44 and pregnant!!

Re: 44 and pregnant!!

• Scramblersmom member

  February 2013

  I am not in a similar situation but I was curious as to what lecture you were expecting from the Dr? DH and I kept my pregnancy secret from our families until I was 3.5 months along and were comfortable knowing that everything was going well. That may be an option to consider if it would make you more comfortable. I wish you a very happy and healthy 9 mos!

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• anchiba member

  February 2013

  Congratulations! Wish you a happy and healthy 9 months!

  But as someone who also had a massive ovarian cyst (which kept growing and resulted in the ovary being surgically removed), I think you really need to go see the doctor a.s.a.p.! Risking a lecture is nothing compared to the health of your baby. You want to get everything checked right away to make sure everything's okay! Hopefully everything will be fine. But if not, like if you have an undiagnosed condition like a slow thyroid (which I have) or something similar, you want to get that treated right away. 

  Where I live, all the hospitals automatically classify any pregnant women 35 or over as Advanced Maternal Age. Nothing wrong with that -- it's just a label. I was classified as very high risk because I have some health issues, but despite that I had a pretty boring pregnancy. Given your age and the ovarian cyst, you may be classified High Risk too, but there's nothing wrong with that. Better to get the care you and your baby needs. I understand being nervous and scared, but I think you really have to put that aside and see the doctor.

  And I don't understand why any doctor would "lecture" you on being pregnant. I'd think a natural pregnancy at age 44 is something to be celebrated! You might want to wait till after the 12th week and ultrasound, etc., to announce. That's what we did. 
  

  

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• stever member

  February 2013

  Congrats! What's 'the lecture?'

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• KerryHS

  February 2013

  Big congratulations.  I wish you a healthy and smooth pregnancy.  I think you will find the Doctor pretty supportive.  I had only one slightly dismissive nurse throughout my pregnancy.  I had my last baby at 42 so I was a little younger than you are -- but not much :-). 

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• gimmietimmies member

  February 2013

  Big congrats!

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• BrideBuddies member

  February 2013

  Congrats!

  And I second (and third and fourth) the suggestion that you get in to see your doc ASAP.   A big benefit of being AMA (Advanced Maternal Age) is that they automatically consider you "high risk" so you get extra special treatment.  Extra ultrasounds, extra checkups, etc.

  I have fibroids so that complicated my pregnancy a little bit... I would think your doc will want to see the cyst and it's proximity to the baby, etc.

  And if he/she lectures you, walk right out the door and find a doc who specializes in AMA and high risk pregnancies.  My OB is awesome and loves that I had my first kid at 42... and we haven't ruled out #2, when I'd be 46.  She says if you have a healthy, natural conception late in life, it's totally possible to have another.   She recently had a first-time mom client at 46.

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• Kimlouise1968 member

  February 2013

  Thanks for taking the time to reply I feel so much better about things already. I have made an appointment to see the doctor tomorrow, so we will see. It's so nice to hear from other mums that have had babies later in life. I guess I felt a little by myself as I've not even told really close friends, I'm sure they will be over the moon for me but need to tell my nearest and dearest first but not until I'm a few more weeks on. I have to admit its hard hiding the bump now. Thanks for your advice xx

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• Lilbobo member

  February 2013

  Congratulations! I had my first baby at age 44, a welcome surprise. I was really nervous due to the risks associated with older parents but both my son and I are fine so far. My pregnancy was pretty much a breeze. I did take advantage of the testing available for advanced maternal age. 
  
  A coworker had a daughter at age 44 and both are doing great 10 years later.

  I'd love to hear from more moms who gave birth in their 40s.

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• KimberLeah10

  February 2013

  44 really hoping that I am ! Can't even test until this coming Friday. I had my little girl at 38 was considered 'high risk' my little man at 41 again considers high risk. I refused all tests, besides that 'super ultrasound' that they did around 1620weeks. They are not my first babies. Seeing other women my age lucky enough to get a bump, makes me feel better :
  Best of luck to you!

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• Kimlouise1968 member

  February 2013

  Finally got to the doctors who confirmed I'm pregnant and were totally supportive. Had my first midwife appointment and she was brilliant, she was a little shock as well that I had managed to get pregnant but very kind and supportive. I have another midwife appointment Friday where I can listen to the baby's heartbeat, so a little anxious! I still haven't told anyone yet and probably won't until I can't hide it any more. I think of it now as an absolute miracle and this was meant to be, so NEVER give up hope. I'm nearly 12 weeks now.

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