Would you prefer for someone to judge you silently? Or for someone to actually say something to you about your parenting "style"?
I think I'd rather be judge siliently. Only because as much as I always have a smart comeback for people. It's usually not a very nice comeback and since my child is in my presence I choose not to have him see me in the light.
I swear my kid makes me soft, I don't even give people the bird anymore in the car just cause I'm Timmy's Mom and I need to make him proud!
Re: Which would you prefer?
Silent...silenty forsure.
I think it depends on the issue that they are judging. In most of my parenting choices I'm pretty confident, so if it's a matter of just having different styles I'm fine with defending myself or letting their comments roll off me. I'm also okay with not defending myself if I don't feel like I need to. I don't need to justify how I raise my kids to anyone except my husband, and I feel like he and I are on the same page.
If it's a safety issue, where someone sees something I am doing that could be dangerous or something, I want to know. I would hate to be unknowingly putting my kids at risk or something and have someone too afraid to look like they were judging me by bringing it to my attention. I prefer a call out/wake up call in a situation like this.
Yeah I would agree with you. One time I saw this Mama with her baby facing forward infront in an Ergo. And like other carriers the Ergo isn't built for that. It took me a good 20 minutes to build up the courage (she was sitting with the baby most of the time) and to figure out how to say it with out being judgy.
I think I said "I don't mean to judge or be critical cause I'm a new Mom too" about ten thousand times before I got my point across. She felt really silly and thanked me. But sometimes people get defensive I know I have and then later realized they were probably right (not about my child fortunately but other things).