Friend's baby shower...

loweco1 · February 2013

One of my very dear friends lives about 3 hours away, and her original shower was scheduled for mid-April. Was on my calendar and I was all set to be there. I find out yesterday that her mom and bff had to move the shower to late March. I already have a flight booked to see my family for that weekend. Technically the ticket is refundable, but there are no other dates in the near future that I have a 3-day weekend at work, as well as happen to have a ride to and from the airport (also 3 hours away). Am I a terrible friend if I stick with my plan to visit my family?? Really torn on this one.

loweco1 · February 2013

Thank you ladies. I like this advice. I am in complete agreement that it is not all that big of a deal...but I am not as sentimental as many others... So it's nice to hear from others that I'm not being a terrible friend.

526SadieSadie · February 2013

You're not at all a terrible friend. It's really sweet that she's important enough to you that you'd even consider missing out on a three day visit with your family for a couple of hours with her. I'm sure she'll understand.

EastCoastBride · February 2013

MelRC117:
No. A shower really isn't THAT big of deal...people are making them out to be like weddings, which they are not. I say stick with your plans. If you feel bad meet your friend for lunch or dinner another time.

Yup. This.

And honestly - while my shower was fun, I was more excited for people to meet my son AFTER he was born!

A shower really is just a gift giving event. The baby isn't even there yet, and the BABY is the important part of the equation!