Tense at night waiting to see when DS will wake?

Jimsgirl5821 · February 2013

DS used to be a great night sleeper but recently has developed some issues. I find myself being tense in the evening constantly glancing at monitor to see if he will start fussing when I should be relaxing with DH on the couch. At night In bed I feel anxious hoping he will sleep a longer stretch. I can't relax. I get so nervous if poor DH dares walk past DS bedroom door to use the bathroom. I stress DS will cry and wake our 3 y/o or occasionally she will wake and i worry she will wake DS. Anyone else get tense/anxious like this? How can I relax and just realize if he wakes, he wakes?

tortuga47 · February 2013

Have you thought about a white noise machine? I got one and that alleviates my stress of noise waking DS. I don't have any other suggestions to make you less tense other than, when I start feeling that way, I just remind myself, I've no control over when he wakes and to relax. I find when I just go with the flow, I sleep better myself and enjoy what time I do have to get stuff done. Good luck!

Jimsgirl5821 · February 2013

Thanks. He does have a white noise machine, I am just still nuts LOL.

gingerfamily · February 2013

Are you anxious all the time about this? If so, I would actually talk to my dr. It could be PPA.

pumpkinhead4 · February 2013

It's normal to feel somewhat anxious about it as it's so unpredictable at this age, right? Part of it is that you feel out of control. What I suggest is keeping a little journal of his sleeping/waking each night. After a week I bet you will see a pattern and he might become more predictable. Another idea is to say to yourself, if he's been fed within 2 hrs of waking that you might want to let him cry a bit to settle himself. Maybe get your daughter a white noise machine to if you are afraid he will wake her but in my experience children don't wake each other, I have no idea why! Do they share a room? Hang in there, it will get better. If you feel like your anxiety is really out of hand try some relaxation exercises or seek some help.

Jimsgirl5821 · February 2013

gingerfamily:
Are you anxious all the time about this? If so, I would actually talk to my dr. It could be PPA.

no just the past couple weeks his sleep went down the toilet. I always got stressed over DDs sleep, too. I am just afraid I won't know what to do to fix sleep issues. I don't think about it all day or anything, just nighttime.

Jimsgirl5821 · February 2013

pumpkinhead4:
It's normal to feel somewhat anxious about it as it's so unpredictable at this age, right? Part of it is that you feel out of control. What I suggest is keeping a little journal of his sleeping/waking each night. After a week I bet you will see a pattern and he might become more predictable. Another idea is to say to yourself, if he's been fed within 2 hrs of waking that you might want to let him cry a bit to settle himself. Maybe get your daughter a white noise machine to if you are afraid he will wake her but in my experience children don't wake each other, I have no idea why! Do they share a room? Hang in there, it will get better. If you feel like your anxiety is really out of hand try some relaxation exercises or seek some help.

they don't share a room , but their rooms are right next to each other. I had an issue a couple weeks ago where she would hear him and wake and then decide to get out of bed and throw a tantrum to go downstairs and play. I would get him asleep and her tantrum would wake him. This happened about a week straight, the tandem kid waking, and I was getting about 2 hours sleep. I am so worried that will happen again. His waking at night never bothered her before, I have no dea why it became an issue recently.

Andrea2297 · February 2013

Girl i am the same way!....My little guy sleeps all night but i just anticpate him waking up if he moves or anything i go flying in there to amke sure he doesnt wake completely. its like being on edge..i dont sleep completely...i also have this anxiety that the baby is missing or he is lost somewere when the hole time he is in his crib sleeping away. my guy is 6 months old...i take benadryl usually 5 nights a week to help me sleep.

Jimsgirl5821 · February 2013

Andrea2297:
Girl i am the same way!....My little guy sleeps all night but i just anticpate him waking up if he moves or anything i go flying in there to amke sure he doesnt wake completely. its like being on edge..i dont sleep completely...i also have this anxiety that the baby is missing or he is lost somewere when the hole time he is in his crib sleeping away. my guy is 6 months old...i take benadryl usually 5 nights a week to help me sleep.

oh wow, I hope it gets better for you soon!

mlwoo103 · February 2013

I could have written this post : I find that writing down my girls schedule really helps me recognize a pattern and then I'm not quite as anxious.

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