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toddler+nb twins/how tondea

pixiem38pixiem38 member
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My ds is 22 months and very busy. The twins are very fussy/needy (1 1/2 weeks adjusted now, 10. 1/2 w ctual). I don't want to.neglect ds, but to.avoid the constant screaming from.the newbies i.kind.of have to. He won't sit still.long enough for.me.to.read.to.him....i.don't know what to.do.to.not be neglect-o-mom.to him. I have been.wewring.one baby, but the other then.needs.to be carried (or.is.screaming). So basically these babies are.unhappy unless they are being fed.or held in.some.manner. period. That is actually how my dd was , but there was only.one.of her and no.other kids. I don't know what.to.do and. I don't like it.
Sorry.for.all the whining....this.is hard and i have not i.don't yet.
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  • Brummy14Brummy14 member
    I'm sorry... I can't even imagine juggling a third. DDs are also needy and will get hysterical if not attended to instantaneously. One will scream herself hoarse while I'm feeding the other. The other will get herself so worked up she literally holds her breath between sobs. This stage is. Just. Brutal. You're doing the best you can...just know you're not alone in the frustration, and you have another kiddo on top of it. Hang in there, mama!
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  • pixiem38pixiem38 member
    Brummy-ugh! I am glad to.know i.am.not alone, but so.sorry anyone has to deal.wjth it. It is miserable. I hear screaming babies in.my head even.if they are quiet. It is a very good thing they are cute!
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  • raraavis28raraavis28 member
    Ditto Brummy....I think our LOs are all at a similar adjusted age and we are also going through a fussy phase and it is soo not fun. It makes me wonder "where did my happy babies go?" And I can't even imagine also needing to take care of a toddler! Hang in there! My LOs actually slept 5 hours straight last night for the first time and we had one of our best days in a long time today so maybe, just maybe, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.....? I hope this phase passes quickly for all of us!
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  • kiwi443kiwi443 member

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    Brummy-ugh! I am glad to.know i.am.not alone, but so.sorry anyone has to deal.wjth it. It is miserable. I hear screaming babies in.my head even.if they are quiet. It is a very good thing they are cute!

    Oh, I remember those days of hearing crying even when it was quiet, sometimes even when I was away from my babies! It messes with your head.

    My DS was a bit older (28 months) when my girls were born, but it was a difficult transition for him and my twins were very fussy. I'm opposed to a lot of screen time, but he watched DVDs or did activities on the computer, played with playdough and other special things, particularly when I was feeding the babies. It wasn't easy, but I tried to attend to his needs before I started a feeding, so that he wouldn't be constantly interrupting.

    I don't know if you have any family or friends nearby, but one of the most helpful things for me during those first few months was when someone would take my 2 year old for a few hours or come over and play with him outside. It was good for him and helped to alleviate some of the guilt I felt about not being able to spend as much time with him.

    I know it feels like it'll never end, but I promise you that it will get better. 

    J - 9/6/09 L and A - 1/17/12
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