So I feel like I need to change my SN

martinimomma · February 2013

My SN is (obviously) my name and first initial of my maiden name. I work in a big city and try not to get too into personal details on TB...but let's face it, we all do to some extent. That's what being part of the community it about.

Today a younger co-worker shared that she just found out that her 8 week pregnancy is over, and she is waiting to miscarry. Having had a loss at 8 week, I totally know where she is coming from and what she is feeling. We had a good cry together and I tried to prepare her for what she might experience. I also directed her to the mc/pl board for support from women who know what she is going through right now, and for information.

After leaving her office, I had the most selfish thought -- what if she "finds" me on TB? If she clicks onto this board, and sees my siggy...it is pretty obvious that I'm me, if you know what I mean. And you can see that I post during the work day, which is kind of not great for co-workers to know.

One more reason to not like social media.

Has anyone experienced this before? Am I overreacting or being super self-centered if I try to change my SN? Thoughts?

melly918 · February 2013

You can email Bump Kathleen to change your SN. I considered changing mine because it was too much info about me but then I decided to remove my location.

Junebug060609 · February 2013

That's why my sn has nothing to do with my irl name and I've not included my sons name or picture. Granted someone could go by my anniversary date ::numbers in my sn::, ds birthday or my location ...but most don't have the time for that.

martinimomma · February 2013

Junebug060609:
That's why my sn has nothing to do with my irl name and I've not included my sons name or picture. Granted someone could go by my anniversary date ::numbers in my sn::, ds birthday or my location ...but most don't have the time for that.

Yeah, I always figured in a city of 2 million people there'd be enough "sandys" out there to not make a difference...and it is entirely possible there are others I know who are on TB as well, but this is the first time I *know* someone will be on the loss boards.

Wondering if Bump Kathleen can remove my location (I've tried before without success).

Mom2anAngel2 · February 2013

I had this exact situation and ended up making an entirely new SN. Now it has no reference to my name.

orangegoggles · February 2013

I always worry about that though my s/n doesn't really have anything to do with my name. I don't post pictures because I'm paranoid about that but I guess my loss history and DS birthday would give some info.

[Deleted User] · February 2013

::coming out of lurkdom::

BK is no longer around. If you want to change your SN they will do it if it contains personal/identifying info. You need to email community@thebump.com with the subject line "BUMP JACKIE", and include your top 5 choices for a new SN. Give it about a week, you can also page her on Chit Chat.

P.S: they can no longer change locations. It's one of the many bump things that are broken.

Signed, the Bumpie formerly known as MrsNorry

::going back to lurking::

martinimomma · February 2013

Betty&Co:
::coming out of lurkdom::

BK is no longer around. If you want to change your SN they will do it if it contains personal/identifying info. You need to email community@thebump.com with the subject line "BUMP JACKIE", and include your top 5 choices for a new SN. Give it about a week, you can also page her on Chit Chat.

P.S: they can no longer change locations. It's one of the many bump things that are broken.

Signed, the Bumpie formerly known as MrsNorry

::going back to lurking::

Thank you - super helpful!

Auki13 · February 2013

My SN would take a lot of knowledge about me to decipher, but I am still careful about what I post. I actually stumbled on the mom I used to nanny for and she was complaining about me and about how my kids would get her kids sick all the time. Let's just say, I wasn't thrilled and I did confront her about it (it did happen, but it worked both ways and I didn't appreciate her blaming my kids). Anyways, you will never know who will find you or who you will find on these boards.

VeilSdeGTO · February 2013

I've had the same SN for roughly 15+ years and use it for all kinds of things. I'm sure I'm pretty trackable if someone wanted to track me. I doubt I'm special enough for that though. Heh.

I doubt you two would cross paths but if your main concern is having your work find out you're bumping during business hours, then go ahead and create a new SN without the location as opposed to just changing your SN.

Just don't leave!

psumel13 · February 2013

I guess I never really thought about it! But other than the bumping from work which I too am guilty of it doesn't really bother me if someone knows who I am. But that's just me, not too much is a secret lol!

spincat9 · February 2013

I worry about this sometimes too because anyone that knows me would recognize my screen name. I do watch what I say on the board, but sometimes am concerned because we have been very private about our pregnancies and losses, telling only a handful of people about them. Plus I do share some things with you ladies that I wouldn't necessarily share without the anonymity. I think it's important to feel "safe" here (realizing of course that it is in fact a public forum). If TB can help you change you enough to be more anonymous maybe you will feel better about sharing this as a resource with others?

Ziegeficker · February 2013

I was just thinking the same thing. My SN contains my maiden name and is the same SN I use for just about everything (including my email address). When I get back on the job market, I really don't want my posts about hemorrhoids and vaginal discharge coming up in a Google search. Ugh...

damabo80 · February 2013

change. anonymity is key

and squeeeee!! 11w! you FH, you!

JulyMomma2U2 · February 2013

I so have thought about this, too! I didn't realize they could just "change" you, I thought I would have to make a completely new one, and my old posts would be lost! Good to know! Though Missbea has little to do with my actual name, it's the "code name" I use for everything.. including my email account, which makes it super obvious! I talk to a few coworkers all the time about things I read on the bump, and I always wonder if they went looking, I'm sure it'd be SO easy to "spot" me..

And, MrsNorry! Thanks for the info!! And, glad to "see" you around, still! I had no idea you changed your name, either

martinimomma · February 2013

damabo80:
change. anonymity is key
and squeeeee!! 11w! you FH, you!

LOL! Hardly a FH. My OB refers to the "surprise" BFP in your 40's as "Ovarian Twilight" (no sparkly vampires involved). Sort of like your ovaries' last hurrah at churning out eggs before the big menopause sleep, if you will. We will see. NT scan next week.

And I emailed Bump Jackie this morning, so hopefully there will be a new SN coming our way soon! I'll keep the profile pic for reference. Psychobunny and I have been together a long time.

MrsRiceARoni · February 2013

I've had this same concern recently. My SIL had her second m/c (I think the first was a cp) so I recommended the mc/pl board to her and as soon as I did I selfishly started regretting it.I think of the boards as my own little safe haven and the idea of my family knowing what I do/say on here kinda bothers me. Guess I need to start watching what I say when it comes to family related vents. *Sigh*

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