ER 7/19 14R, 11M, 9F(4 natural fert, 5 with ICSI) ET 5dt 7/24 2 fully expanded blasts. SURPRISE 3 FROSTIES!!! Beta #1 8/2 335!!!! Beta #2 829!!! 1st u/s 8/14 showed TWINS!!!!!
11/11: TEAM PURPLE!!!!! 3/21/14-L&W born at 37w via csection Here Comes the Sun Blog PAIF/SAIF welcome!
I went to the bakery the other day and while I was waiting for stuff the girl behind the counter strikes up a conversation about how her daughter is driving her crazy. She proceeds to ask if I have kids and when I answered "not yet" her reply was "thank your lucky stars. I have four and they are hard work. Don't do it"
Patients ask all the time and when I say no the answer almost always is "I bet after delivering so many of them you probably want nothing to do with children"
Ugh.
Married 2007 3 Clomid IUIs -- BFNs IVF #1 never made it to transfer On "egg health" cocktail DHEA/CoQ10/FRC/Pregnitude/Melatonin Starting IVF #2 for Feb 2013 Follistim/Menopur/Ganirelix Cancelled mid-cycle due to high P4 levels early on. OCPs again for IVF 2.5 mid-March. IVF 2.5 transferred two "gorgeous" 5-day blasts and BFFN. Even REI is baffled On indefinite hold until a huge stroke of serendipity led me to IVF 3 May 2014
Testing found positive cardiolipins/APS, now on lovenox and intralipid infusions
Transfer of 2 5-day blasts and (FINALLY) BFFP!!
1st ultrasound shows two sacs and two HB, but one is sluggish, almost expecting vanishing twin
Subsequent ultrasound confirmed vanishing twin, but my other Little critter looks fantastic!
"You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it." -- Margaret Thatcher
Patients ask all of the time...at least once or twice a week. In a pediatric practice you are surrounded by children all day long...and the newborns!!! One mother stated to me that she left her last pediatrician's office because that pediatrician went on maternity leave. The practice didn't close, she just went on maternity leave. Mind you, this mother is currently pregnant with her second child. What nerve!! I could't believe it!!
Re: Aaaaand once again, people stink.
Yes, people have the best advice. We are TTC and everyone keeps telling me to stop trying so hard! Thank you, all you stupid people!
Some people are just very insensitive!
Me too!! This happens all the time!
Me:29 DH:29 TTC since 1/11 Dx: unexplained IF/early DOR/immune issues
8/30IVF#1 Antagonist protocol- ER 9/11-8R, 7M, 5F.
IVF#2 Antagonist protocol plus baby aspirin- ER 12/5-16R, 12M, 8F!
ET 12/10 5dt! 1 fully expanded blast & 1 early blast. No frosties. BFN
3/13 hysteroscopy & polypectomy, Consulted w Dr. Kwak-Kim.
ER 7/19 14R, 11M, 9F(4 natural fert, 5 with ICSI)
ET 5dt 7/24 2 fully expanded blasts. SURPRISE 3 FROSTIES!!!
Beta #1 8/2 335!!!! Beta #2 829!!! 1st u/s 8/14 showed TWINS!!!!!
3/21/14-L&W born at 37w via csection
Here Comes the Sun Blog
PAIF/SAIF welcome!
NTNP 2009-2012 TTC since 2012:
Jack has handpicked his sibling up there
My blog about IF and loss ... Kate's IF Blog
I'll chime in...
I went to the bakery the other day and while I was waiting for stuff the girl behind the counter strikes up a conversation about how her daughter is driving her crazy. She proceeds to ask if I have kids and when I answered "not yet" her reply was "thank your lucky stars. I have four and they are hard work. Don't do it"
Patients ask all the time and when I say no the answer almost always is "I bet after delivering so many of them you probably want nothing to do with children"
Ugh.
3 Clomid IUIs -- BFNs
IVF #1 never made it to transfer
On "egg health" cocktail DHEA/CoQ10/FRC/Pregnitude/Melatonin
Starting IVF #2 for Feb 2013
Follistim/Menopur/Ganirelix
Cancelled mid-cycle due to high P4 levels early on.
OCPs again for IVF 2.5 mid-March. IVF 2.5 transferred two "gorgeous" 5-day blasts and BFFN. Even REI is baffled
On indefinite hold until a huge stroke of serendipity led me to IVF 3 May 2014
Testing found positive cardiolipins/APS, now on lovenox and intralipid infusions
Transfer of 2 5-day blasts and (FINALLY) BFFP!! 1st ultrasound shows two sacs and two HB, but one is sluggish, almost expecting vanishing twin Subsequent ultrasound confirmed vanishing twin, but my other Little critter looks fantastic!
"You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it."
-- Margaret Thatcher
Definitely annoying...people at work keep asking what I'm waiting for and "it's time" ugh whatever people!