TTC After a Loss
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Loss mentioned, not mine. Helping a friend.
samjen2010
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Today at work we had a temp come in that hasn't been here in a few months. Last time she was here, she told us she was expecting. I asked her today how she was doing with her pregnancy and she told me she had a loss at 20 weeks. My heart broke for her. I was able to share with her that I had a loss as well and we ended up having a really great conversation. She said she had dreaded coming here because my boss' wife is pregnant and their due dates were 2 weeks apart and she knew it would come up. No one else has asked her about it and we're here for one more hour. Part of me thinks I should warn my boss not to say anything to her but another part of me doesn't want to bring it up because it's not my business to share. I just don't want her to be in an awkward conversation with him as she is getting ready to leave if he asks her about it. Should I say anything to my boss or not? WWTTCAL do?
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Re: Loss mentioned, not mine. Helping a friend.
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If I were her, I wouldn't want anyone talking about me and what happened to me behind my back, regardless of the good intent there. I would want to handle it myself IF it came up. Which you would be doing something where you would be talking about her behind her back, albeit with good intent, before there's even a reason to. He might already realize the situation without you jumping in and saying anything.
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<dream 2> 12.2011
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"Bolded part right there....
If I were her, I wouldn't want anyone talking about me and what happened to me behind my back, regardless of the good intent there. I would want to handle it myself IF it came up. Which you would be doing something where you would be talking about her behind her back, albeit with good intent, before there's even a reason to. He might already realize the situation without you jumping in and saying anything."
You are right. If the situation was reversed I wouldn't want her to say anything.
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It's nice that your looking out for her but I don't think I would say anything. When I went back to work however I ask one of my close friends at work to tell everyone before I got back so that I wouldn't have to be asked and have to explain what happened so many times. I don't know how I would have felt if she would have went ahead and told everyone with out me asking.