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Mommy Guilt.

JulyMomma2U2JulyMomma2U2 member
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Pity party for 1 please.

I had whined about this yesterday on working mom's board.. but, unbeknown to me, my nephew had been home sick at my parents all week with a fever and a terrible cough. 

Last night when we got home, DS was more fussy than normal, and he occasionally had a very wet sounding cough :(  Go figure.  He gave me a hard time going down to sleep last night, and tossed and turned a lot through the night.. when I got him up this morning, I knew he wasn't feeling well.. he just whined at me.. when normally he's happy and smiley.

I still came to work.  I hadn't brought my laptop home with me, so I couldn't work from home (and my drive is over an hour and 15 minutes each way, so I couldn't just go pick it up and come back), and DH had a very busy day and couldn't stay home either. 

Now, I feel terrible.  I feel like it's my fault that he's sick in the first place.. I should have realized my nephew was sick.. I should have either kept him home with us while my nephew was getting over his sickness, or requested that he be watched at our house.. Ugh.

Beating myself up.

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  • SonadoraSonadora member

    Kids get sick. It happens. It's going to happen a lot, either now or when your child starts school.

    He's in good hands with your parents I'm sure, and I would find peace of mind knowing there is someone that loves him taking care of him when he's sick.

    I would love to have relatives who could care for my kiddo when she's sick so that I wouldn't have to take off from work and could use my days off to do fun things with B instead.

     

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    If you didn't know, you didn't know. Don't beat yourself up over it. It sucks, but kids get sick. I hope he feels better soon!
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  • hopefulmom81hopefulmom81 member
    imageSonadora:

    Kids get sick. It happens. It's going to happen a lot, either now or when your child starts school.

    He's in good hands with your parents I'm sure, and I would find peace of mind knowing there is someone that loves him taking care of him when he's sick.

    I would love to have relatives who could care for my kiddo when she's sick so that I wouldn't have to take off from work and could use my days off to do fun things with B instead.

     

    This exactly.  It isn't your fault.  Even SAHM's kids get sick, know what I mean?  It is awesome that your parents can give LO extra attention today.

    If it makes you feel any better, DD has the same wet cough and a double ear infection and I dropped her off at her in-home daycare (5 kids).

    When you get home, just keep the humidifier on them and give lots of snuggles. 

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    imagehopefulmom81:
    imageSonadora:

    Kids get sick. It happens. It's going to happen a lot, either now or when your child starts school.

    He's in good hands with your parents I'm sure, and I would find peace of mind knowing there is someone that loves him taking care of him when he's sick.

    I would love to have relatives who could care for my kiddo when she's sick so that I wouldn't have to take off from work and could use my days off to do fun things with B instead.

     

    This exactly.  It isn't your fault.  Even SAHM's kids get sick, know what I mean?  It is awesome that your parents can give LO extra attention today.

    If it makes you feel any better, DD has the same wet cough and a double ear infection and I dropped her off at her in-home daycare (5 kids).

    When you get home, just keep the humidifier on them and give lots of snuggles. 

    This too. Landon catches all kinds of stuff at DC & I've taken him in when he has been recovering from ear infections & when he's been on allergy meds. Don't feel bad.

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  • OatoaOatoa member
    imagehopefulmom81:
    If it makes you feel any better, DD has the same wet cough and a double ear infection and I dropped her off at her in-home daycare (5 kids).

    When you get home, just keep the humidifier on them and give lots of snuggles. 

    I'll second this (or is it third).  I have SAHM friends that their kids are always sick.  It all depends on the kid.

    Also, dropped DD off today with a wet cough and snot dripping down her nose. 

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  • katigoxkatigox member
    imageSonadora:
    Kids get sick. It happens. It's going to happen a lot, either now or when your child starts school.

    He's in good hands with your parents I'm sure, and I would find peace of mind knowing there is someone that loves him taking care of him when he's sick.

    I would love to have relatives who could care for my kiddo when she's sick so that I wouldn't have to take off from work and could use my days off to do fun things with B instead.

    THIS.  You are doing the best you can.  He got sick.  And now you are taking care of him.  That's all you can do, and I bet he cares way more about you giving him extra snuggles during his recovery, than how he got sick in the first place ;) 

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    Aw, missbea! Agree with PP. Kids just get sick, and there's nothing we can do! *hugs* You're a great mama.
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