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I feel like I am breaking etiquette

BerBusBerBus
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My DH and I live about 2000 miles away from our family thanks to the Navy.  He's got some leave time and I had a bunch of time off, so we decided to go back home in Feb for a wedding and my family is throwing me a shower while we are there. I said, "hey we are coming home, and I got okay, we are having a shower for you this date!" I'm only going to be about 24 weeks for the shower.

 

I do not want to offend people by having a shower so early, but I really didn't have anything to do with choosing to have a shower.  We aren't rich by any means, but we aren't in a place where we can't afford it either. 

I have no idea when I will get back to visit them either. Oh, man I feel so conflicted! Thanks for letting me vent, and whine to you!

 

 

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Re: I feel like I am breaking etiquette

  • hopefulmomhopefulmom member
    I don't see a problem with it.  That is when you will be "home".  I'm sure people (guests) will understand and be happy they got to see you.
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  • RoxyLynnRoxyLynn member

    It's so nice to hear of someone being concerned about etiquette!

    However, I don't think you have anything at all to worry about.  Anyone close enough to be invited will already know and understand your travel situation.  As a guest, my only thought would be "oh good, I'm glad she's able to get back here for a shower."

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    I dont' see what is offensive about having a shower at 24 weeks.
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  • Erin Mary AckermanErin Mary Ackerman member

    Oh my stars there is no breach of etiquette here, my dear!  While 24 weeks is a bit early, there is not etiquette to the shower timing, only custom.

    You'll feel great in that second tri so enjoy!

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  • lzybeanielzybeanie member
    I think you're fine...there are plenty of reasons to have an early shower, and certainly your situation qualifies!
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  • Wan-naBeWan-naBe member
    nope, i sure don't see a problem with this. ?have fun!
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  • Sonya FlanaganSonya Flanagan member
    I don't think you should worry about etiquette in this situation.  It's not like you're being greedy and demanding they throw you one and you have another one where you live.  You're family and friends are going to be thrilled you're going to be home and everyone loves to buy baby gifts!  If you choose to have another shower when you get closer to delivery or just when you're back home, it's a great chance to gather up your last minute items or something else that wasn't purchased earlier!
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  • peachypearpeachypear
    No problem! We did the same for a cousin at Thanksgiving, because it was the only opportunity for everyone to be together. Don't sweat it.
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  • 3PupsAndABaby3PupsAndABaby
    i don't see that as breaking etiquette. the only thing that's bad etiquette is not sending thank you notes and being a baby and demanding presents. the rest is all gravy i think
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  • DNK777DNK777 member
    I don't see a problem with it.  My friends are throwing a small shower for me in a couple of weeks, because many of them live out of town for college and can't make a second trip, so they are doing it during the winter break.  Plus the host is moving to Scotland in January for a studies program.
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  • KYPKYP member
    Nothing wrong with that at all, Enjoy it!
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