I saw this article on my FB feed and thought I would share. This little boy has been living a transgender lifestyle since age 4. What do you think of his parent's decision to allow him to do so? What would you do if he were your child?
I babysat for a little boy from infancy into toddlerhood. He wanted to be a girl. I don't know how else to explain that. His parents did not indulge this. He is now an adult, who has been out of the closet since early high school. He is secure in being male. I think some things, no matter how you parent, will happen. I do not support "locking in" these choices for children, as there are some pretty large social consequences. In the same way I don't punish for bedwetting, I would not punish for a childish acting out a different gender role. That does not mean I would buy my son dresses or let my 5 year old go to bed without a pull up.
I think parenting is doing the hard things - and sometimes those hard things are setting limits until a child is old enough to be physically and emotionally mature to handle the consequences of their choices. DD would be thrilled if she never wore a pullup again, but her body doesn't concetrate urine properly. It's a physical reality, and I tend to go with those.
I think at age 4 it isn't out of the ordinary for a child to want to be or pretend to be the opposite gender. The issue is that the parents went along with it. I think the child is more a product of the parents right now than actually wanting to be a girl.
This is just really out there for me...also, why would the parents want to drag their LO through the media like this? The child is six years old! Kids need to be directed, molded, etc...if you tell a boy he is a girl for two years, he will believe it. Maybe if they had just let the phase run out it would not be an issue. Maybe it wasn't a phase. Either way, shame on them for putting the child in the media spotlight like that.
I think it's ashame they would expose their child this way. I understand the need for acceptance, etc. But their job is to protect him and coming out in this manner isn't doing that. Wait till he's older and can handle the pressure that comes with this kind of decision. Although maybe they need support and this is sort of a cry for help. I don't know. Can't judge but it would break my heart if my son came to me and felt like a stranger in his own body. That's not something you can fix with a pill or a bandaid.
I do know of boys who dressed as girls or as feminine as they could get away with in school. They were just gay. I think some people have this innate sense that they are in the wrong body. I think it's great that these parents are allowing him to be who he chooses. It's not like he's had gender surgery or something dramatic he can always go back if a he when grows older.