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November 2012 Moms
persephonerose
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Excuse me while...
persephonerose
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I lose my mind.
I have cried no less than three times today. I have ranted because the dog gets to eat more often than I do. I have said the F word in every sentence, especially when it comes to this so called EASY Method. I have yelled at myself for allowing self doubt to creep in after the pedi visit. I have guilt because I have self doubt. I have guilt because I feel like a terrible mother. I wonder if my son will ever sleep more than 3 hours at a time at night. I worry if I F'ed him up some how. I attempted to eat a whole bag of cookies while I drank a coke. I am so tired. I snapped at DH because he has no clue just how tired I am.
In summation. Screw you EASY Method, I am more tired now than I ever was just following D's cues. I will never EVER go back to using you no matter how many people recommend it. I will not try to stretch out D's feedings intervals, he obviously knows when he is hungry! I promise to try and not doubt myself or my son, because even though he wakes up to eat every three hours at night he is happy and healthy and growing on target.
No point to this other than to let it out. Thankfully, my mom is not coming for her visit. Or it would have resulted in shaken mother syndrome for sure.
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Re: Excuse me while...
Happy & healthy!!! Biggest, most important thing!!! It feels good to get it out! You can pound the letters on the keyboard as hard as you want!!! I don't even know what the EASY method is. Haha. Just follow your instincts because you are a great mom!
I've never heard of the EASY method, so I looked it up. Yikes. I don't blame you for quitting that crap. My LO seems naturally schedule-driven, and I can promise this wouldn't work on him!
Good luck going with the flow!
I was looking at the EASY method last weekend. But then I remember my baby is human and can tell me when she's hungry and when she's tired and I don't need to pressure her with what makes my life easy right now. What she needs is what is important, and I can follow her cues. There will be plenty of "listen to me, because I'm mom and I know best" in the future. Right now, I can listen to her cause she knows what she needs.
Do what makes you less crazy is my motto.
You are not a bad mom. I also don't follow ...
...anything, I guess.
Hmmm...the E-A-S-Y method. Which one is that again? Oh yeh, Everyone Always Schemes You.
Our generation is so quick to label everything our babies do: 4mo wakeful, anyone? We (society) have not always done this.
At our house: When Cu wakes up, sometimes he plays first, sometimes he eats first, sometimes he gets changed first. I think one of the main reasons I don't want to follow a routine is... what happens when we have to stray from it? What happens when someone may be with him who doesn't know? The only thing that is certain in our house is Cu goes to sleep sometime between 8:45pm and 9:30pm. Everything else is variable and free to change as he sees fit. Yes, I'm aware of when he needs to be asleep. But not in the, "He's eaten, and played, he needs to sleep" sort of way; it's in the, "He's been awake for a while now and I know he needs to sleep" sort of way.
Anyway, please don't be so hard on yourself. I feed on demand and I let Cu space them out again, as he saw fit. He still eats every 2 1/2 hours. And he's fine. I really don't understand why "they" want you to start spacing his feedings out. You want D to eat enough/get enough calories throughout the day so that he can space out his stretch of sleep at night. Stretching out his daily feedings will just make night time worse.
I forget if I left anything out that you mentioned...I'm gonna go back and re-read.
Vent whenever you need. PM me whenever you want. Give yourself, D, (and your H) a break and enjoy the cookies and coke! ((Hugs))
All of this. Perfect answer!
Also, I have no idea if you've already tried this, but I'll give my $.02 anyway.
Cu was also getting up a couple of times a night to eat a little over a month ago (like maybe 6-7 weeks ago). One day, I was just like, "No... I'm not doing nightly feedings anymore" (Obviously, I wasn't planning on starving my kid, I just knew they [the feedings] would never cease as long as I kept feeding him. So that night, when he woke up around 3am, I went in there and gave him his pacifier and shushed him back to sleep. I thought for sure I'd be back in there in less than 30 minutes. But I was pleasantly surprised when the next time he/I woke up was around 5am!
Sometimes our babies surprise us. Just try.
My original plan (before it worked as stated above) was to just try to push his feedings back. So if D normally wakes around 2am to eat, try to let him fuss (NOT cry)/ give him his pacifier until 2:15 (or however long you're comfortable with). And the next night, make it a little longer...then the next a little longer.
Also...if you've already tried this, then I'm an ass. I'm sorry.
We've started what Rachael said, giving the paci before the bottle in the MOTN, a few times she's slept for another 3 hours, a few times she's up again in 20 minutes.
No one knows what they are doing, we just learn to fake it really well, anyone who says otherwise is full of it.
Hang in there mama. Snuggle up and have a nap with your little love.hope you feel better soon!
I just want to thank everyone that replied. I finally got D down for a long nap, almost two hours, yay!
RE: Stretching out the feedings. It was supposed to help him go longer at night without eating. The theory was that by feeding him more often during the day I was teaching him to want to eat that often at night. And that if I tried to stretch out the day time feedings he would be less inclined to eat so often at night.
It did the opposite. His naps got shorter during the day to the point of not napping, and he started waking up every hour at night.
I really like our pedi, but I think he is wrong about the EASY Method. I dont think it works for us. And I need to remember to do what does work for D and not give in.
Yeh, this makes no sense to me. You need to fill him up throughout the day with calories so he can go longer at night. Just like us adults. We eat throughout the day... if we don't, we get hungry at night too.
I don't like this info at all. Your pedi gave it?
He said based on D's weight/age he should be able to go longer stretches at night and that we could try this to see if it helped. He said we would talk more about it in two weeks at his 4month check up if there was no change.
D has just started holding onto a paci, so I think we will try your suggestion Rachael of trying to soothe him at night with the paci. I know he can go longer, he has gone 5 hour stretches twice in the last month.
ETA: That was supposed to quote Rachael, but when I tried to shorten the quote it went wonky on me.
I'm optimistic. Keep us updated!
Glad you got him to sleep. Hang in there and keep following your instincts! Remember, no one knows your baby better than you do. If he's thriving, then you're doing it right. And I know EASY works for some, but when I read about it I laughed and then googled something else.