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Struggling

Sky08Sky08
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Hi,

  I lost my third baby in December and I have just been struggling lately.  Maybe I am just overly sensitive, but I am still finding it hard to cope and deal with it.  I have heard and seen some of my friends on fb having babies and finding out that they are expecting.  It is just really hard for me.  My DH and I are not ttc anytime soon.  I am not emotionally or physically ready.  I keep thinking that it is ok and I glad for them for their great news, but deep down inside I wish that I can feel at peace.  I just wanted to share my feelings.   I guess it is ok to have my days of struggles. 

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Re: Struggling

  • Sky08Sky08
    Maybe I should do that.  I have been thinking about that, but fb is sometimes the only way to have communication with some of my family members due to our busy lives.  I am sorry for your loss. 
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  • SandSunBlissSandSunBliss member

    I struggle a lot with facebook. It is dificult because I have two pregnant cousins - They send me sweet messages and then I look at my newsfeed and they have a new sonogram picture or message about the progess of their pregnancy...It's so hard because we were all supposed to be pregnant together and have children close in age... not going to happen now.  One of them wasn't trying at all and the other has three other beautful children.  We don't have children and we really want them. I think I could handle seeing children and people talking and posting about their children if we another child - then maybe things wouldn't make me think of my lost twins, but of the surviving child...

    I also had a hard time because we lost our pregnancy at 16 weeks - we did the announcement on facebook at 14 weeks, so then I had to go back and do an update(because I was getting questions about when we would find the gender and that was difficult for me).  It was hard to see all the positive excited comments and then to go back and get all the sad ones.  When I posted the update, I didn't expect much of a response, but I had tons of supportive positive comments.  This was great, but also extremely overwhelming - made it hard to think of anything else when everytime I turned around someone was sending me a note about it.  It's only been two weeks, so we are still getting notes and cards sporatically - hopefully soon they won't all bring me to tears...

     I wish you peace as you grieve - if you need to take a break from facebook to heal, you should - you need to take care of you.  I will be thinking of you.

    married my best friend 10/04/08, TTC since July 2012
    BFP#1 Thanksgiving 11/22/12, mo-mo twins(one sac), traditional EDD 7/27/13, EDD due to risk 6/15/13
    mmc Angel 2/7/13 @ 15w3d, mmc Aubrey 2/13/13 @ 16w2d, D&E 2/16/13

    BFP#2 9/21/13, EDD 6/2/14, DD born 5/17/14 

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  • Jska40Jska40 member
    My husband and I announced on fb right away as well. We planned on only telling immediate family at first but were basically forced to share the news with more people so rather then starting an argument with our families we let everyone know. I completely regret it now. The thought of facing anyone who knew and getting the sympathy look or oh poor her whispers keeps me from going anywhere.
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