So we were calling potential Daycare centers yesterday to try and set up appointments for when we could come see the place. The ladies at one of the places we called mentioned how we should try not to hold the baby "too much" because then they get used to you and those babies are usually very fussy at the daycare and don't want anyone else holding them. Not sure what her definition of "too much" is, but this really pissed me off and I kinda want to cancel the appointment. DH thinks I'm overreacting. What do you ladies think?
Re: Red Flag?
I'm kinda of the belief that if a daycare provider sets you off in any way, before you've even met them, don't bother. It might be just me, but I would have a hard time "recovering" from a comment like that and giving them a fair shake.
when I was interviewing daycares, one of the centers we had an appt with canceled on us at the last minute. I was super frustrated and posted about it here, and everybody gave me kind of a hard time about it, saying that I should be glad that they were staying mindful of their childcare needs and not able to take a person away to give me a tour, etc . And that is really good advice, but for ME, the flip way she canceled and how last minute it was set me off and I knew that I wouldn't feel the same way about them.
Sure enough, when I went to finally meet with them, it took about 10 minuets for me to know that it wasn't the place for us.
So bottom line - trust your gut.
Run. Fast.
What a strange thing for someone to tell you- and I would definitely worry about the quality (and quantity, apparently) of care they'd provide.
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Um yeah huge red flag. Cancel that one.
Its amazing what some of these places say to parents. I went to one place and the lady was complaining to me about another parent that had given them such a hard time about everything. Totally turned me off.
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Yeah, run and don't look back. I can just imagine you putting your newborn down because, god forbid, he might get "used" to his MOTHER and therefore the daycare was worried he'd be more difficult FOR THEM.
So many things wrong with this I felt obligated to used both quotation marks and capitols.
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Yeahhhhhh no.
Don't even bother.
Having worked in daycares and at a church nursery, the main issue with this mentality is that we cannot give one-on-one care to each child at each moment throughout the day. If they do not know how to self-soothe, they will be fussier and/or cry quite often. My personal idea for our baby (FTM here) is that we will not be holding her ALL the time, but will also assist her in learning how to self-soothe. I don't work well with children that can't, anyway..I always blame the parents and get fustrated and upset with the child (RIDICULOUS I know). Enabling the child to learn how to self-soothe helps them in an environment in which they can't get personalized attention all the time. I understand not wanting others to push in on your ideas about how you'll raise your kid -- I am the same way! I just want to make sure that in the even that my child will attend a daycare, that she is ready for all that it entails for a smoother transition from SAH to daycare.
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This. I think her comment wasnt appropriate, but it is unrealistic for your baby to be packed all day when there are other kids that want attention and snuggling too.
A child I used to nanny for was like this.. I hate to use this term, but I broke her of that habit as fast as I could. She entered daycare at the same time I began to nany for her twice a week, and had problems transitioning, especially because mom was too afraid to try having her sleep on her own at naptime on the weekends. I think by month two she was good to go! Her father started putting her down for naps like I did, and a little bit later mom participates as well, and as far as I've heard things are good
Completely understandable and agreed. That's why I'm flumoxed as to why the provider mentioned that at all.